I'm not quite sure what you're getting at OP, but I'll contribute my piece anyways.
I don't have anything against violent, hot-tempered girls as such, but I would say that I wouldn't be compatible with one, as I'm a bit of a loose cannon myself, and I would be scared to hell what would happen if we happened to unleash on each other. At the moment, I try to keep my off-the-chain rages to: controlling completely to dissipation, or just screaming like a psycho and walking out before anything happens. These are like, less than yearly affairs though.
HOWEVER. What I'm also getting from you is you like playfighting, now I like wrestling with my wife every now and then but that's about it. I wouldn't mind even having a partner who I could slip gloves on and have a good bit of sparring, (wife has some crazy flexible kicks that catch me off guard), but to have someone that is actually violent, with extremes that I couldn't tell where, is just plain scary. If you understand what I'm getting at. I see myself as pretty scary and untrustworthy in my younger days as to what I'd do, now I've grown out of it, but I don't know if I could handle someone like that.
Oh, and I try to establish a balance. I don't like mothering, and I don't like a submissive girl either that just says 'yes' and agrees to everything and puts me completely on a pedestal.