Virginity

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

Not a big deal.

Not scared.

Don't be selling virgins!

Somewhat good, I guess...

I am waiting until marriage personally. Just because I can't afford to be a father otherwise.

 

[Nimcha]

It's way too big of an issue. Losing your virginity is nothing special at all and people waiting for no other reason than wanting to wait are only setting themselves up for even more disappointment. Sex is great and you'll enjoy it even more if you're good at it.

 

[thedeathscythe]

Whats your view on virginity: I only lost mine when I was 19, I had gone pretty far with girls before that, but never did I technically lose my virginity until I was 19. To me it's nothing really, whether you have it or not.

Big deal/not: Sort of replied that in the last question, I don't really want a loose girl but at the same time I'm not looking for a virgin.

sacred/not sacred: I'm not religious at all so I don't see it as being sacred.

something that can be sold?(should it): I saw an Oprah episode about a girl selling hers. I honestly don't know why a guy would buy that, virgin's aren't even that good at having sex (no offence, but you don't throw a football that well with your first few throws). Sell it if you want, I can't see why someone would buy it.

Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good): I'm indifferent. I hate to see promise rings in a religious sense, because the church usually lies about sex and consequences with it and such (like when they condemn condoms, seriously, promote your promise rings but don't condemn condoms, especially in Africa and stuff...). Kind of pointless to me, but if they're you're thing that you want to live by, then all the power to you.

should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?: I waited until I was with a girl I was comfortable with, where it just happened and we didn't feel forced at all. With my first girlfriend I had, when I was maybe 14, we almost had sex but we didn't, we always kept it to foreplay, and I think that's just because we both knew we were young and experimenting with growing up and stuff. I don't really go looking for a girl to have sex with, but I let it happen when I'm dating a girl.

 

[Casual Shinji]

I don't mind other people's virginity. I do mind my own though. *sigh*

And while I don't consider virginity sacred, I do consider people who sleep around with anyone they can find a bit disgusting.

 

[Lionlicious]

Nope.
Scared of what? D:
People can do whatever they want with their bodies as long as it doesn't affect anyone else.
Promise rings are pretty much useless, see what others wrote about it. :7
Whenever you feel like it, don't feel pressured to do it.

Be badass and just do it because you WANT to. When you realize that sexual intercourse, while nice, isn't actually the biggest deal in the world... well, go on with your life. ^_^

It's a great way to relieve stress for me.

(Just make sure to use protection!)

 

[Ladette]

What is virginity defined by? Cause if you want to get technical i'm still a virgin. If you lose your virginity after any sex then i'm not.

It's not a big deal. Unless you live in a place where you're killed for not being a virgin until married, if that's the case then RUN! RUN AWAY NOW!

Not sacred.

If you want to sell your virginity and nobody is putting you up to it then more power to you.

Promise rings? Hahahahahaha!

When the time is right you'll know. Although I imagine that someone who'd never had sex prior to marriage wouldn't perform as well as someone with experiance.

 

[hazabaza1]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

I believe it is a big deal, something sacred, and shouldn't be thrown away lightly.
If you wish to sell it, just make sure you get your money's worth cause it's something that can only be sold once.
Promise rings aren't for everyone, but between the right two people can be something very special.
I think you should wait for love, if not marriage.

Someone with... similar views to me regarding sex? On the Escapist? WHAT WIZARDRY IS THIS

But yeah what he said.

 

[nunqual]

Whats your view on virginity
Big deal/not
sacred/not sacred
something that can be sold?(should it)
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?

Not really a big deal

Not sacred to me, although it could be to some.

I'm not sure what you mean... I guess it could be, not something I would do though.

They're not pointless, they definitely have a point to the people who have them. Not for me, but it certainly shows some self control and discipline to maintain that promise.

You should wait until you truly trust someone. If that means waiting until marriage then so be it.

Use protection, only lose it to someone you trust, and have fun. Do not have sex because you have been pressured to, only do it because you want to give yourself to the other person.

 

[jack583]

never had sex and i really don't care if i ever do.

How the heck can you sell virginity?

Bunny ranch.

actually there is a guy who auctioned off his daughters' virginity on ebay.
don't know who it was though.

 

[latenightapplepie]

It's not really a big deal. People should lose it whenever and with whomever (of legal age) they choose. In my view, you definitely shouldn't wait until marriage (especially if like me you're gay and you live in a country where same-sex marriage is illegal), and you probably shouldn't even wait for love first. That's just my opinion though. It would take me a while to fall in love, and frankly, I'd want to know how sexually compatible I was with a guy before I'd take it the relationship to the level where we might be falling in love with each other.

Lol gay

Sorry, I don't understand, what's gay?

 

[RatRace123]

It's a word used to describe someone who's never had sex
No
Not sacred
I guess it can be sold, it's your metaphor, do what you will with it.
Pointless and stupid
Wait 'till your ready

 

[Daniel Laeben-Rosen]

Virginity is just an illusion. At the end of the day, if you bang your head you might forget if you have it or not.


Not implying that banging head = sex

Really? Then I've been doing it wrong all these years. Oh gosh.
Actually last time during a little... intermission I did manage to bang my head into a 5inch thick oak supportbeam.
Just saying. Sometimes bang to the head is included. And very very painful.

 

[TheYellowCellPhone]

No
No
I hope it can in America one day.
Ech. Pointless.
Love.

 

[CarlsonAndPeeters]

I think the idea of virginity isn't a big deal--I don't think a person changes just because they have sex.

I do, however, that its an important decision to become sexually active. You need to be ready. Young kids and teenagers shouldn't have sex, not because its impure or because they need to wait till marriage, but because they're not ready. First of all, they may not be safe, but more importantly, they aren't emotionally/physically prepared to be that close to someone.

That's just my view. I think topics like this are really interesting and for this reason there should be more sex education in schools.

 

[BlueberryMUNCH]

...may I direct you here for any sex questions you may have ;D
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.260751-Poll-Sex-And-You-Lets-keep-this-mature

Yes, it's a big deal.
I think it's 'sacred', even though that's not the word I'd really use.
...no? o.o.
...whut?
And definitely love. Without doubt.

My view is, I want to lose it with someone I really care about, and will remember. Not love though, as at the age most people lose it, I really don't think they know what love truly means (it's mostly puppy love in my opinion). This way, I can still have strong feelings and fond memories of that person, but it won't be tied with questions like "were we really in love, if we broke up?" and the like.

...which is why you're such a goddamn beast on the advice forums!
I lost it with a girl who I thought I was in love with; but I was only 14, and she broke my heart a year later.
Actually, woah, the year anniversary of us breaking up is drawing near.
...wow, still haven't gotten over it.

SadStef.

AH WELL, that's completely off topic so I'll shh:].

My point was, I guess as I get older, I'll see what love really is, I guess:].
...I hope(Y).

 

[Anarchemitis]

Big deal/not
No

something that can be sold?(should it)
I hope so.

If it's not a big deal, why should it be considered some kind of commodity of value?

 

[TeeBs]

Big deal/not
No

something that can be sold?(should it)
I hope so.

If it's not a big deal, why should it be considered some kind of commodity of value?

If someones willing to buy it, why not let them?

Its not a big deal to me thats the thing.

 

[drisky]

Well this thread really follows the escapist mob mentality, like any topic on sex.

I've decided to compromise with catabolism on this one. Waiting till marriage is a bit much but it should still be considered as something special, not just thrown around.

 

[PrototypeC]

As the years have gone by, I've found myself less and less interested in the particular details. At this point, it doesn't need to be true love, or even love. All I need is to be actually liked and respected by the girl and vice-versa. I think doing it with a good friend would be better than a Relationship in colossal hewn stone letters, at least for my first time. I understand that as a guy, I don't have a visible, un-retrievable indicator of my lost virginity, so it's less of a big deal. For guys, it's merely emotional (except for that hormonal subconcious emission that non-virginal men have, look it up).

The idea of attaching a price to it? Abhorrent, somewhat disturbing, generally not good. There's already enough of a price... the thing itself! I don't consider my virginity "sacred", but I understand why others might, and respect that. Me, though? I'm ready, already!...

Ladieeees?

 

[Anarchemitis]

Big deal/not
No

something that can be sold?(should it)
I hope so.

If it's not a big deal, why should it be considered some kind of commodity of value?

If someones willing to buy it, why not let them?

Freedom is an excellent thing.
The drawbacks are letting idiots do whatever they want. Preemptive example to attempt to circumvent people from quoting this because they jumped to conclusions: making homemade fireworks with gasoline.