NOTE: I AM IN NO WAY CONDONING ADULTERY; but I do wonder why exactly having an affair merits the overwhelming negative response it gets?
There is nothing wrong with having relationships with multple people at the same time, as long as they are aware of this and agree to it. The reason it merits an overwhelming negative response is the dishonesty, manipulation, betrayal involved and the risks you are exposing multiple partners to. It is often seen the same as being a "con artist" and stealing. Being a liar also merits a negative response as well as not keeping your word. There are different types of relationships some that allow for you to see others and some that do not just as you have different types of contracts. If you wish to be in a relationship where you and your partner date others, that is fine because you both agreed to it, and you both are aware of the risks you are exposing yourselves to. When you are in a monogomous relationship however, you are basically breaching a relationship contract and not keeping your word and exposing your partner to risks without their consent. There is much more to it than that, but that basically addresses the biggest reasons I think it gets such a negative response. People often view that if someone would be willing to betray someone they supposedly care about, they would also not be someone you would trust with other matters that they care even less about. You would be branded as " untrustworthy" and " dishonorable".Professor James said:NOTE: I AM IN NO WAY CONDONING ADULTERY; but I do wonder why exactly having an affair merits the overwhelming negative response it gets?
You can't control your mind, it does what it does you can however control your body, so being attracted to others or falling in love with someone else is not something you can really stop, as long as it stops there though.Darken12 said:...emotional cheating) as "not really counting"...
I think your confusing emotional cheating with lusting after someone.Boris Goodenough said:You can't control your mind, it does what it does you can however control your body, so being attracted to others or falling in love with someone else is not something you can really stop, as long as it stops there though.Darken12 said:...emotional cheating) as "not really counting"...
Off the top of my head, cheating doesn't speak very highly of your trustworthiness. And once you deceive someone that close to you, anybody else would think you'd be just as cool with deceiving them.Professor James said:NOTE: I AM IN NO WAY CONDONING ADULTERY; but I do wonder why exactly having an affair merits the overwhelming negative response it gets?
I didn't know falling in love was under the category of lust (we're probably just talking past each other anyhow).madwarper said:I think your confusing emotional cheating with lusting after someone.
Cheating on an emotional level is developing with an emotionally intimate relationship that has yet to turn physical.
Emotional cheating is not being attracted to another person. Emotional cheating is developing an entire relationship with someone else (minus the sex), possibly falling in love with them (though this is not a requirement), while you are already in another relationship. It's a deliberate sequence of acts. You go on dates with them, you flirt, you act like you're a couple, and so on, but you don't have sex with them. All that is emotional cheating.Boris Goodenough said:You can't control your mind, it does what it does you can however control your body, so being attracted to others or falling in love with someone else is not something you can really stop, as long as it stops there though.Darken12 said:...emotional cheating) as "not really counting"...
I might have misread your original post, but I think there's a difference between falling in love with an idolized concept of someone and actually forming an emotional relationship with them.Boris Goodenough said:I didn't know falling in love was under the category of lust (we're probably just talking past each other anyhow).
Well my point was if you fell in love with someone is beyond your control and as long as you don't act on it it's not cheating.
It's a philosophical question. What would make you assume they are trolling?Silverslith said:I have to assume you are trolling.Professor James said:NOTE: I AM IN NO WAY CONDONING ADULTERY; but I do wonder why exactly having an affair merits the overwhelming negative response it gets?
Really?
Because its obvious, that's why I would assume. People don't like cheating because its betraying the trust of someone you supposedly love, which is a shitty thing to do. It'd be fine if both partners agreed to sleep with other people, but you know, that's not sleeping, that's poly.Abomination said:It's a philosophical question. What would make you assume they are trolling?Silverslith said:I have to assume you are trolling.Professor James said:NOTE: I AM IN NO WAY CONDONING ADULTERY; but I do wonder why exactly having an affair merits the overwhelming negative response it gets?
Really?
There is a disproportionate amount of disgust towards adulterers compared to the actual practical damage caused by their actions. It is reasonable to inquire to multiple people on a forum as to why they think that is.