Eacaraxe said:
Okay, so I appreciate the straight talk, because the first thing you have to realise is that every argument you have made has been thoroughly, thoroughly appropriated by people who are actively working against the interests of trans people. I have heard these arguments so many times, in the past few years. They come from the mouths of the same people who talk about autogynophilia, who claim that trans women "rape" cis women by existing, or who talk about their trans children as having been stolen by a "cult".
Firstly, let's do a thought experiment. Imagine a child is abused or neglected by their parents. The child begins to show signs of trauma consistent with PTSD. They feel an intense sense of shame, they feel guilty and unloved and they experience extreme distress and dissociation when reminded of abusive experiences.
Now, let's say I produce a magical drug. It doesn't alter the child's memory of being abused by their parents, they still remember everything that has been done to them, but instead of feeling sad about it they feel happy. The drug reprograms their brains and forces them to believe that the abuse they received was a sign of love, that they weren't terrified and miserable but were actually happy and content. If we give the child the drug, then their PTSD symptoms abate because the memory is no longer traumatizing. They are a good child now, they interact normally with their peers and are able to stay with their parents and be a good son or daughter, a
normal son or daughter.
Isn't that the most important thing?
Being normal.
Perhaps now you are beginning to see the problem, but just in case, let me break it down. Firstly, a drug which changes a person's gender identity is not going to happen, just like a drug which intimately reprograms how a person feels about a particular memory isn't going to happen. Memory, incidentally, it's far, far more mutable than identity. Memory is very, very suggestible, which is why recovered memories are no longer admissable as evidence in criminal trials (and may indeed be grounds for malpractice). Identity, however, is incredibly hard to change. The lengths to which people have gone to try and change identity is so horrifying I'm not going to dwell on it, and yet it remains impossible.
But let's move on to the big issue. The problem in the above case is not that the child does not behave normally or love their parents. In fact, the child is not the problem at all. The problem is the parents and the abuse, and the clinical priority has to be to safeguard the child from the parents.
Being in any way gender non-conforming in this society, whether it stems from gender identity, sexual orientation or just not meeting the arbitrary societal standard for masculinity or femininity, is hard, it's difficult, it brings the constant risk of abuse and non-acceptance. The idea that a person should not feel sad or confused. The idea that if they do it's somehow their fault and that the priority should be to make them normal so that they're not a problem any more.. I don't know if you find that idea as gross as I do, but I find it
really, really, really gross, and I don't think it helps anyone. As my psychiatrist once told me, the human mind is not a car engine. You don't get to rip out the parts you think aren't working properly and replace them with proper "functional" parts, and if you could, then you certainly shouldn't be allowing random bigots to decide what does and doesn't count as a "functional" part.
So, that said, let's move on to the technicalities.
1) Firstly, the idea that puberty blockers are automatically given out to any child who questions their gender identity is.. well.. it's not true. It's the kind of thing people come out with when they think the "trans lobby" is trying to steal their kids for the "trans cult". People who work with trans kids are, in my experience, generally very aware of the complexities of the situation.
2) Whatever the "risks" of puberty blockers, which frankly I think you are exaggerating to begin with, they utterly pale in comparison to the difficulty, the cost, and the risk of reversing puberty, and this is without factoring in the psychological risks of forcing a trans child through an unwanted puberty.
3) While I can sympathise with medical professionals who are put into a fairly unenviable position let's be real. The vast majority of people who are referred to Gender Clinics have experienced a huge amount of abuse, hostility and denial from people around them. Some will have been rejected or disowned by their own families. It is reasonable to expect that people in that position will be suspicious and hostile of anything that sounds like denial, because the chances are they have already faced denial.
Like, I have a degree in gender studies. I'm coming up to having two. If anyone should be able to talk about their gender identity clearly and articulately, you'd think it would be me, but I was a wreck in my first assessment. I ended up bursting into tears. I went in feeling like I had no choice, I couldn't face things carrying on as they were, so I
had to transition even though it wasn't really what I'd wanted. That was the only way I felt I would be taken seriously, or that I could have any kind of fulfilling life. I was wrong, and I wasn't thinking straight, but I wasn't thinking straight because noone had ever told me that the way I felt was okay, noone had ever helped me to process it. All I had ever gotten from anyone is denial. I've literally been told things like "it's just a phase" and "you'll get over it". Noone needs to hear that. Noone who has heard that wants to hear anything which remotely sounds like it ever again.
You know what else the trans community has a problem with. Alcoholism, drug abuse and suicide. It can sometimes be a hard life, and expecting people who are going through the worst bits of a hard life to always be civil and reasonable and make good decisions all the time is kind of in itself unreasonable.
Now, if your argument is that gender identity is too medicalized, that's something I can agree with. But the biggest obstacles to demedicalization aren't trans people, it's conservatives and TERFs who continue to insist on aggressive medicalization because they genuinely believe being trans is a mental disorder. They want the process of changing gender to be a dehumanising and humiliating process carried out by a hostile medical establishment, because at the end of the day they don't want anyone to be able to do it, and they want those who do to be so ashamed and scarred by the process that they won't speak about it.
Again, who is at fault? The person who is abused and behaves abnormally, or the person who abuses them, but can still put on the facade of not to being a monster.