A couple of days ago I was hanging out with my boyfriend and a few of his friends and marriage came up as a general conversation topic. I was the only girl in the room and I asked everyone whether they would expect their future spouse to take their surname or if they would ever consider taking their spouse's second name instead of their own.
None of them said that they would be willing to give up their own name but that they wouldn't expect their spouse to give up her surname either. Only one said that he would like his family to have the same second name, so he would prefer if his future wife to take his surname but would be open to taking hers if she really pushed the subject.
So, regardless of your gender, would you be open to the idea of changing your second name after marriage? Are you a traditionalist who would expect your wife to take your surname and would never consider giving up your own? Or, would you want both parties to keep their birth names?
Personally, I don't think I could ever give up my name, it's very important to me. Of course, I wouldn't expect my spouse to give his up either.
None of them said that they would be willing to give up their own name but that they wouldn't expect their spouse to give up her surname either. Only one said that he would like his family to have the same second name, so he would prefer if his future wife to take his surname but would be open to taking hers if she really pushed the subject.
So, regardless of your gender, would you be open to the idea of changing your second name after marriage? Are you a traditionalist who would expect your wife to take your surname and would never consider giving up your own? Or, would you want both parties to keep their birth names?
Personally, I don't think I could ever give up my name, it's very important to me. Of course, I wouldn't expect my spouse to give his up either.