If I was to take offense to any such remark all I would do my whole life is feeling offended. I'd rather just ignore most of it.creager91 said:Lol at least your a good sport about it a lot of people would easily take offense
If I was to take offense to any such remark all I would do my whole life is feeling offended. I'd rather just ignore most of it.creager91 said:Lol at least your a good sport about it a lot of people would easily take offense
You know, just because we know how and why something happens, does not make it bad.creager91 said:Thus reinforcing my belief that love is merely cognitive dissonanceDragunai said:Snip
Exactly. Isnt the world a wonderful place thanks to science!creager91 said:Thus reinforcing my belief that love is merely cognitive dissonanceDragunai said:snip.
I think the difference is life goals. Yes you have best friends and such but a time will come when you guys might have to separate for work or whatever (not because of choice). A girlfriend or boyfriend has goals that are similar to yours and you work together to achieve them. Honestly, I'm not exactly sure what the difference between a really best friend and an actual spouse is... maybe it is just one of those things you know when you know and you can't describe it to someone who hasn't experienced.creager91 said:You literally described my relationship with my best friend who happens to be a girl. And before I was her best friend I thought she was really attractive and other guys do too. But we dont share Core values and ideals. We talk a shit tom about how pissed we would be if we were to ever actually date and I dont see her the same way I did before we were friends. Back then I thought she was really attractive and I wanted to get to know her. She was hooking up with my roommate/friend so I spent a shit ton of time with her and now I see her as more of a sister than anything. so how can you not have that happen? like how can people not have that loss of attraction to someone they claim is "their best friend"Kaytastrophe said:Dude, a healthy relationship is the best thing in the world. It is awesome to know there is someone out there who cares about you, likes you for who you are, and is willing to do anything to help you. They are a constant support, they make you happy. They usually aren't meant to be stressful or anything... yes they can be at times but name me one thing worthwhile that isn't. Honestly, when your with the right person and have a healthy relationship its the best, its like living with your best friend only better.
The way I see it is people in relationship shut their friends out and their partner becomes their only and therefore best friend because they unknowingly shut everyone else out, sure they might stil have friends but they arent on the same level anymore
I have a great relationship right now, for the past 6 years. She's very nice to me, and knows how to make me feel better. She is fun to just chat with EVEN NOW, and just sitting next to her on a sofa makes my day better. I like that I can do things for her, and make her happy, and I like that she doesn't want what I can't give to her. I like that she's the only person I've met who I cannot lie to, and the reason I can't lie to her makes me realize something about myself.creager91 said:Hello fellow escapists. I was wondering what you guys could tell me about relationships and why they are so appealing to you or unappealing. As for myself I have become somewhat of a cynic in the past few years and I feel that relationships are just reasons to induce stress, worry, and jealousy also a colossal waste of money. Now granted I have been asked if I was a...pick up artist I think the term was?
Anywho the point is that I'll admit, ever since my ex left me I kind of became a bit of a player and thus a cynic but enough about me what do you guys think? and also if you feel the need to persuade me otherwise I do try to keep an open mind so fire away
Its weird honestly, im the same way, (maybe to a lesser degree due to my age) but I honestly barely find reasons to be in committed relationships, mostly its just pick up a girl, or guy, have some fun in some form then just drop them and move on, no stress. But everyonce and then you run into someone who REALLY grabs your interest, someone you feel comfortable around 100% and genuinely have feelings for. I dont mean love, god no im to young to understand that clusterfuck but something...more then physical attractioncreager91 said:Hello fellow escapists. I was wondering what you guys could tell me about relationships and why they are so appealing to you or unappealing. As for myself I have become somewhat of a cynic in the past few years and I feel that relationships are just reasons to induce stress, worry, and jealousy also a colossal waste of money. Now granted I have been asked if I was a...pick up artist I think the term was?
Anywho the point is that I'll admit, ever since my ex left me I kind of became a bit of a player and thus a cynic but enough about me what do you guys think? and also if you feel the need to persuade me otherwise I do try to keep an open mind so fire away
Uhh sucks for you? It is the exact opposite for me, my other half is a de-stress, we trust each other so no worry or jealousy, and we split food and video games. It's the best thing ever.creager91 said:I feel that relationships are just reasons to induce stress, worry, and jealousy also a colossal waste of money.
Ok im just going to say to everyone in general that the girls I tend to be attracted to aren't what youd call gamers, sure they may play mariokart/party or def jam rapstar or other party games but they arent ones to play real games. I honesty don't think I could ever date a gamer anywayNova Helix said:Uhh sucks for you? It is the exact opposite for me, my other half is a de-stress, we trust each other so no worry or jealousy, and we split food and video games. It's the best thing ever.creager91 said:I feel that relationships are just reasons to induce stress, worry, and jealousy also a colossal waste of money.
I gotta respect that attitude. While there's no way in hell I could live like that, if you can avoid the mess and complications of sex and relationships, go for it. You're lucky that you can. And good for you for refusing to let society or anyone tell you that's "wrong" or "weird."Gildan Bladeborn said:I'm both single and celibate, with no plans or desire to change those aspects of my life, so it's pretty safe to say that for me the appeal of a relationship is pretty much nil - I like my life just fine without needlessly complicating it by pursuing emotional connections for no other reason than that it's somewhat expected that I should be doing that. For me being alone forever isn't some ominous fate I feel I have to avoid at all costs, I don't define myself through other people such that I feel incomplete on my own - I like being alone.
Finally someone else admitting that it doesnt take a relatioship to get someHerrBobo said:Sex? Sure. I love having sex with my g/f. There is more to it then that though; I can get sex without a relationship.
I love her and want to share my life and all my experiences with her. My life is better because she is in it.
Ok except I have a lot of girls just none that im in a relationship with nor any that I plan to get into one with for a while nowKingGolem said:Indeed, I agree with you, OP. Long ago, I decided that a relationship would be taxing to my time, money, and energy, and that no matter how good sex is, the necessary investment was simply not a logical or economically sound tradeoff for but a few minutes of pleasure. I am 19 now, I have never been on a date, I have never had a girlfriend, I am a virgin, and I plan never to date, marry, have children, or partake of sexual intercourse. I have a fully functioning heterosexual libido and reproductive organs, so the strength of my moral and intellectual fiber is clearly no accident of birth. I think that if I can weather the prime-breeding years of my adolescence (and weather I did) my prospects are good. I am enrolled in college, studying to be an engineer, and very content with my lot. I do not think that wasting my meager time and funds to woo some young lady would improve things at all, and I pity those who think it would.
Pardon my asking, but how do you mean "have?" I've had a meager handful of crushes in my time and even a few female friends, but I have the ability to dismiss the former as simple biological trickery to undermine my logic and get me to reproduce.creager91 said:Ok except I have a lot of girls just none that im in a relationship with nor any that I plan to get into one with for a while nowKingGolem said:Indeed, I agree with you, OP. Long ago, I decided that a relationship would be taxing to my time, money, and energy, and that no matter how good sex is, the necessary investment was simply not a logical or economically sound tradeoff for but a few minutes of pleasure. I am 19 now, I have never been on a date, I have never had a girlfriend, I am a virgin, and I plan never to date, marry, have children, or partake of sexual intercourse. I have a fully functioning heterosexual libido and reproductive organs, so the strength of my moral and intellectual fiber is clearly no accident of birth. I think that if I can weather the prime-breeding years of my adolescence (and weather I did) my prospects are good. I am enrolled in college, studying to be an engineer, and very content with my lot. I do not think that wasting my meager time and funds to woo some young lady would improve things at all, and I pity those who think it would.