IrisEver said:
I'm not a calm, well-behaved lady. I can be quite fiery, quite aggressive, and you know what? I'm happy with that and who I am.
IrisEver said:
What do YOU think about women with a more violent and hot-headed nature than the norm?
I don't think anything about this. I would gladly accept a woman who was aggressive, argumentative or outgoing. Fiery, sure, hot-headed, sure. So long that she wasn't batshit insane, which some of those who market themselves as "aggressive" genuinely are (know that I am merely noting my experience, not accusing
you in particular). Some things in life require a thoughtful and reasonable approach. I have no time to waste on people who have no self-restraint.
IrisEver said:
I'm supposing a lot of you play video games with particually 'strong' minded (and bodied) women, so when it comes to real life.. why do you want me down on my knees?
Another thing to say is that I enjoy women who are as submissive as it gets, and then some. That is simply a personal preference. I don't relate it to masculinity, or to natural drives, or to "free spirit", or to other gender-based notions that some indulge in with pleasure. I am not to claim that it is
wrong to be dominant woman; I just cannot have a romantic relationship with one. I treat my romantic interests as children, or as property. (Before this sets somebody off, let me note that I ensure that this is consensual. I would leave the relationship if it wasn't.) For me it is about a personal role, not gender roles.
That is not to say that I want my women to lack personality. I can appreciate an aggressive, passionate, fiery character. But I am the one to have control.
IrisEver said:
I want insight into why so many men seem to need and expect passive women.
I don't
need, that is the thing. With need there is dependency. I think that a woman makes a nice addition to my life, like a painting to the wall.
IrisEver said:
Is it really so scary to men?
To some men, maybe. In childhood I never associated myself with boys. When I entered school, while the rest of the male part of my class was competing for female attention, I was sitting down quietly and doing something else. I can imagine how growing up in a group of guys can inspire fear of becoming a submissive male, especially now that in society, males who are submissive of their own volition are being put in the same group as males who are submissive because they dropped the ball.