Virginity
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Not a big deal
Yes I am a very nervous for my first time, I plan to be tanked up.
Sell it? Go ahead. Though it should be regulated and illegal when I am intoxicated
Promise rings. Not rally sure what they are and I never really have been interested in girls who are into it.
No, I think that is stupid. It is something that is suppose to be fun, not binding. And while I encourage people to not do it with total strangers, you shouldn't be forced to be in love with said person before it happens.
(Which sucks because the girl I may very soon start dating is into the right before marriage thing.)
Yes I am a very nervous for my first time, I plan to be tanked up.
Sell it? Go ahead. Though it should be regulated and illegal when I am intoxicated
Promise rings. Not rally sure what they are and I never really have been interested in girls who are into it.
No, I think that is stupid. It is something that is suppose to be fun, not binding. And while I encourage people to not do it with total strangers, you shouldn't be forced to be in love with said person before it happens.
(Which sucks because the girl I may very soon start dating is into the right before marriage thing.)
Yes.CODE-D said:
Nothing is truly "sacred" to me as I don't believe in God, but it is important.
No.
No.
No.
Both sides of the "virgin" debate are completely nuts, most of the time... There is no NEED to lose your virginity as soon as possible, it wont make you a better person, "unfortunately" it's a kind of status symbol for boys in school to have had sex. For girls it frequently causes the "slut" label to appear, regardless of how many times you've had sex, it's the nature of teenage girls to be jealous and rude I guess...
On the other side, why protect it like it's the holy grail? You'll never have sex like teenage sex, parents should remember this and allow their children to lose their virginity whenever they feel like it. In many ways the first kiss is a much more memorable and important event in most young peoples lives. Also, why is it called "losing" your virginity, it sounds so negative, cant we cook up some happy word for it instead, or at least a somewhat neutral one?
Sell whatever you want to sell, as long as all involved parties agree I don't really care, nor should all the arm-flailers around the world. Promise rings... Meh, nothing wrong with them I guess, it's a way of committing to a belief and I'm all for people being allowed to have their own beliefs. Personally, I couldn't be bothered, similar to how most of my life choices go... Whatever works, you know...
Wait until whenever feels right/your so doped up on various substances your unable to make a sentient decision and it'll happen for you... (yes, that goes for both cases Oo)
On the other side, why protect it like it's the holy grail? You'll never have sex like teenage sex, parents should remember this and allow their children to lose their virginity whenever they feel like it. In many ways the first kiss is a much more memorable and important event in most young peoples lives. Also, why is it called "losing" your virginity, it sounds so negative, cant we cook up some happy word for it instead, or at least a somewhat neutral one?
Sell whatever you want to sell, as long as all involved parties agree I don't really care, nor should all the arm-flailers around the world. Promise rings... Meh, nothing wrong with them I guess, it's a way of committing to a belief and I'm all for people being allowed to have their own beliefs. Personally, I couldn't be bothered, similar to how most of my life choices go... Whatever works, you know...
Wait until whenever feels right/your so doped up on various substances your unable to make a sentient decision and it'll happen for you... (yes, that goes for both cases Oo)
Big deal/not:
Not a big deal unless you're going through puberty combined with people. When I was growing up. there was an unsaid social pressure to lose one's V-card ASAP once you hit High school. I did not respond well to this and really wish I kept my head on my shoulders the entire time and used that time to do more than I did.
Sacred/not sacred
I imagine everyone is scared the first time through. It's quite similar to riding a bike the first time. The fact that you're naked with another person leaves you feeling quite vulnerable. It's natural to get a bit of a "fight-or-flight" feeling.
Something that can be sold?(should it)
I don't have an opinion either way. What someone wants to do with themselves is their business. I imagine the "market" would be more inclined to accept females selling their virginity rather than males. If I were a woman, I would not sell my virginity. I believe that once it's gone, it's gone and I wouldn't want to cheapen it for money/goods/services/whatever. It's just one of few things you're born with and can never get back.
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
I don't have an opinion either way again. People will do whatever they want to themselves. I personally think they're stupid. Using tangible items to symbolize a promise of what is intangible and completely up to the person's behavior and choices is a bit weak. It doesn't present any reason to not lose your virginity, it just appears to because it is an object. If you have a decent amount of willpower and well defined reasons why you don't want to lose your virginity, you'll be fine.
Should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?
I go for the middle option. Love, or whatever you call it during those adolescent years. I find it important to have a decent relationship going on where trust and honesty have been so deeply established that any feeling of anxiety is less about the other person's reaction and more about the feeling like you're going on a roller-coaster for the first time and have no idea what to expect (i.e. apprehension).
Not a big deal unless you're going through puberty combined with people. When I was growing up. there was an unsaid social pressure to lose one's V-card ASAP once you hit High school. I did not respond well to this and really wish I kept my head on my shoulders the entire time and used that time to do more than I did.
Sacred/not sacred
I imagine everyone is scared the first time through. It's quite similar to riding a bike the first time. The fact that you're naked with another person leaves you feeling quite vulnerable. It's natural to get a bit of a "fight-or-flight" feeling.
Something that can be sold?(should it)
I don't have an opinion either way. What someone wants to do with themselves is their business. I imagine the "market" would be more inclined to accept females selling their virginity rather than males. If I were a woman, I would not sell my virginity. I believe that once it's gone, it's gone and I wouldn't want to cheapen it for money/goods/services/whatever. It's just one of few things you're born with and can never get back.
Promise rings?(pointless/stupid/good)
I don't have an opinion either way again. People will do whatever they want to themselves. I personally think they're stupid. Using tangible items to symbolize a promise of what is intangible and completely up to the person's behavior and choices is a bit weak. It doesn't present any reason to not lose your virginity, it just appears to because it is an object. If you have a decent amount of willpower and well defined reasons why you don't want to lose your virginity, you'll be fine.
Should you wait till marriage, love, or any opportunity?
I go for the middle option. Love, or whatever you call it during those adolescent years. I find it important to have a decent relationship going on where trust and honesty have been so deeply established that any feeling of anxiety is less about the other person's reaction and more about the feeling like you're going on a roller-coaster for the first time and have no idea what to expect (i.e. apprehension).
I thought it should be a big deal at the time but since then I have given it a lot less significance, mainly because I made a stupid decision.
I don't think it's sacred but it is to be respected, I truly believe that everyone changes a lot the day they lose their virginity and as such it is something that should not be given up lightly, and treated with respect.
Sadly it can be sold but I honestly don't think it should be, anyone in the position of selling their virginity doesn't really know what they are getting themselves into, and the kind of person who would buy someone's virginity only makes it a much more dangerous and damaging situation.
I don't disrespect people who do the whole promise ring thing but personally I think they are impractical and not exactly the best idea.
and the last I think is a pure preference thing. I thought I was looking for love (but didn't want to wait to be married) but lost my virginity at 14 to my boyfriend at the time (who turned out to be a complete arse hate) who I didn't love at all, but we just reached a point where we realised we weren't that into each other but we still wanted to see what sex with each other would be like.
I don't think it's sacred but it is to be respected, I truly believe that everyone changes a lot the day they lose their virginity and as such it is something that should not be given up lightly, and treated with respect.
Sadly it can be sold but I honestly don't think it should be, anyone in the position of selling their virginity doesn't really know what they are getting themselves into, and the kind of person who would buy someone's virginity only makes it a much more dangerous and damaging situation.
I don't disrespect people who do the whole promise ring thing but personally I think they are impractical and not exactly the best idea.
and the last I think is a pure preference thing. I thought I was looking for love (but didn't want to wait to be married) but lost my virginity at 14 to my boyfriend at the time (who turned out to be a complete arse hate) who I didn't love at all, but we just reached a point where we realised we weren't that into each other but we still wanted to see what sex with each other would be like.
Big Deal? Yup.
Sacred? Yup.
Sold? I have no idea how this is accomplished.
Promise Rings? I have no opinions on this, nor any wish to try one.
Till marriage? No, but till someone you love and have at least been with for well over a year. Then it's all fine in my book. One night stands just to remove the title is the dumbest idea I can think of that relates to sex.
Though before people ask, I'm not religious, I just follow classy morales, and would never date a girl who isn't a virgin. Sorry, just my views on life. There's more people out there in the world that don't mind losing it any chance they get, and that's fine with me. I'll just wait for a truly perfect girl for me.
Sacred? Yup.
Sold? I have no idea how this is accomplished.
Promise Rings? I have no opinions on this, nor any wish to try one.
Till marriage? No, but till someone you love and have at least been with for well over a year. Then it's all fine in my book. One night stands just to remove the title is the dumbest idea I can think of that relates to sex.
Though before people ask, I'm not religious, I just follow classy morales, and would never date a girl who isn't a virgin. Sorry, just my views on life. There's more people out there in the world that don't mind losing it any chance they get, and that's fine with me. I'll just wait for a truly perfect girl for me.
well according to Tony, leader of the Australian Liberal party, a female's Virginity is a gift that should be given away lightly.....ofcause these words come out the same mouth of a guy was spends most his TV time in budgie smugglers trying to lure women.
Personally i think it's a big deal, it's something that can't be taken back, unless medical science advances to the point we can age backwards so thus we retain out virginity, which is what my friend want, not because she wants hers back but so it can piss guys off that when a girl looses her virginity, she can get ti back so the guy no longer feels special, then again, she revels in chaos and discord anyway.
not sure if i'm scared to loose mine or not, haven't had a relationship last longer than a week for the situation to even come up.
You can only sell it on eBay, i'm sure there's truck loads of idiots who would think buy someones virginity would get their own back in which case, serves the idiots right for bidding $500 on it
i hope to wait till marriage but ofcause i'll own marry someone who i love and loves me back and if we're like that it might be before, like i said, never had a long enough relationship to reach the situation
Personally i think it's a big deal, it's something that can't be taken back, unless medical science advances to the point we can age backwards so thus we retain out virginity, which is what my friend want, not because she wants hers back but so it can piss guys off that when a girl looses her virginity, she can get ti back so the guy no longer feels special, then again, she revels in chaos and discord anyway.
not sure if i'm scared to loose mine or not, haven't had a relationship last longer than a week for the situation to even come up.
You can only sell it on eBay, i'm sure there's truck loads of idiots who would think buy someones virginity would get their own back in which case, serves the idiots right for bidding $500 on it
i hope to wait till marriage but ofcause i'll own marry someone who i love and loves me back and if we're like that it might be before, like i said, never had a long enough relationship to reach the situation
Not really
Nope
Nope
Pointlessly Stupid
Wait until you're with someone you're ready to do it with, not necessarily marriage.
Nope
Nope
Pointlessly Stupid
Wait until you're with someone you're ready to do it with, not necessarily marriage.
What's your view on virginity? By my own morals, I'd rather save it for someone I truly care about rather than trying to lose it as soon as possible. It's ridiculous to me when people feel the need to cave into pressure and try to fuck someone as soon as they can. I can understand what with there being so much focus on it in society and the media, but really, why would you even want that with someone you don't care for? Now, I'm still a virgin, technically. If you count any sort of sex as losing one's virginity, then I'm far from being a virgin but one thing I can say is that the people I've had relations with have all been people I love or care for deeply.
Big deal/not? Kinda answered that already. It's kind of a big deal in that I'd rather save myself for someone special rather than try with all my power to get fucked right now.
Sacred/not? Again, I answered that already.
Something that can be sold? It shouldn't be, but it can be.
Promise Rings? Completely and utterly pointless.
Should you wait for love, marriage or any opportunity? Already answered, but I am in no place to judge anyone. I know what's best for me and that's to wait for someone I love. I don't believe in marriage, so fuck that. I am not going to judge someone for their actions (at least not openly) but don't try to pressure me into doing something I don't want.
Big deal/not? Kinda answered that already. It's kind of a big deal in that I'd rather save myself for someone special rather than try with all my power to get fucked right now.
Sacred/not? Again, I answered that already.
Something that can be sold? It shouldn't be, but it can be.
Promise Rings? Completely and utterly pointless.
Should you wait for love, marriage or any opportunity? Already answered, but I am in no place to judge anyone. I know what's best for me and that's to wait for someone I love. I don't believe in marriage, so fuck that. I am not going to judge someone for their actions (at least not openly) but don't try to pressure me into doing something I don't want.
Not a big deal, however, in reality it can easily impact those around you. People can look negatively or think there is something wrong with a person who is older and still a virgin. As such, this information could have an impact on personal or potential relationships. At least that's my take as a 30 year old virgin.CODE-D said:
Not sacred, but can be viewed as such if you choose to.
Everything in the world has a price, it can absolutely be sold and this should be allowed. I personally in no way support or respect the choice, but I don't see why it should be disallowed.
I don't understand or see the appeal in promise rings.
People should only act when both are comfortable and ready. I myself like the notion of waiting until marriage to make the experience as special and meaningful as possible.
My view is that one should lose it ASAP, and then one can focus on more important things in life, once the worry of loosing it has gone.
And dont wait till marrige for fucks sake, sex is too much fun to postpone that long.
It's not a big deal, and its not sacred. End of.
And dont wait till marrige for fucks sake, sex is too much fun to postpone that long.
It's not a big deal, and its not sacred. End of.
It's not a big deal whether or not you're a virgin.
It's not sacred.
I find selling it to be a form of prostitution so I find it disgusting in a way.
If promise rings are you thing then go for it but I personally think they're stupid.
What you should wait for is someone whom you are completely comfortable around and someone that will make it meaningful. It's something you're going to always remember so do you really want to be stuck with the memory of being a drunken mess and having some random whose name you can't remember in there somewhere? I waited until I was in a serious relationship and I don't not regret it one bit and I never will.
It's not sacred.
I find selling it to be a form of prostitution so I find it disgusting in a way.
If promise rings are you thing then go for it but I personally think they're stupid.
What you should wait for is someone whom you are completely comfortable around and someone that will make it meaningful. It's something you're going to always remember so do you really want to be stuck with the memory of being a drunken mess and having some random whose name you can't remember in there somewhere? I waited until I was in a serious relationship and I don't not regret it one bit and I never will.
As much as you make of it.
Ditto.
Anything can be sold, but the situations where it is are pretty abhorrent.
Promise rings can be a good way to side-step a complicated/messy marriage situation.
Wait for whatever goes with your values. Your personal values tho - if you're religious and think waiting is stupid, then don't. If you aren't and you don't, do.
Ditto.
Anything can be sold, but the situations where it is are pretty abhorrent.
Promise rings can be a good way to side-step a complicated/messy marriage situation.
Wait for whatever goes with your values. Your personal values tho - if you're religious and think waiting is stupid, then don't. If you aren't and you don't, do.
