Move on. If shes acting like this, then she really isn't worth your time. You said you wouldn't care, so go with that.
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Thanks to everyone for the feedback. I've been going down the path of just moving on anyways so it's not hard to stick to it at this point. Though I have no idea how I am gonna avoid potentially seeing her at that damn grocery store sometime in the future...lol
Something happened with her that you aren't aware of, she wouldn't have acted like that without a stimulus from somewhere else, maybe the new boyfriend doesn't like you or something and she's just submissive, if yall have a good mutual friend try talking to them, see if they know what happened, but something happened that you aren't aware of
however, you should go ahead and forget about her
however, you should go ahead and forget about her
I dunno. Maybe I just don't know enough of the story, but are you sure you weren't just misinterpreting her attraction/friendship as wanting a relationship? Although annoying if true, it's possible she could be attracted to you but still want to just be friends. *shrug* Like I say, I don't really know the whole situation, but it doesn't sound like either of you is purposefully being a jerk or intentionally stringing the other one along. So... I guess if you still want to be friends with her, you should probably still at least make an attempt to be friendly toward her, but at least for now it looks like a relationship is out of the picture.
Dude.. Its not worth a sandwich this is your life!Hader said:
Ok in all seriousness try talking to her.. But just remember the time tested saying. "Bitches be crazy." So maybe she just went bonkers.. Or maybe someone told her you did something that you didn't.. or did... DUN DUN DUN!
Bottom line: Confront her and talk to her about. If she goes crazy.. Then drop her.
My best friend also worked with us there at once, and considered ourselves a tight trio of friends. My friend moved to Washington about the time I started classes this semester though, so he wasn't around physically when all this happened. However he did tell me that she was basically telling him nothing but "bullshit excuses", as he put it. I personally have never known the guy she is going out with now, but my friend was a manager at our old store, and says the guy is a total scumbag. His personality is inconsequential to me, I don't care who she is dating really, but if what my friend says it true it just adds to the confusion of her actions at best.Archany said:
While always a possibility I will not rule out, I will say it is highly unlikely from my standpoint. As I said, I did ask her on a date, and she did accept, rather ecstatically to my surprise. And she seemed fine with it up til that point of last-minute-cancellation.swenson said:
I did make one small attempt to try to have a friendly conversation with her, and it ended badly as I said, despite me trying to just be a reasonable friend about it and leave any trace of our past interest of each other out of the conversation in hopes to just keep a friendship.
She pretty much did go crazy. Last person I would expect it from too, and the only thing I might slightly care about is how she justifies her actions towards me, and our friendship, to get where she is now. Honestly, if I had done something like that, I would have a guilty conscience for life. But that's just me.zama174 said:
Also, odds are her new love interest didn't say anything about me, considering the fact we never knew each other in the slightest. I guess he could have said some things, but nothing too personal really. I can't even remember his name and he would only know mine through her or by the fact I was indirectly his manager for a year. How ironic...
Something I considered, but thing is I didn't move far away to merit that reaction (at least from my point of view). Only far enough to live on campus and make school easier for me since I am taking 15+ credit hours at the very least, but I can visit on weekends and some weekdays if I really wanted to. Plus, this is my second year here, and the same situation as far as travel goes, and we had no problems maintaining ties the first year, before this shit hit the fan.Wolfram01 said:
Sounds like, to me (and this is just a wild guess), there was something else going on that you were unaware of.Hader said:
Either way, it's irrelevant. You did the right thing. It sounds as if you were very good to her and she threw it away. My advice would be to move on. Sure, it's frustrating not having closure - but some things in life we never get closure for. You'll put it behind you after a period of time and you'll laugh about it!
It sounds like just one of those things. Judging from her actions, she probably wouldn't of made the best girlfriend in the world anyways!
Already did laugh a little bit, my friend visited me last week and said he would beat me if I didn't...harsh terms.Kortney said:Sounds like, to me (and this is just a wild guess), there was something else going on that you were unaware of.Hader said:
Either way, it's irrelevant. You did the right thing. It sounds as if you were very good to her and she threw it away. My advice would be to move on. Sure, it's frustrating not having closure - but some things in life we never get closure for. You'll put it behind you after a period of time and you'll laugh about it!
It sounds like just one of those things. Judging from her actions, she probably wouldn't of made the best girlfriend in the world anyways!
Guess this does mean I need to find a new place to buy my food at though...
Haha, alright I won't, besides I was once her superior as well as half the other people there...no hard feelings right?zama174 said:
I know I can't avoid it anyways, too many other friends still work there that I intend to visit and my parents shop there all the time. I can't avoid it unless I moved to Russia.
maybe she's been having a few issues that she doesn't want to mention to anyone. If so better off being nice, not acting like a jerk ( which you probably don't) and not asking here about it. Let her say it if she wants to in time. If not just try and regain your friendship with her, it's worth more than getting your heart broken.
... Why Russia? Why not Japan, Or... Somewhere.. Else..Hader said:Haha, alright I won't, besides I was once her superior as well as half the other people there...no hard feelings right?zama174 said:
I know I can't avoid it anyways, too many other friends still work there that I intend to visit and my parents shop there all the time. I can't avoid it unless I moved to Russia.
I would have to agree with some of the above, it's best to simply move on. Although you claim it's easy enough for you to do, it may not be. Still, it's in your best interest to leave her alone, as that's obviously what she wants. Not to mention the way she treated you... Isn't worth it for anyone, but considering how much of a connection you had with her, and how close of friends you two were,certainly isn't something you should put yourself through.Hader said:
It's shit that your friendship took a complete 180 in such a short period of time, but eventually this won't be something that you care to feel confused or frustrated about. Although it'd be easier to find that 'sense of closure' I doubt you'd get it by trying to talk to her, and understand why she acted the way she did.