Things That Make or Break a Relationship

[Aloran]

My biggest hype is trust. Not in the way of cheating on me or whatever but being able to tell him a secret and not have it broadcasted to all of our friends. The cheating thing doesn't hurt me nearly as much as a betrayal.

This guy knows what he's talking about, betrayal hurts so much more. You need to be able to trust the person with your life or it's not gonna work well...

second that.

(literally) Fucking off with your best friend. Yeah, that's a bit of a deal breaker for me...

Deal makers for me would include: Liking some of the same things (the girl I'm with at the moment likes Call of Duty ), having a modicum of intelligence so I can have an intelligent conversation, being willing to talk about their feelings and not bottle everything up. I also love being able to have series of mini-arguments. Too many perhaps, a lot of my friends think me and my girlfriend are constantly fighting...It's quite funny.

Deal Brakers: Smoking (mother is a smoker, eugh...), Not taking care of what they eat or what they look like- don't get me wrong, I'm all for freedom, but if it's a girl I like, I want them to take pride in their appearance at least a little.

I can't think of any less obvious ones at the moment...

 

[Jedoro]

Maker: can tolerate how crazy I am
-I'm pretty far from normal, but if she can tolerate it, or even like it, I'll do everything I can to keep her

Breaker: believes in "awkward silences"
-I like silence, it doesn't bother me. If she can't take it being quiet around me, I'm gone. For me, I know I really care about someone when I can sit there quietly beside them.

 

[Shru1kan]

For me, it is love of music, video games, fire, doing cruel things to other people, being relatively anti-social, kinda apathetic, love of soccer,

*Continues list of traits I look for*

..., preferably kinda short, as I am 5', should not push sex, and crazy.

There we go.

So... if I cloned you?

Eh... not too much, I'm adventurous. Now if shes a slut, no. If shes under 90 or over 300 pounds, no. Illegal drugs, no.

That's not too picky, right?

 

[dodo1331]

I think a deal breaker would be them being a man.

Other than that though, I'm up for anything.

 

[Straitjacketeering]

All of according if they can put up with my drug use. if they don't mind (Or like my present girlfriend.) Join in on it then she's a keeper.

 

[Lord Trilby]

She has to actually care about me. That's the biggest thing, when I feel the girl genuinely cares about me and vice versa.

Another huge factor would be being able to trust her with secrets, because my last girlfriend would just tell all her friends every word I say. She has to understand that some things are meant just for her eyes and ears.

The things that break them for me are when she takes all the love without ever giving it. Allow me to explain that. If I'm constantly showering her in affection and she just sort of . . . ignores that I sometimes need some reassurance that she cares too, then that's not really a good relationship. I don't like it when things are one-sided, which every relationship has been like for me.

Lying is a big thing, which I really don't like.

Overreacting to little things is something I don't like.

It also helps if she's really cute. It's not necessary but it helps =P

 

[CrashBang]

I could never go out with a religious girl, not even if she wasn't a fanatic. If she believes in a deity of any kind then I'd just laugh and walk away.
I couldn't go out with a girl who doesn't like rock music either. My gf loves a lot of pop-rock and pop-punk bands, really generic American bands like 'Forever The Sickest Kids' and 'All Time Low' and even though I'm not really a fan, at least they're rock...ish.
She has to be roughly my age (around 20) and not too fat or too skinny, I like curvy girls
Oh and she has to have a passion for tattoos, like I do. I had no idea my gf liked tattoos as much as she does til we started going out and I was extatic when I found out how much she loves them

 

[DayDark]

Trust, honesty, compassion, sex.

 

[Ham_authority95]

Ignoring obvious things (racist/evil/murderer/etc.), for me a deal-breaker is when they're immature. I just can't stand immaturity.

Pretty much this.

Also when they are so ignorant and dense the only conversation I can hold with them is about sex and racist jokes or whatever else entertains everyone on myspace these days....

 

[Jiggabyte]

I guess I'll go with trust. I don't find it easy to trust people as it is. If you're going to broadcast stuff about me/us I don't want other people knowing then its totally a "no." Honestly, I wouldn't worry about cheating or anything, its that which bothers me most.
Interests also make things work or don't a lot of the time, I guess.

 

[quiet_samurai]

You ever seen The Crying Game.... yeah that would brak it for me.

Honestly though, just having to be around the same exact person all the time is usually what breaks it for me. I like being alone and yet I like a variation in the people I hang around with.

 

[Indecizion]

she has to have an intrest in sci-fi fantasy and games, ive come to the point where those have just broken too many relationships for me. it seems to always come down to, its either me or the games and NO woman can win that fight, so yeah ill only date chicks who are into the same things as me from now on because thats my breaker.

 

[rokkolpo]

sex toys.

makes and breaks.

 

[the_bearpelt]

Wow, CrashBang, you have more requirements than some GIRLS I've met. *laughs*
Those'll make it harder to find a girl, y'know.

 

[Aqualung]

Well, my last boyfriend was overly touchy-feely and snogged one of my friends...

So any guy that doesn't do the above mentioned is swell in my books.