So you like a girl...

[Bugerion]

I just keep it inside and hope that person likes me back because I am a coward and I don't wanna stop talking to that person if I get rejected.It would be nice if girls asked guys out sometimes you know why does the guy have to do it all the time.Also the argument you don't have confidence to ask someone else,can't it be applied both ways or is equality really just a myth.

 

[BanicRhys]

I ignore it till the feeling goes away.

Exactly, why ask her out and possibly get your hopes up?

Happiness always ends in pain.

 

[AngryMongoose]

I like to fire a cruise missile across the continent full of letters with pictures of her left eye and the words "LOVE ME!" written in my blood across them.

So, yeah, be direct.

 

[Ryank1908]

I tend to just worm my way in to their life and charm the SHIT out of them. With the four girlfriends I've had, I've always found a way to just make the relationship happen. Never actually had to ask a girl out. But when just telling them that you have a thing for them, yeah. Face-to-face. I've had to tell girls that were too far away to talk to in person (because of university and what not) that I've had feelings for them, but it's never right. Just end up feeling like you've been left hanging.

 

[thom_cat_]

I ignore it till the feeling goes away.

Exactly, why ask her out and possibly get your hopes up?

Happiness always ends in pain.

Because you could be happy forever.
Also happiness is worth it.
I'm currently going out with the girl I first dated, we failed pretty badly the first time and I was being attacked passive aggressively for about 6 months, but the one month was worth it.
Now I'm back with her after another girl and I've never been so happy in my life. You can have a relationship end without too much pain if you talk to your partner. We didn't the first time round and it hurt. Now, we'd just let it slip back into friendship.

But, it really depends what makes you happy. I'm unhappy without her, so why would I have it any other way?

 

[The Man With the Soap]

I ignore it till the feeling goes away.

Exactly, why ask her out and possibly get your hopes up?

Happiness always ends in pain.

Well, I've just got other things I need to focus on. Plus, a lot of people get annoyed by the fact that I am up at four thirty every morning for PT.

 

[Slash Dementia]

I asked my girlfriend over the mic. The only reason being is that I couldn't see her face to face.

I haven't asked people out face to face. The people that I've met here are either druggies or are just ghetto, and we clash in almost every way. I've been asked out maybe three times, but I just say "no" because 1) I don't know them, or 2) I don't like them in that way, and 3) I already had/have someone. I'm attracted to intellect and well, people who like to read/write, as well as a certain cuteness (I don't know how to explain it). For some reason, I've never felt like settling for less.

 

[Deamonian]

Hell, with my confidence?
Text, probably. I am not a very confident individual...

 

[WhyBotherToTry]

I've only ever been really mad about one girl and I told her face to face. It's better that way I think because it's more personal. Plus you feel great afterwards knowing you had the balls to tell them to their face.

 

[ProtoChimp]

How do you deal with it? Do you tell them face to face or over text? Do you go for it and ask them out, or keep it quiet and hope they like you as well? What have you done in the past?

Share tales and experiences and tips as well if you want to

When I find another woman attractive, I usually mention in casual conversation that my spouse and I have an open marriage and enjoy threesomes (and foursomes).

No, I am not kidding.

You'd be surprised how often that technique works. ^^

... *seizure*

 

[Use_Imagination_here]

I don't really know. Haven't found anyone intresting enough for me to approach in my current situation (=there are a few girls I like but I'm not really into taking risks.)

 

[Togs]

Run like the plague- whenever Ive been down that road its never ended well.

 

[Stormz]

Say nothing. I've never told any girl I liked how I feel. I just wait for it to go away. It's not that I don't want to say something, but my self esteem is bad enough as is.

That seems... rather bleak.

If I like a girl, I pretty much just go right after her, and see what happens. I've discovered that brief but explosive disasters are preferable to long-term pining. YMMV.

It's not that bad. If it's just a stupid crush then it never lasts that long. I'd rather work on developing a decent self esteem before I take the plunge, because rejection could put me back.

 

[bauke67]

I'm going through it right now, I'm a coward though, so either the situation has to be perfect or I'm not saying it.

 

[Yopaz]

I'm more of the do nothing kinda guy. Mostly because I am afraid of taking the first step and I don't want to be open and vulnerable. I'm not afraid of flirting, I'm just afraid of trying to make a serious attempt. Yeah... I'll be alone forever.

I've been there =D (I once went to bed with a girl... and then nothing but actual sleeping)
Have you seen A Guy Thing? It's like at the end there. Sometimes you just have to go for it.

I think I might have seen the movie, but I really can't remember it. Probably saw it while I was half asleep or something, but it does sound familiar after reading the plot for it.
However the important point is that I'm not really worrying about finding love at my age. I lack stability so I don't really see the rush and figure out I get time for that once I'm settled down.

 

[similar.squirrel]

Usually keep it to myself, until she makes the first move. I don't take chances, especially when there is the potential to make somebody feel uncomfortable or even ruin a friendship.

Some may call that cowardly, but I prefer to call it..cowardly.

Edit: So far, I've always been asked out over text or IM. Makes the first kiss a bit..odd. Kind of choreographed, almost.

 

[J-meMalone]

An ideal relationship gives you as much as you give back, and more. It's not something that causes a net loss but a net gain. Two people in a healthy relationship have and are so much more than what one person is or can have alone. There is risk involved, but even you should be able to see that nothing of value is without risk or work. You and KingGolem both claim to be focused on obtaining value, and yet you use fear and greed, 2 negative emotions, to justfy denying yourself what is arguably the MOST VALUABLE THING AVAILABLE TO YOU.

But it isn't available to me. It has never been available to me. It will never be available to me. I was born, apparently, as an abomination, a specimen which women regard as a barely-sapient sub-human freak. I've literally had sentiments like this expressed straight to my face, so excuse me for using that as a metre of my potential success in romantic affairs. It is clear from this that I am better alone - I can achieve immeasurably more by myself than I ever could with the burden of a romantic partner, even if I wasn't regarded as a grotesque monster.

All this sound like a scared child unwilling to take a risk that could truly benefit them.

If you seriously believe that ALL women are believe this, then you need to get out there and meet more. NOBODY will be seen as an abomination by all, NOBODY will be truly alone in their opinions or beliefs. You choose to believe there is nobody available to you and as long as you believe this THERE WILL BE NOBODY. You treat a relationship as a burden, but if you believe this and always have, then you will have no experience to prove or disprove such a statement. The opposite sex are people to, they take up half the population, you really think every single one who could be interested are only doing so they can spite you or milk you for money? That's an unbelievable generalisation, and a narcissistic one at that, believing HALF THE POPULATION is out to get you.

What you really are is scared. I know because I've been there, but I didn't have the strength to carry on alone. And you know what? I am better for it. I'm looking for someone, yes I'll get hurt along the way, but from just the taste I had two years ago, I know I'll be better for it braving the dangers of letting myself be vulnerable to another.

On topic: Personally, I don't tend to tell others how I feel, waiting for a right moment that never arises. However this may have something to do with the fact that I've recently managed to like only people in relationships, which certainly doesn't help.

If I were to (hypocritically) give my advice, it would be to tell them face to face and hope for the best.

 

[uristits]

Double Post. derp.

 

[uristits]

Well I met a girl today. Just met here, never seen her before. Guess what happens two hours later? Yeah. That was happens when I like a girl.

 

[Lilani]

If I liked a girl, I would first like to know when I turned lesbian.

...Anyway, definitely face to face, just the way I got together with my boyfriend. I once had a guy ask me if I had any plans on Valentine's through a text, and I actually felt quite affronted. I didn't really like him that way in the first place, and the fact that he would do it in such a way was just baffling to me. I wouldn't even think for a second of asking someone on a first date through a text, or even a phone call. Face-to-face is the ONLY way to do something like that. The only excuse for not doing so is if you're on different continents.