What do guys get nervous about?

[Ironrose]

Oh absolutely! I just thought it would be seriously poor form to insult someone by laughing at them in a thread where I'm asking people to lay bare their insecurities.

sorry... :3
I'm not like over-the-top Guybrush Threepwood awkward. I can talk to girls fine and i have loads of friends who are girls but the whole chatting up just isn't my strong suit. I have a beautiful girlfriend at the moment but still. if you are getting chatted up by a guy, what do you want him to say?

sorry for being an awkward teenage mess

lol! sorry for my awkwardness infecting this thread.

What are you apologising for?

 

[ManiacRaccoon]

So basically I'm worried that I'll spend my life alone and that I'll alienate everyone around me ever.
No pressure.

I'm going to be a hypocrite again, a little less so than with that one friend who I convinced that asking girls out was easy and say just don't worry about it, cause if you never try you never know what the reaction will be. It's like comedy, if you wait too long to tell the joke, the window of funniness passes and you have to ruin the joke by explaining it. I realize I need to work on this too and that my fear of retribution is somewhat irrational. But next time you think of something you want to say just say it and don't apologize until they say that wasn't cool. If you spend too much time thinking of possible outcomes the opportunity passes, so just take it. That's helped me get more friends in general, so it's not too hypocritical, though I'm still having trouble applying it to girls I'm interested in, that may just be part of the whole "there is an angry boyfriend nearby" problem I have. In my defense I have twice found it to be the case that there was a boyfriend, but the one who heard about me asking wasn't more of a jerk to me than usual.

 

[Seagoon]

Oh absolutely! I just thought it would be seriously poor form to insult someone by laughing at them in a thread where I'm asking people to lay bare their insecurities.

sorry... :3
I'm not like over-the-top Guybrush Threepwood awkward. I can talk to girls fine and i have loads of friends who are girls but the whole chatting up just isn't my strong suit. I have a beautiful girlfriend at the moment but still. if you are getting chatted up by a guy, what do you want him to say?

sorry for being an awkward teenage mess

lol! sorry for my awkwardness infecting this thread.

What are you apologising for?

my adolescence :3

 

[literallyanythingelse]

I get nervous of people standing up near me when I'm sitting down.

 

[Mr S]

Nothing to do about sex but I am incredibly shy and have trouble attempting anything in starting some sort of relationship with somebody because I also worry too much and think about the scenarios of what could happen in things all the time.

Yeah, I really hate myself at the moment.

It's like I'm looking in the mirror.
And the mirror guy is posting this on a forum....

Yeah I suck at this....

Anyway that's just like meee, I overthink everything way to much.

 

[Ironrose]

Oh absolutely! I just thought it would be seriously poor form to insult someone by laughing at them in a thread where I'm asking people to lay bare their insecurities.

sorry... :3
I'm not like over-the-top Guybrush Threepwood awkward. I can talk to girls fine and i have loads of friends who are girls but the whole chatting up just isn't my strong suit. I have a beautiful girlfriend at the moment but still. if you are getting chatted up by a guy, what do you want him to say?

sorry for being an awkward teenage mess

lol! sorry for my awkwardness infecting this thread.

What are you apologising for?

my adolescence :3

fair enough, thats something that needs to be apologised for

 

[Light 086]

I have a few scars on my back which at first had me nervous, but I totally forgot that they were there. My previous boyfriend hated the 'feel', my current doesn't mind. As for guys, they usually feel insecure about the size of their dicks (obvious tell). Other insecurities are usually on the first impression they give you, they don't want to seem over/under confident when they meet a girl for the first time (especially the first girl they ever date, otherwise not as much but you can still pick up on it).

 

[Seagoon]

Oh absolutely! I just thought it would be seriously poor form to insult someone by laughing at them in a thread where I'm asking people to lay bare their insecurities.

sorry... :3
I'm not like over-the-top Guybrush Threepwood awkward. I can talk to girls fine and i have loads of friends who are girls but the whole chatting up just isn't my strong suit. I have a beautiful girlfriend at the moment but still. if you are getting chatted up by a guy, what do you want him to say?

sorry for being an awkward teenage mess

lol! sorry for my awkwardness infecting this thread.

What are you apologising for?

my adolescence :3

fair enough, thats something that needs to be apologised for

lol

 

[Scabadus]

Oh absolutely! I just thought it would be seriously poor form to insult someone by laughing at them in a thread where I'm asking people to lay bare their insecurities.

sorry... :3
I'm not like over-the-top Guybrush Threepwood awkward. I can talk to girls fine and i have loads of friends who are girls but the whole chatting up just isn't my strong suit. I have a beautiful girlfriend at the moment but still. if you are getting chatted up by a guy, what do you want him to say?

sorry for being an awkward teenage mess

lol! sorry for my awkwardness infecting this thread.

What are you apologising for?

my adolescence :3

We've all been there. Hell, technically I still am there; I'm aware I speak (and type) like somebody in his mid twenties at the earliest but I'm not.

As for infecting the thread with your awkwardness, I do believe that was the point. It'll make you feel better about being awkward when you realise that 90% of other people, both men and women, feel exactly the same.

 

[Macgyvercas]

I'd rather not think about any worries I may have about sex. I have a hard enough time even asking a girl out.

 

[Adam28]

I am still a virgin but I am definitely nervous and a little insecure, especially about sex. I hate sharing this but I have eczema, almost all over, and although it is pretty easy to clear up around the face, I worry about how my skin may seem to a girl. It also doesn't help that I am small too with little hope of getting taller.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Anything that requires intimacy terrifies me.
The idea of showing anything more positive than passing acceptance for anyone also terrifies me.

It's really difficult for me to accept that I have friends because that means admitting I care about someone. It's even more difficult for me to do anything nice for anyone without trying to play it off as no big deal or, preferably, like I'm just doing it out of self-interest and the fact that it also helps them is merely a byproduct.

Basically I get nervous about appearing as anything other than a complete dick. Makes me feel vulnerable.

Not really bedroom stuff, but I don't even like sex. So I don't really have anything to give a shit about in regards to that.

 

[Ham_authority95]

About sex: I'm pretty nervous and insecure about my Girlfriend getting pregnant. Even with an Abortion, it would make everyone hate me...

About anything else: I'm pretty insecure about people telling me whats best for me. Besides that, I can't think of much.

 

[Brightzide]

Making official phonecalls and stuff to the government and such, really get me nervous. Everything else is just a step along the long, winding and often confusing road which is life...and also the map is in a foreign language. In regards to sex, as is the main topic, initially a few years back now I was very shy, timid and down right scared of intimacy. But through a series of great personal experiences while being intimate I have overcome this problem and its just...just...swell

 

[The_ModeRazor]

18 and a virgin here.
No such experience :/

I do however know that I'm really shit when it comes to talking to girls. Well, talking to any person at all, really. If I know them well, I don't bother with being careful about what I say and I insult them without even noticing. Although what counts as "insulting" can be a little surprising sometimes. If I don't know them well, I'm awkward and as such tend to get ignored. Or I don't even speak up. And I most definitely get scared when I have to. So yeah, that's about it.
But you know what they say:
COWARDS DIE IN SHAME
:3

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I get nervous when I meet my gf's parents for the first time. I get nervous on the first date because while I've never had horrible luck with women, I'm not exactly a "Lady's Man." I get nervous about my sense of humor putting her off, or the fact that I'm very sarcastic. Cooking for her the first time makes me a little nervous, although I've been cooking for most of my life.

In the bedroom? I've talked about it with my current gf, and I don't think there'll be any surprises there, but sure, I'll be nervous. It'll be both of our first times, and we both want each other to have a good experience. I'd say that's a valid thing to be a bit nervous about. I'm a little nervous when it comes to things I'd like to try that she might not be interested in or find odd, but she's so far been really open minded in our discussions about it.

There are plenty of other things too, but those aren't really related to the topic.

 

[William Dickbringer]

Virgin here yeah the things regarding sex for me are common questions "what if it ends too soon", "what if I mess it up", "am I big enough" you know that stuff
but also I have to worry about not having sex right now because my girlfriend believes in abstinence and if I do end up having sex with her and her parents find out then I'm dead that's it no way to convince them no way to say I'll marry her just dead

 

[Crazycat690]

Can't really tell since I'm a virgin When I play games, girls just think I'm a nerd, and reject me, and then I play more games cause of it, then they like me even less, so yeah o.o I've tried (btw I'm 17 years old) to get into a relationship, but since I'm unable to give the girls the attention they want/need for it to work because I want to game, and I've been without girls so long that it feels like I don't need them anymore :/ Porn has seen to that...

So, what do I get nervous about? When a girl, not knowing me, just talks to me, or even more, that freaks me out, I still think girls are hot and all so... Yeah, it's a bad situation, biologically speaking, since the meaning of life is to breed and pass on your genes :/ But I doubt there's any girls out there willing to put out with me anymore so I've pretty much given up hopes on them^^

....Weeeell I suppose it's one thing I could say, you know how all guys says "blowjobs are awesome", I suppose there are but I hate the idea and is terrified for it, being very submissive, I feel like I should be the one down there ._. you know what I'm saying duwds?

I really hope none of my real life friends roam these forums....

BTW, I'm not really worried I'm not big enough.... heeeheeeheeeeeerrrr.... ^^

 

[phantasmalWordsmith]

Spiders. I really hate spiders. See on anywhere I get the sudden urge to find a shoe and beat the little sucker to hell. It's less of a nervous thing and more of a "Kill it, kill it, kill it, kill it. KILL IT!" type of thing

 

[Stevo_s]

The title pretty much explains it but I will go a bit further.
What do guys get nervous or worried about? particularly in the bedroom.
I ask because girls are always willing to share their insecurities with each other but guys don't seem to unless I'm dating them. Now I know that's because of the whole manly, not wanting to feel exposed thing but I am simply curious. Everyone has things they're insecure about and I want to know yours and am happy to share my own.

I will respond sincerely to your sincere post.

What do you worry/get nervous about in regards to sex?

I sometimes worry about coming to fast and wasting a condom, and worrying only makes it worse. But I also worry about going in to deep or if I don't please her.

Do you have any insecurities that you think are irrational? why?

I'm a smoker and she hates the smell of smoke.

I'm also very insecure about my body weight when I shouldn't be because I'm pretty fit.

I think a lot of times that if I don't please her she'll stop seeing me. Which is ridiculous cause she loves me.

Do you have any funny habits because of the above?

Yes, I never smoke near her I always shower and wash my mouth out to get rid of the cigarette smoke, if I don't get to shower then I feel very uncomfortable.

I tighten my abs a lot during sex makes me more comfortable because i think she'll like it more.

Almost always don't stop until she is satisfied which probably isn't a bad thing.

For me, I'm quite nervous about the appearance of my skin, I have very fair delicate skin and this means I scar very easily so I have a fair few little scratches and scars that I will have forever that I think would turn guys off.
I have a rather irrational insecurity about being on top, I just don't feel like I knkow what I'm doing in that position.

Don't be so nervous about your skin. Plenty of guys like a girl with marks, scars on their skin it makes your body more interesting.

In regards to that position if you can dance then you should be good. :] If not then do what feels good to you, it turns the guy on more when a girl is going wild on him haha.