cynicalsaint1 said:
orangeban said:
To help clear this up, changing one's gender is about a lot more than social acceptance. It's about accepting yourself and being happy with your own body. Society doesn't accept because society is shitty and biased like that, but at least once you've changed you can be happy with yourself.
Holy leap-frogging quotes batman!
I guess what I don't get is why not learn to accept yourself as a male who happens to be rather feminine, rather than try to make yourself into a counterfeit-version of something you can never truly be. Having a boobs and a vagina and a high-pitched voice really isn't what being female is. In a way it seems more like trying to fool yourself than confront and accept who you really are.
Well, I think I don't want to accept myself as male. Here's the thing, I don't want to be female, I want to be without gender, but living the feminine lifestyle (using current standards of feminity)
I don't really like the current masculine lifestyle, I despise societal norms bullshit like "boy don't cry" and "real men are good at fighting!" I'm not tough, I'm not "manly" and my aspirations in life go farther than "protecting my girl" and "becoming a CEO".
The feminine lifestyle seems nicer to me, I'll admit that I've wondered if this is just a case of me saying the grass is greener on the other side, but to me it seems the expectations that society has for women, and what is socially acceptable for women to do is... well I hesitate to say easier, but more fitting to who I am as a person. Plus, the clothes are nicer.
Now, why do I need to actually live as a female to do all that stuff? Well, I dunno, because I think that society would be more accepting? That a trans-woman doing those things is more acceptable than a man doing it? That the only way to escape those expectation (rather than ignore them) is to switch gender? Maybe, I'm not sure, like I said, I only really came out to *myself* (and a close friend) a few days ago, I'm still working out the details.
The thing is, I would technically be "a man who was rather feminine" but I figure that I'd be *so* feminine that I would basically be female. It isn't really about the breasts, high-pitched voice and vagina for me, like I said, I'd probably only get that stuff so that society would be more accepting of me. A shallow reason perhaps, but it's my reason.
Only I probably wouldn't get a vagina, the idea of genital surgery is absolutely gob-smackingly terrifying to me. Got nothing against those who do, but the idea just makes me shiver.
Edit: Yeah, I'm only speaking for myself here, but still, I can only really speak for myself. Sorry 'bout that.
Oh, and I basically answer your earlier question here, just slot "giving birth" next to having breasts, a vagina and a high-pitched voice. I accept that most current ideas of what feminine is stem from the whole baby thing, but that doesn't mean they are mutually-dependant. You can have one without the other.