It's a subject that hits close to home-- married for a couple of decades (married right out of college), no kids. To a certain extent, my wife's health precluded them, but honestly we just didn't want them. Not out of some hatred of children, for crying aloud, yet we'd get that "Don't you like children?" My wife taught flute to hundreds of kids over the years, kept in contact with them as they went off to college, was a terrific aunt to our nieces who facebooked her all the time with questions they didn't want to ask Mom about, etc. She worked for a non-profit that (among other things) provided free music concerts to the local schools. And she volunteered at animal shelters.
And yet, we'd still get the "Until you have children, your life isn't complete" B.S. Look, we always felt that the default state should be to NOT have kids. It's a HUGE commitment, and yet I've seen so many couples dive into it with less thought than they'd put into getting a dog (which is a huge commitment, too-- but microscopic next to children). Unless you absolutely positively want to have kids and are willing to basically put everything in your life on hold for a few years (the first few are all consuming), imho you should wait until you can shoulder those requirements.
The human race isn't in danger of dying out. When it comes to children, the only thing selfish is having them without putting them first. And if you have kids out of a sense of social obligation (or parental pressure...oh, boy.), that's exactly what you're doing.
And yet, we'd still get the "Until you have children, your life isn't complete" B.S. Look, we always felt that the default state should be to NOT have kids. It's a HUGE commitment, and yet I've seen so many couples dive into it with less thought than they'd put into getting a dog (which is a huge commitment, too-- but microscopic next to children). Unless you absolutely positively want to have kids and are willing to basically put everything in your life on hold for a few years (the first few are all consuming), imho you should wait until you can shoulder those requirements.
The human race isn't in danger of dying out. When it comes to children, the only thing selfish is having them without putting them first. And if you have kids out of a sense of social obligation (or parental pressure...oh, boy.), that's exactly what you're doing.