Sparrow said:
krazykidd said:
Can I ask, and don't take this the wrong way but, how old are you exactly? Because, although I'm not exactly an adult (or at least in my eyes I'm not) the older I've gotten the more sense a relationship has made sense to me. Besides, there's always that "when the right one comes along" thing. Who knows? Maybe you're just not with the right person.
I'm 24 . And no worries , not offended , i'm not 16 after all( where you're just a kid , you'll grow out of it comments would be justified ) . Iv'e been in a few relationships , and am currently in one , with a woman whos 31 . We've been together for 3 years and currently live together . She's an accountant. She's a very sweet, caring lady, although very dependant . I am physically attracted to her , and i like spending time with her ( most of the time ). Neither of us wants children ( something we discussed on our first date ).
She has told me before that , sometimes she feels like we are roomates that sleep together . No idea if that's a good thing or not but whatever . That comment actually lead to the making of this thread . I mean, i came to think why am i in this relationship? And i couldn't find a reason . To clear things up i don't believe in "love" . You know the one from fairytales and movies and books . That's bullshit in my opinion . Yes we spend time together , sleep together , do things together , but that's all things we could do without being in a relationship . Add the fact that we don't want to have a family , and it just makes me wonder , what's the point ?
What are we doing now, that we couldn't do , while not having that "exclusivity" of being in a relationship ? I find relationship to mean " person To whom you are devoted to" rather than anything else . And that's not a good thing .
Maybe my view is just jaded . Maybe i'm too cynical . Maybe relationships are just not for me . But i don't see a point to it all .
Now i have a friend who recently broke up with her boyfriend . But she still sees him , spends time with him and sleep with him . But they aren't together . And since then iv'e been trying to find a difference between what she has with her ex-boyfriend , and what i have with my current girlfriend . And all i can come up with is that she has all the benefits of being in a relationship , without all the downsides . They don't argue , because they aren't together so neither has any say in what the other does .