What is your deal breaker?

[bigsby]

I have three, and I expect alot of flame for the first one but whatever:
1. Religious: and I don´t mean fundamentalist religious, just religious, as in believing in a god of some kind
2. High Maintenance
3. Overly clingy

 

[DefinitelyPsychotic]

You might want to fix your title. I'm just saiyan.

You were just dying to say that, weren't you?

If she's a chain smoker, or if she's an atheist. Those are the only two things that I will not tolerate.

 

[smithy_2045]

Fatness. I can't stand fat people.

 

[Mischa87]

Stupidity would be the biggest one, and I mean stupidity in the general sense, as in doing stupid things. Like abusing drugs/alcohol, being a bigot, being unable to proof-read a thread title, ect

 

[Farther than stars]

Drugs, Alcohol and/or smoking: I won't date a girl who's actively ruining her own body and ensuring her early death.

Obesity: I won't date a girl who's passively ruining her own body and ensuring her early death.

Stupidity: I won't date a girl who'll constantly and persistently annoy me.

Woah... that's a pretty endemic concern with death there. I'm sure Freud would have something to say about that.
I hear what you're saying about smoking, but for me it's more aesthetic. I've never actually kissed a girl who's a smoker, although I hear it's pretty disgusting and judging by the way I dislike cigarette smoke, it's not exactly a goal of mine and all things being even, I'd definitely go for the non-smoker.
As for obesity, it's still an aesthetic matter for me; nothing to do with death. Indeed, heavily obese women I don't find beautiful. But some girls being overweight, even pushing obese, I can still find attractive because of other qualities.

 

[Togs]

-Religious
-Pseudo-agnostic "I SPiRTaUL!" type people
-Right leaning politics
-Bitchiness
-Stupidity

 

[Evaheist666]

being too controlling.

 

[Farther than stars]

I have three, and I expect alot of flame for the first one but whatever:
1. Religious: and I don´t mean fundamentalist religious, just religious, as in believing in a god of some kind
2. High Maintenance
3. Overly clingy

Nope, no flame. That wouldn't make any sense either, because love and attraction are completely relative and as with free will nobody else should enforce their standards on them. So I won't. But it did make me laugh though, because with an overwhelming majority of the world being Christian, let alone religious, I can see you having a pretty hard time finding a suitable partner. XD

 

[SirDeadly]

I have to say, Clinginess?. It?s the one thing i can?t tolerate. I can tolerate an annoying laugh or a religion as long as they don?t try to force it on me. For example i dated a woman, who i was quite happy with for the first month. Until she got clingy... to the point of calling my cell phone while i was in the washroom. To tell me she missed me. For context, she was in the living room watching TV, and i had only been gone for about 3 minutes. I draw the line at potty calls.

As he said. That and being a complete bogan...

 

[pope_of_larry]

a penis to be blunt.

 

[Unia]

Every other response has intelligence as criteria. Funny enough, a guy once said he'd totally make a move for me "if I wasn't too smart for him".
Never did get the real reason.

I won't list smoking, religious fundamentalism or such as those things tend to come up before the deal-breaker phase in a crush. There's less obvious things like

*Being manipulative/submissive - if I ask you a question, I want to know what you think, not what you think I want to hear.

*Being violent - there is no excuse.

OP: I know what you mean. I met my friend's boyfriend for the first time at her birthday party. She pretty much greeted us with the guy's hand down her blouse. All through the evening he just couldn't keep his hands to himself. I propably had my "are you serious?!" face on the whole time. Aimed at my friend, she could do better.

 

[thermo1]

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[thenumberthirteen]

Cheating. I hate it when a girlfriend cheats on me loads. A little bit can be ok, but if it's every night with a different person then that's where I draw the line.

Wait, what? You're okay with being cheated on "a little bit"? What does that even mean? Surely you either cheat on someone or you don't. There's no half meassures... at least not in my world.

I know a lot of girls who seem to consider kissing another guy doesn't count as cheating. Umm, you put your tongue in his mouth, you made a conscious choice to do so and therefore you were not being faithful to me. That's cheating and that's an absolute no no for me.

I define "a little bit" by both amount and severity, but the main way is by intent, and the emotions felt. I'm ok with my girlfriends going out and kissing people, or even sleeping with someone. Provided she's honest about it, she still loves me and wants to be with me, and she's not having a serious relationship with that person. It's ok to have some fun every so often. We're young.

This is something that never really came up until I went out with a girl who had some serious sexual issues, and would, basically, sleep with anything that moved. The relationship we had was different. We stayed together for a few months, and I helped her through her self image issues (which lead to anorexia, alcohol, drug abuse). I knew she was sleeping around A LOT, it was no secret, but I knew it was a symptom of her problems. I told her it was ok, and by bringing it out in the open (she knew I knew of course, but it went unsaid) I got her to be sure to be careful and to use protection (I was really worried she'd end up catching HIV or something). We broke up because she suffered from really bad mood swings, and I couldn't take her throwing everything back in my face all the time. Last I herd her parents were looking to get her sectioned. I sure know how to pick 'em

My point is that as long as I know that I come first in her heart, and she loves me then I'm ok with that.

I, of course, don't take my personal standpoint as an excuse for me to sleep around in a relationship.

 

[smithy_2045]

Also smoking. I already have enough trouble breathing, I don't need to be inhaling toxic smoke all the time.

 

[Kenami]

-If her best friend is her mother.
Things become too awkward.

No need to explain this one, I know exactly what you mean.

For me it'd be:

Smoking. I can tolerate it but smoking generally makes me want to steer clear from a person or at least count the minutes we spend together, I think this would be counter productive towards dating someone.

Self-image issues. I don't care what anyone says but to me there is nothing more annoying than a girl who needs an ego boost every day. You know what I'm talking about, "I look awful in pictures." or "I want to hang out with my friends but they look so much better than me." Telling a person they look good is certainly expected when dating/in a relationship but when you're dating a person who shoots down compliments due to their own issues...that just sucks to no end. I've also found it quite odd to date girls who were uncomfortable with their image to the point of excessively working out. I guess I'd simply like to date a girl who was comfortable in her skin and didn't feel the need to reflect on what society viewed as "acceptable" in terms of looks.

Bad listening skills. Communication is key for a relationship. One way I easily distinguish girls I'd like to date to girls I'd only be friends with is if I could stand talking to them for longer than 5 minutes (hell a mean feat for anyone I interact with to achieve). I say bad listening skills because I have dated people in the past who can look attentive but once the rebuttal comes into play it's so clear nothing I said was grasped upon, in my opinion one of the worst things a human being can do is waste their time and I don't think you should ever have to feel as though you're doing that with a person.

 

[BoogieManFL]

I wouldn't date someone who is a smoker, drug/addiction problems, a racist, has anger issues, is excessively unintelligent, or is rude and inconsiderate. And the more obvious ones like unfaithful, dishonest, etc.

I don't care how hot you are, if I don't like you as a person it's not going to work.

 

[Hamish Durie]

ok i haven't been in this sitution so i have no point of context blah blah blah

instead when i walk into a store and see a game with 100% reveiws and all my friends tell me that my life will not be complete without it it,
i will disregard it if it has bad box art

 

[Crystalite]

I, of course, don't take my personal standpoint as an excuse for me to sleep around in a relationship.

Hey, kudos for that!
Most men I hear designating their relationships as "open" do so knowing the girl is unlikely to go around, but do so themselves frequently ;-)

For me, I wont say stupidity, because that implies I´m not stupid. But I like my partners smarter than me, at least.
Also a man has to be stronger than me.
Thats it, really...

 

[Biosophilogical]

A lot of things could be deal-breakers. Smoking (possibly), drug use (including alcoholism), dumb-as-bricks, significantly younger than me (I'm talking pedophilia and ages close to that, not "Oh no! I'm 35 and you are only 29!"), slut, practicing theist in a stupid religion, over-clingy, emotionally distant, non-humanoid (if it is love, I don't think a near-human alien would be too far), sociopathic murderer, no self-confidence, too arrogant/selfish/narcissistic. The list probably goes on.

 

[Biosophilogical]

You might want to fix your title. I'm just saiyan.

or if she's an atheist

o.0 Say what? I ... I don't follow. I mean, I can understand if you mean you don't want one of those people that will constantly judge you for your beliefs, but not all atheists are like that. And it doesn't make the same sense as the reverse (an atheist not wanting a religious partner) because the reason for that is because religion has no logical necessity/basis, whereas religion is about faith and personal experience, so someone not sharing your belief is just par for the course.

Seriously, I have no idea why you would make atheism a deal-breaker, and I'd really like you to tell me why (I won't pick it apart, or criticise it, I just want your answer and then I'll leave it at that).

EDIT: Ah crap. Double post. My apologies oh, Mod-gods.