Trying to convince my friend he's not a paedophile
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REALLY!?!? REALLY!?!?! I got put on Probation for my Post @21?!? REALLY!?
Jesus Mary Magdeline Christ... *Facepalms* just wow...worse than the freaking FCC.
It was a joke and from what I read in the top his friend was getting annoying so why not just fun around with a silly little song?[footnote]Peoples problems are not a joke. Just because the OP said he friend was annoying him, doesn't mean he doesn't care. Posting a song meant to trigger and describe pedophiles and state "I've sent people to jail with this song" joke or not, is not good or considerate advice. Please refrain from 'joking' around with peoples problems in this forum from now on. Thanks! -Aylaine[/footnote]
Jesus Mary Magdeline Christ... *Facepalms* just wow...worse than the freaking FCC.
It was a joke and from what I read in the top his friend was getting annoying so why not just fun around with a silly little song?[footnote]Peoples problems are not a joke. Just because the OP said he friend was annoying him, doesn't mean he doesn't care. Posting a song meant to trigger and describe pedophiles and state "I've sent people to jail with this song" joke or not, is not good or considerate advice. Please refrain from 'joking' around with peoples problems in this forum from now on. Thanks! -Aylaine[/footnote]
Controlling ones sexual urges is a part of maturing; no matter how odd the manifestation.
I remember nearly falling in love with a teenage girl 6-7 years younger than me (I was 22 at the time), but I let go of the notion because I knew it wasn't really worth pursuing.
It wasn't worth potentially ruining her future, and it wasn't worth ruining mine.
Furthermore, if your friend is interested only in this particular person, then it's probably not full-blown pedophilia.
Irrational guilt is a destructive force, especially at that age. While I cannot tell you what to say, s/he needs to just let go and accept that there will be plenty of better opportunities for him/her in the future.
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I remember nearly falling in love with a teenage girl 6-7 years younger than me (I was 22 at the time), but I let go of the notion because I knew it wasn't really worth pursuing.
It wasn't worth potentially ruining her future, and it wasn't worth ruining mine.
Furthermore, if your friend is interested only in this particular person, then it's probably not full-blown pedophilia.
Irrational guilt is a destructive force, especially at that age. While I cannot tell you what to say, s/he needs to just let go and accept that there will be plenty of better opportunities for him/her in the future.
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In Scandinavia 15 is legal, so here she would not be seen as a paedophile, though from where you live i would just say ''he looks good for a 15 year old''.
Also such small age differences does not matter in the long run, she would be a pedophile if he was 9
Also such small age differences does not matter in the long run, she would be a pedophile if he was 9
Does he show attraction to anyone else? Like to actors or models? If he can show healthy attraction to older men, or men his age, (and you can point this out) then you can assure him that he's a-ok.
As for the age gap, it's not a big deal. If he can wait a year, it will be legal, and he can do whatever he wants, with the other person's consent of course. My mother and step-father married when they were 36 and 26 respectively. If it's legal, age gaps just don't matter.
As for the age gap, it's not a big deal. If he can wait a year, it will be legal, and he can do whatever he wants, with the other person's consent of course. My mother and step-father married when they were 36 and 26 respectively. If it's legal, age gaps just don't matter.
Still, common parlance is that pedophiles go for "jailbait."Casual Shinji said:
It's not the clinical diagnosis, but when have we ever let science get in the way of labeling stuff?
4 years is still a bit much at 15. I'm not condemning, just saying it's hard to reconcile.
If he did anything, then legally yes, he is. However, IMO, the age difference isn't to bad. It's not like your friend is 40 trying to bang a 15 year old.
Well, paedophilia is an attraction to pre-pubescent children. A 15 year old is hardly pre-pubescent. Also the key factor here is actions. There are paedophiles out there that get on with life all the while not harming children and doing their best to ignore their feelings towards said children.
Anyway, it?s still inappropriate to have a relationship with a 15 year old at the age of 19. Due to the describe reaction to this whole thing it seems very much improbable that such a relationship will take place. Your friend needs to calm down, the thought police aren?t going to show up at his door to take him away.
Anyway, it?s still inappropriate to have a relationship with a 15 year old at the age of 19. Due to the describe reaction to this whole thing it seems very much improbable that such a relationship will take place. Your friend needs to calm down, the thought police aren?t going to show up at his door to take him away.
Not a paedophile, they like really young kids.
As others said it's still illegal though so he should definitely not act on his urges until it's all legal and good.
Did you know that men are instinctually attracted to young girls (past puberty of course) because they're the most likely to produce healthy offspring; really an unrelated fact given the situation but still a good one in a debate.
As others said it's still illegal though so he should definitely not act on his urges until it's all legal and good.
Did you know that men are instinctually attracted to young girls (past puberty of course) because they're the most likely to produce healthy offspring; really an unrelated fact given the situation but still a good one in a debate.
He's not. And liking mid/late teens is perfectly normal for late teens/early twenties. Seeing as there's very little age difference, etc.
