So Let's Talk About Sex....

[chainer1216]

casual sex is fun, making love is AWESOME!

two different things in my opinion, anyway, i feel that if you know someone wants to do the nasty, and you want to as well, then go for it, but in my experience the kind of sex you have with someone you connect with on a different level, is way better anyway.

"open relationships" are a terrible idea, its basically saying "your not good enough to please me" to your partner, unless by "open relationship" you mean fuckbuddies, then it wouldn't really matter.

 

[2fish]

[Snippity snip snip]

I am afraid I must disagree with you. There are many reasons to turn it down. My main reason is that the girls that have been available in my life set off many red flags. Primarily the she is emotionaly unstable or she is clingy, ect alarms. That's a damn good reason to say no. I will wait for a sane and clean girl. I will grant you than some of the females may have been drunk, but when the alarms go off I cut them out of the picture no matter what.

I back drisky after all I also don't make a big thing of sex. Sex is just a physical act, not an elite club.

I like the "elite club" ending you put on it.
It is in no way just a physical act or an elite club. It is two humans ensuring the reproduction of our species, and it feels pretty damn awesome.
It's not just a physical act it is also mental. In your mind subconsciously you are reproducing no matter how much self control you have or whatever this girl has been marked as someone that could have a child with you (subconsciously).

I say that you should have more sex just for the reason of being good for the one you might end up loving. When I was a virgin I did look at it like it was something to not give away so easily. But once I had sex I instantly regretted not going for all those other chances before hand. Which is why I say do it when your sure its safe. (btw Ive been drinking so this post might be a bit confusing.)

I agree that there is a mental aspect to it as well, I knew a guy that had to jack off or have sex two or three times a day . I just think it is about looking at the costs and benifits. As these will change person to person we cannot really have a true argument over this. (Also I am not sure that we are arguing as much as agreeing in an argumentative way)

Also since you had the audacity you challenge my thoughts on the internet I now must insult you in such a way that the mods will never know, but I will get my revenge. Ah crap I am too tired to think much longer. Please insult yourself on my behalf and then report yourself to the mods for a personal insult?

 

[Lineoutt]

Sex to me is... well... a bit overrated. Perhaps because I haven't found that person yet. So far, its been very... eh... I mean, it felt good, but it was nothing to write home about (not that I would write home to my family about that I've had sex).

"Hey grandma, today I lost my virginity and it was awesome ) I bet it was awesome for you when you did. I'm so happy now. I just lost it about 5 minutes ago and I'm so excited!

- Kisses" Yeah sorry thats just what came into my head when you said that :S

EDIT: Yeaah, well I guess I'm a believer in the "find the right person" thing so that will most likely be how it goes down.

 

[blankedboy]

I like sex!

I don't like having sex with a girl who has had a lot of partners though. That's yucky and makes it not special. It's supposed to be special. If you're gonna do it, do it with someone you care about, not someone you just met and are lusting after.

It can be a whooooole lot of fun if done correctly and safely

No sex is ever special, nor is anyone's romance. It'll always seem like that, but it's not.

I'm a 14-year-old virgin. How expectable.

 

[superbatranger]

Hmm, it seems you and I have almost the same views on sex, Julian. I can see why some people would like to have casual sex. But, I just don't see it happening for me. At all. The thought of fucking someone then leaving before they wake up doesn't sit right with me. Now, I wouldn't judge anyone who does, because everyone has their own preferences when it comes to sex.

Then we got things like friends with benefits. For one thing, I have no idea how one goes about figuring out which one of their friends could be of that nature. Also, I have this fear that if I were to get in a "friends with benefits" scenario, it would result in the friendship being ruined. For me, a friendship ruined because of something like sex isn't right. But, that's just my opinion.

In the end, I want to have sex with someone I love, someone I care about. Which is why I'm still a virgin at 19, and will probably still be a virgin when I turn 20.

 

[Lineoutt]

I've been raised in a culture where sex is sacred and a very intimate thing. Then I hear of people eager to lose their virginity as soon as possible? Some even at the age of fourteen? Are people really that desperate for fornication?

Ok ill bite, what culture is this?

I also agree with you.

 

[Julianking93]

Hmm, it seems you and I have almost the same views on sex, Julian. I can see why some people would like to have casual sex. But, I just don't see it happening for me. At all. The thought of fucking someone then leaving before they wake up doesn't sit right with me. Now, I wouldn't judge anyone who does, because everyone has their own preferences when it comes to sex.

Then we got things like friends with benefits. For one thing, I have no idea how one goes about figuring out which one of their friends could be of that nature. Also, I have this fear that if I were to get in a "friends with benefits" scenario, it would result in the friendship being ruined. For me, a friendship ruined because of something like sex isn't right. But, that's just my opinion.

In the end, I want to have sex with someone I love, someone I care about. Which is why I'm still a virgin at 19, and will probably still be a virgin when I turn 20.

I'm honestly surprised at how many people share my thoughts and views on sex here......but I'm even more surprised at how many people actually agree with, support or are in an open relationship or do have casual sex.

It's just something that doesn't sit right with me, like you said. It makes me feel....icky. And to think about other people doing it makes me feel even more icky. I guess I could be called the jealous type, but while I want my partner happy, I want to be the one to make her happy.

 

[Angryman101]

Being in an open, polyamorous relationship, I'm totally cool with them, provided that communication is open and paramount in the relationship, and all parties are responsible about their sexual activiites. Mind you, none of the people involved in my situation are randomly sleeping around.

On the other hand, I'm technically the 'slut', in my situation; at last count, I'd slept with more than 4 times more partners than anyone else involved, and being that I'm straight, that cuts the prospective pool in half, immediately.

I find the content of this post to be ironic considering your choice of avatar.

Note that I'm in no way saying my way of thinking is better, it just works best for me. I personally don't see the point in going around fucking everyone you possibly can when you have your hands to give you the same satisfaction. For example, I know a girl who is 19 and has had sex with 29 men. And she lost her virginity at 17...And she's not the worst I know. Some are in the triple digits and they're not even 30. Some friends I know have friends at that age (19) who are in the hundreds. Personally, I don't see the point of that. Thinking about things like that makes me very uncomfortable and I know that's just me but I can't be the only one.

Jesus fucking Christcakes. 30 men? And in the hundreds? Are they prostitutes?
I'm considered to be a manslut and I've barely broken 12 sexual partners since I lost my virginity at the same age (currently 19)
There's nothing wrong with consensual casual sex, and there's nothing wrong with intimate, romantic sex. It's been so long since my last real relationship that I don't really remember if it was 'lovemaking,' per se, so I'm not sure if I have experience with it, but I think I would much prefer it to the emptiness I feel after sleeping with random girl number x right now. I really would love a romantic partner, but as I'm extremely picky and a bit of a pussy emotionally I have yet to really connect with another girl. Casual sex ran out of steam around the fourth or fifth instance; I mean, I'm not going to turn it down, sex feels awesome, but the lack of real connection just makes it...of inferior quality, let's say.

 

[thom_cat_]

I'm 18 and a virgin, I've got a medical issue I have to sort out (this Friday) and even then I would rather wait for someone I can truly relate to and get the full feeling that I'm pleasing someone I actually like and enjoy to be around.
(atheist if anyone cares)

 

[Lineoutt]

I like sex!

I don't like having sex with a girl who has had a lot of partners though. That's yucky and makes it not special. It's supposed to be special. If you're gonna do it, do it with someone you care about, not someone you just met and are lusting after.

It can be a whooooole lot of fun if done correctly and safely

No sex is ever special, nor is anyone's romance. It'll always seem like that, but it's not.

I'm a 14-year-old virgin. How expectable.

Wow, you are one depressing person. If you look at life like that life will suck until you die. Think about it, you only live once (even if you are reincarnated you still are on a different phase), just because other people do something doesnt make the time you do it any less important or special. Think big, act small. I don't mean to be too preachy here but jeeze...

 

[superbatranger]

Hmm, it seems you and I have almost the same views on sex, Julian. I can see why some people would like to have casual sex. But, I just don't see it happening for me. At all. The thought of fucking someone then leaving before they wake up doesn't sit right with me. Now, I wouldn't judge anyone who does, because everyone has their own preferences when it comes to sex.

Then we got things like friends with benefits. For one thing, I have no idea how one goes about figuring out which one of their friends could be of that nature. Also, I have this fear that if I were to get in a "friends with benefits" scenario, it would result in the friendship being ruined. For me, a friendship ruined because of something like sex isn't right. But, that's just my opinion.

In the end, I want to have sex with someone I love, someone I care about. Which is why I'm still a virgin at 19, and will probably still be a virgin when I turn 20.

I'm honestly surprised at how many people share my thoughts and views on sex here......but I'm even more surprised at how many people actually agree with, support or are in an open relationship or do have casual sex.

It's just something that doesn't sit right with me, like you said. It makes me feel....icky. And to think about other people doing it makes me feel even more icky. I guess I could be called the jealous type, but while I want my partner happy, I want to be the one to make her happy.

I don't find it icky. I just find it would probably cheapen sex as a whole if you spend half the time jumping into bed with whomever(an exaggeration, but I'm sure you get the point). I certainly don't want the first time I have sex with someone I love be cheapened by a slew of casual hookups.

 

[Lissa-QUON]

Enh, to each their own. If you want the physical pleasure and no emotional attachment, go for it. Just make sure that all parties involved regard it as casually as you do. There is a point when it becomes unhealthy. When you start using your experiences as a personal measuring stick of self worth than it starts becoming a problem.

I think that's the main problem with teens having sex, teens have sex for the wrong reasons. Plus at least in America we do a little dance around sex, its awesome, it's what adults do, we make it a status symbol,we use it to sell everything from soap to cars. But we mustn't talk about it, must'nt educate and above all children you mustn't do it. So you get a group of kids making uninformed decisions thinking that cause they do it standing up, or douched with coke they can't get pregnant or that BJs can't give you diseases.

I also as a female (virgin so I'm not defending myself here) find the double standard of "guy who sleeps with a lot of women is awesome" while "girl who does the exact same thing is a horrible dirty person" disgusting and stupid.

I also believe that folks have always been this way. There probably always has been a spectrum of sexual habits. I have done too much research to buy that "the good old days" bullshit. People are people and will do what they like and there's not much I can say or do to change that.

I would personally prefer it to be a personal emotional experience with someone I'm in a decent relationship with. Though there are points when I start thinking I'll take whatever I can get.

 

[Julianking93]

Hmm, it seems you and I have almost the same views on sex, Julian. I can see why some people would like to have casual sex. But, I just don't see it happening for me. At all. The thought of fucking someone then leaving before they wake up doesn't sit right with me. Now, I wouldn't judge anyone who does, because everyone has their own preferences when it comes to sex.

Then we got things like friends with benefits. For one thing, I have no idea how one goes about figuring out which one of their friends could be of that nature. Also, I have this fear that if I were to get in a "friends with benefits" scenario, it would result in the friendship being ruined. For me, a friendship ruined because of something like sex isn't right. But, that's just my opinion.

In the end, I want to have sex with someone I love, someone I care about. Which is why I'm still a virgin at 19, and will probably still be a virgin when I turn 20.

I'm honestly surprised at how many people share my thoughts and views on sex here......but I'm even more surprised at how many people actually agree with, support or are in an open relationship or do have casual sex.

It's just something that doesn't sit right with me, like you said. It makes me feel....icky. And to think about other people doing it makes me feel even more icky. I guess I could be called the jealous type, but while I want my partner happy, I want to be the one to make her happy.

I don't find it icky. I just find it would probably cheapen sex as a whole if you spend half the time jumping into bed with whomever(an exaggeration, but I'm sure you get the point). I certainly don't want the first time I have sex with someone I love be cheapened by a slew of casual hookups.

True. I'm sure after a while, one might become a bit desensitized to it and it loses it's meaning.

 

[Pegghead]

I'm more in favour of sex actually meaning something rather than just sleeping around, I mean if it makes you happy then don't let anyone stop you but I tend to focus more on the love part of making love.

And I'm part of the no sex before marriage belief...just putting that out there.

 

[blankedboy]

I like sex!

I don't like having sex with a girl who has had a lot of partners though. That's yucky and makes it not special. It's supposed to be special. If you're gonna do it, do it with someone you care about, not someone you just met and are lusting after.

It can be a whooooole lot of fun if done correctly and safely

No sex is ever special, nor is anyone's romance. It'll always seem like that, but it's not.

I'm a 14-year-old virgin. How expectable.

Wow, you are one depressing person. If you look at life like that life will suck until you die. Think about it, you only live once (even if you are reincarnated you still are on a different phase), just because other people do something doesnt make the time you do it any less important or special. Think big, act small. I don't mean to be too preachy here but jeeze...

Important, yes, special, no.
Maybe you're misinterpreting the way I use the word 'special'.

 

[Bourne Endeavor]

I have had remarkably little interest in sex growing up. Frankly I was apathetic to the entirely of the dating scene in spite of possessing a large degree of romantic attributes, in the sense what I fancy is appealing. Suppose hopeless romantic fits to some extent. Nonetheless, while not oppose to casual sex, I am unlikely to participate in it. I would rather have someone I care for than engage in constant random sex. Granted, I cannot predict the future and perhaps ten years from now when I have had enough, I will have a different mindset.

For now, happy to wait. Maybe I will be that one in a million that finds the right person on the very first try. Now that would be nice, XD

 

[SimuLord]

Enh, to each their own. If you want the physical pleasure and no emotional attachment, go for it. Just make sure that all parties involved regard it as casually as you do. There is a point when it becomes unhealthy. When you start using your experiences as a personal measuring stick of self worth than it starts becoming a problem.

I think that's the main problem with teens having sex, teens have sex for the wrong reasons. Plus at least in America we do a little dance around sex, its awesome, it's what adults do, we make it a status symbol,we use it to sell everything from soap to cars. But we mustn't talk about it, must'nt educate and above all children you mustn't do it. So you get a group of kids making uninformed decisions thinking that cause they do it standing up, or douched with coke they can't get pregnant or that BJs can't give you diseases.

I also as a female (virgin so I'm not defending myself here) find the double standard of "guy who sleeps with a lot of women is awesome" while "girl who does the exact same thing is a horrible dirty person." It is a stupid double standard.

I also believe that folks have always been this way. There probably always has been a spectrum of sexual habits. I have done too much research to buy that "the good old days" bullshit. People are people and will do what they like and there's not much I can say or do to change that.

I would personally prefer it to be a personal emotional experience with someone I'm in a decent relationship with. Though there are points when I start thinking I'll take whatever I can get.

In the words of Bachman Turner Overdrive, "I think that any love is good love, so I took what I could get, yes I took what I could get and then she looked at me with those big brown eyes and said...

You ain't seen nothin' yet."

Holding out for a meaningful relationship is admirable, especially for a first-time caller to the program (so to speak), but at some point you just gotta get over the hump...and hump.

 

[Legend of J]

With me i like to have just one partner and do it aload of times instead of just one night stands. However since im always busy not doing much guess its more a case of it dosen't work that well...oh well XD.

 

[Durgiun]

Meh, to each their own. Just carry a condom and a pill, no matter what if you're gonna be fuckin' 'round. And stop by my place, please.

 

[aLivingPheonix]

I... Guess I have the same views as you. I don't really see the point of boinking people you don't have any real feelings for. I'm personally against screwing around, especially with people who you don't know.

Then again, that's just me.