What do guys get nervous about?

[Brightzide]

Making official phonecalls and stuff to the government and such, really get me nervous. Everything else is just a step along the long, winding and often confusing road which is life...and also the map is in a foreign language. In regards to sex, as is the main topic, initially a few years back now I was very shy, timid and down right scared of intimacy. But through a series of great personal experiences while being intimate I have overcome this problem and its just...just...swell

 

[The_ModeRazor]

18 and a virgin here.
No such experience :/

I do however know that I'm really shit when it comes to talking to girls. Well, talking to any person at all, really. If I know them well, I don't bother with being careful about what I say and I insult them without even noticing. Although what counts as "insulting" can be a little surprising sometimes. If I don't know them well, I'm awkward and as such tend to get ignored. Or I don't even speak up. And I most definitely get scared when I have to. So yeah, that's about it.
But you know what they say:
COWARDS DIE IN SHAME
:3

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I get nervous when I meet my gf's parents for the first time. I get nervous on the first date because while I've never had horrible luck with women, I'm not exactly a "Lady's Man." I get nervous about my sense of humor putting her off, or the fact that I'm very sarcastic. Cooking for her the first time makes me a little nervous, although I've been cooking for most of my life.

In the bedroom? I've talked about it with my current gf, and I don't think there'll be any surprises there, but sure, I'll be nervous. It'll be both of our first times, and we both want each other to have a good experience. I'd say that's a valid thing to be a bit nervous about. I'm a little nervous when it comes to things I'd like to try that she might not be interested in or find odd, but she's so far been really open minded in our discussions about it.

There are plenty of other things too, but those aren't really related to the topic.

 

[William Dickbringer]

Virgin here yeah the things regarding sex for me are common questions "what if it ends too soon", "what if I mess it up", "am I big enough" you know that stuff
but also I have to worry about not having sex right now because my girlfriend believes in abstinence and if I do end up having sex with her and her parents find out then I'm dead that's it no way to convince them no way to say I'll marry her just dead

 

[Crazycat690]

Can't really tell since I'm a virgin When I play games, girls just think I'm a nerd, and reject me, and then I play more games cause of it, then they like me even less, so yeah o.o I've tried (btw I'm 17 years old) to get into a relationship, but since I'm unable to give the girls the attention they want/need for it to work because I want to game, and I've been without girls so long that it feels like I don't need them anymore :/ Porn has seen to that...

So, what do I get nervous about? When a girl, not knowing me, just talks to me, or even more, that freaks me out, I still think girls are hot and all so... Yeah, it's a bad situation, biologically speaking, since the meaning of life is to breed and pass on your genes :/ But I doubt there's any girls out there willing to put out with me anymore so I've pretty much given up hopes on them^^

....Weeeell I suppose it's one thing I could say, you know how all guys says "blowjobs are awesome", I suppose there are but I hate the idea and is terrified for it, being very submissive, I feel like I should be the one down there ._. you know what I'm saying duwds?

I really hope none of my real life friends roam these forums....

BTW, I'm not really worried I'm not big enough.... heeeheeeheeeeeerrrr.... ^^

 

[phantasmalWordsmith]

Spiders. I really hate spiders. See on anywhere I get the sudden urge to find a shoe and beat the little sucker to hell. It's less of a nervous thing and more of a "Kill it, kill it, kill it, kill it. KILL IT!" type of thing

 

[Stevo_s]

The title pretty much explains it but I will go a bit further.
What do guys get nervous or worried about? particularly in the bedroom.
I ask because girls are always willing to share their insecurities with each other but guys don't seem to unless I'm dating them. Now I know that's because of the whole manly, not wanting to feel exposed thing but I am simply curious. Everyone has things they're insecure about and I want to know yours and am happy to share my own.

I will respond sincerely to your sincere post.

What do you worry/get nervous about in regards to sex?

I sometimes worry about coming to fast and wasting a condom, and worrying only makes it worse. But I also worry about going in to deep or if I don't please her.

Do you have any insecurities that you think are irrational? why?

I'm a smoker and she hates the smell of smoke.

I'm also very insecure about my body weight when I shouldn't be because I'm pretty fit.

I think a lot of times that if I don't please her she'll stop seeing me. Which is ridiculous cause she loves me.

Do you have any funny habits because of the above?

Yes, I never smoke near her I always shower and wash my mouth out to get rid of the cigarette smoke, if I don't get to shower then I feel very uncomfortable.

I tighten my abs a lot during sex makes me more comfortable because i think she'll like it more.

Almost always don't stop until she is satisfied which probably isn't a bad thing.

For me, I'm quite nervous about the appearance of my skin, I have very fair delicate skin and this means I scar very easily so I have a fair few little scratches and scars that I will have forever that I think would turn guys off.
I have a rather irrational insecurity about being on top, I just don't feel like I knkow what I'm doing in that position.

Don't be so nervous about your skin. Plenty of guys like a girl with marks, scars on their skin it makes your body more interesting.

In regards to that position if you can dance then you should be good. :] If not then do what feels good to you, it turns the guy on more when a girl is going wild on him haha.

 

[ChaoticKraus]

I always worry about seeming fat, i used to be chubby as a kid. This leads to me standing around with every muscle taut as fuck even though i am fairly buff already. But i do this often, even when just standing around waiting for the bus. This is both irrational, funny and sad depending on your view of it.

Then there's the usual worries, it seeming like i push for physical contact too early in a relationship, whether they compare me to others etc.

Overall though i seem to have trouble to find girls i both "click" (compatible personas) with and are attracted to.

Overall i rarely get nervous, only if i fuck something up for myself or people i respect/like. Oh and not being able to sleep the night before something important usually leads me to not being able to sleep. Which is why i have taken to drinking some strong liquor before these nights, even though i shouldn't

On a unrelated note: Fuck catchpa's and their unspellable words.

 

[AngelicSven]

I'm so strange, I really don't have any.
I use to have a metric fuck-ton back in high school but then I started to realize I was a lot better than the girls I was talking up. That gave me ton of confidence in be sociable and my ability to do pretty much everything.

 

[ManiacRaccoon]

since the meaning of life is to breed and pass on your genes :/ But I doubt there's any girls out there willing to put out with me anymore so I've pretty much given up hopes on them^^

....Weeeell I suppose it's one thing I could say, you know how all guys says "blowjobs are awesome", I suppose there are but I hate the idea and is terrified for it, being very submissive, I feel like I should be the one down there ._. you know what I'm saying duwds?

Not the real meaning of life, but that's another discussion. Don't give up hope and yes I do know what you mean on that last account.

 

[templargunman]

Hm... I don't really think about specifics too much, I just get nervous in general. I normally ignore it and it's fine, but it's always still in the back of my mind.

 

[gmergurl]

Hate to speak for my bf, but I find this topic odd so I'll go ahead and share both: (Technically we're both virgins, but that doesn't stop us from fooling around).

What he was most nervous about was me having a good time. Even after over a year he's still worried I'm faking, though I can't entirely blame him, I seem to be a natural at faking (according to him). Other than that, being unable to perform to my standards (wait, does that go with before?) Other than that, nothing comes to mind.

Me, as a girl, it's all about how I look. I am constantly aware that I probably look a hell of a lot less than stellar in the bedroom between acne/scars and other problems It's when I'm most self-conscious.

 

[Mr Companion]

I'm 20 years old and haven't been on a date or had my first kiss. I can contribute nothing to this topic but self-pity.

Neither have I. Im 18. But I feel that my life will be a simpler thing if I don't let other people get close enough to ruin it. Embrace the seclusion.

 

[Evil Moo]

I don't even want to think how insecure I'd be if I ever got that far in a relationship.

Being an incredibly shy person with a massive inferiority complex and an almost universally cynical attitude is apparently not exactly conducive to even getting close to starting a romantic relationship of any sort, or so my experience would lead me to believe. I wouldn't be particularly bothered by it if it wasn't for the nature of human biology that kind of imprints it in my mind as something that is somehow desirable.

 

[Jonluw]

Well, the acne on my back bothers me, though it has been getting better lately.
That said, I have no sexual experience, so uh, I dunno?
Most guys are probably worried about premature ejaculation and penis-size, I guess.

 

[Whateveralot]

I get nervous over failiure.

Not in anticipation of failiure; AFTER failiure. I hate facing it.

 

[AVATAR_RAGE]

Trying new things and getting into a rut, yeah I am nervous about a paradox

 

[Xman490]

As every month goes by, I think more and more that getting into a relationship is like getting a slot machine jackpot. Every attempt gets me little to nothing.

 

[Dragonborne88]

People shouldn't really worry about being a gamer, to be honest. The last few girls I've dated all were cool with it, and in fact, took part themselves most of the time. I've seen a current girl a couple times now who keeps up with my stupid game lore knowledge. Don't ever think that because of your hobby, you aren't going to get a girl. A lot of them are breaking into the field now.

And for you guys who really want to meet somebody, but don't know where to meet them, have you ever tried online dating? It's hit or miss, obviously, but meeting somebody in a club/activity is the same. And my ratio of success has been much HIGHER since I've started doing it then before, for obvious reasons. A good FREE one is OkCupid. Lots of hipster/gamer mates on there.