What do guys get nervous about?

[ChaoticKraus]

I always worry about seeming fat, i used to be chubby as a kid. This leads to me standing around with every muscle taut as fuck even though i am fairly buff already. But i do this often, even when just standing around waiting for the bus. This is both irrational, funny and sad depending on your view of it.

Then there's the usual worries, it seeming like i push for physical contact too early in a relationship, whether they compare me to others etc.

Overall though i seem to have trouble to find girls i both "click" (compatible personas) with and are attracted to.

Overall i rarely get nervous, only if i fuck something up for myself or people i respect/like. Oh and not being able to sleep the night before something important usually leads me to not being able to sleep. Which is why i have taken to drinking some strong liquor before these nights, even though i shouldn't

On a unrelated note: Fuck catchpa's and their unspellable words.

 

[AngelicSven]

I'm so strange, I really don't have any.
I use to have a metric fuck-ton back in high school but then I started to realize I was a lot better than the girls I was talking up. That gave me ton of confidence in be sociable and my ability to do pretty much everything.

 

[ManiacRaccoon]

since the meaning of life is to breed and pass on your genes :/ But I doubt there's any girls out there willing to put out with me anymore so I've pretty much given up hopes on them^^

....Weeeell I suppose it's one thing I could say, you know how all guys says "blowjobs are awesome", I suppose there are but I hate the idea and is terrified for it, being very submissive, I feel like I should be the one down there ._. you know what I'm saying duwds?

Not the real meaning of life, but that's another discussion. Don't give up hope and yes I do know what you mean on that last account.

 

[templargunman]

Hm... I don't really think about specifics too much, I just get nervous in general. I normally ignore it and it's fine, but it's always still in the back of my mind.

 

[gmergurl]

Hate to speak for my bf, but I find this topic odd so I'll go ahead and share both: (Technically we're both virgins, but that doesn't stop us from fooling around).

What he was most nervous about was me having a good time. Even after over a year he's still worried I'm faking, though I can't entirely blame him, I seem to be a natural at faking (according to him). Other than that, being unable to perform to my standards (wait, does that go with before?) Other than that, nothing comes to mind.

Me, as a girl, it's all about how I look. I am constantly aware that I probably look a hell of a lot less than stellar in the bedroom between acne/scars and other problems It's when I'm most self-conscious.

 

[Mr Companion]

I'm 20 years old and haven't been on a date or had my first kiss. I can contribute nothing to this topic but self-pity.

Neither have I. Im 18. But I feel that my life will be a simpler thing if I don't let other people get close enough to ruin it. Embrace the seclusion.

 

[Evil Moo]

I don't even want to think how insecure I'd be if I ever got that far in a relationship.

Being an incredibly shy person with a massive inferiority complex and an almost universally cynical attitude is apparently not exactly conducive to even getting close to starting a romantic relationship of any sort, or so my experience would lead me to believe. I wouldn't be particularly bothered by it if it wasn't for the nature of human biology that kind of imprints it in my mind as something that is somehow desirable.

 

[Jonluw]

Well, the acne on my back bothers me, though it has been getting better lately.
That said, I have no sexual experience, so uh, I dunno?
Most guys are probably worried about premature ejaculation and penis-size, I guess.

 

[Whateveralot]

I get nervous over failiure.

Not in anticipation of failiure; AFTER failiure. I hate facing it.

 

[AVATAR_RAGE]

Trying new things and getting into a rut, yeah I am nervous about a paradox

 

[Xman490]

As every month goes by, I think more and more that getting into a relationship is like getting a slot machine jackpot. Every attempt gets me little to nothing.

 

[Dragonborne88]

People shouldn't really worry about being a gamer, to be honest. The last few girls I've dated all were cool with it, and in fact, took part themselves most of the time. I've seen a current girl a couple times now who keeps up with my stupid game lore knowledge. Don't ever think that because of your hobby, you aren't going to get a girl. A lot of them are breaking into the field now.

And for you guys who really want to meet somebody, but don't know where to meet them, have you ever tried online dating? It's hit or miss, obviously, but meeting somebody in a club/activity is the same. And my ratio of success has been much HIGHER since I've started doing it then before, for obvious reasons. A good FREE one is OkCupid. Lots of hipster/gamer mates on there.

 

[Magic Cheese]

I sometimes suffer delayed ejaculation, which of course is at the opposite end of the spectrum of premature ejaculation. And also not to be confused with "Hurr hurr I'm so manly I last long time derp". No, it can be a legitimate issue when the girl your dating thinks the guy is supposed to get off every time. I get self conscious about it, then she gets self conscious because she thinks I'm not attracted to her, and then everything gets awkward.

We've found that if we're both a little tipsy (me in particular) then we have a great time, though.

 

[Magic Cheese]

I actually dated

People shouldn't really worry about being a gamer, to be honest. The last few girls I've dated all were cool with it, and in fact, took part themselves most of the time. I've seen a current girl a couple times now who keeps up with my stupid game lore knowledge. Don't ever think that because of your hobby, you aren't going to get a girl. A lot of them are breaking into the field now.

And for you guys who really want to meet somebody, but don't know where to meet them, have you ever tried online dating? It's hit or miss, obviously, but meeting somebody in a club/activity is the same. And my ratio of success has been much HIGHER since I've started doing it then before, for obvious reasons. A good FREE one is OkCupid. Lots of hipster/gamer mates on there.

I dated a girl who had an Ocarina app on her phone and was ALL ABOUT some Zelda. I informed I had only played through Ocarina of Time once... every year... for the last 12 years... We had a good run

Wish the girl I'm talking to now was more of a gamer dork, although we did play a little Streets of Rage on the Wii the other night and had a blast lol.

 

[someonehairy-ish]

With most girls I'd worry about things. I never feel awkward or anything with my current girlfriend, we trust each other a lot and we know what the other likes and what their limits are well enough that we don't need to worry about that. I sometimes worry I'm getting out of shape etc but thats a general worry atm while in the bedroom or otherwise.
I think most men probably worry about their bodies more than they let on. Other than that just worries about performance. Is it too fast/slow/rough/gentle/deep etc and ofc the danger of getting overexcited and things going too quickly but that fades with age and experience.

The post above me reminded me that people with hobbies like gaming might get nervous but I think that's more to do with forming relationships than in the bedroom. Unless you're really that addicted that you'll stop halfway through sex to get to a raid on wow.
It shouldn't really be a problem anyway. Most girls have at least dabbled in gaming and plenty of em game a lot. My girlfriend is hooked on Nazi Zombies and Red Dead Redemption atm xD

 

[Strife17O7]

Women who have the guile and the patience to make you think they genuinely like you. Which is probably about 95%.

Agreed. And yes, I too possess a considerable amount of self-loathing.

Insecurities: Body hair...is -it- too small/too big...What is she thinking about that guy over there? Who is she thinking about apart from (me)?
Worries: Does she even care at all or is she just wasting my time? Does she have similar opinions/interests as me?

And since some have started it already at this point..No, I am not a virgin. Just not -heavily- experienced as it were.....Yet I'm not terribly worried about a girl becoming pregnant...My only concern there is whether or not I like her enough or not. Any who would dislike me for such a thing, I don't care much for anyway. Besides, I've always wanted kids...just not sure when/how. If she want's an abortion though...I guess fine...maybe it's necessary given the circumstances, idk...-_-