Would you want a relationship with a tomboy/tomgirl?

[Phasmal]

Pretty sure I am a tomboy, but it depends on your definition.
Would I date a less masculine guy? I did, before.
We used to joke about how I was the dude in that relationship.

 

[Cheesepower5]

If a woman has interests or personality more in line with what we'd expect of a man... Hell, that's a bonus.

I don't wanna get dragged around to pottery fairs and shit like that.

 

[Vault101]

huh what?.......do we ask questions like this anymore?..I mean really? are people actually as "defined" by gener sterotypes and traits as we think?

hmm...I wouldn't want to be with a guy who was all emotaionally clingly and shit if thats part of it I supose

 

[krazykidd]

Are they hot?

Because I'm incredibly shallow, my criteria for partners is simply
1.must be nice to look at.
2.must not be obnoxious.

That leaves a lot of breathing room for other stuff.

This.

Also, it's unlikely a very feminin girl would even be attracted to me so ...

 

[manic_depressive13]

I would rather go out with a well rounded human being who didn't fit neatly into any stereotypes. However, if I were given the option of dating a "tomgirl" it would depend on the extent. I don't like masculine men but I don't think I'd feel comfortable with someone who put more effort into their appearance than I do.

 

[optimusjamie]

A tomboy, you say?
Well, that depends. If by 'tomboy' you mean a girl that shares my interests, then yes, probably.

 

[novixz]

This thread is about you would be okay about being in a relationship with a member of the opposite sex, who displays traits of your sex. They aren't your dream partner or your ideal partner...

1) Why would I not try to be in a relationship with someone who I felt could be my ideal partner?

2) I have no idea what "traits of my sex" is supposed to mean. If you mean gender-based stereotypes, then I would hope either myself or my partner fitting such stereotypes would be purely incidental, and it's certainly not something I'd give much thought to when choosing a partner.

When I say ideal I actually mean perfect, it's this whole philosophical thing I have. I mean it's not your idea of a perfect partner, who will just whisk into reality on a wish.

When I say traits of your sex I mean how masculine/feminin they are.

 

[game-lover]

I am uncertain.

Because I'm pretty sure I want some masculinity. If he can be like those "bishounen" in anime, then maybe. Basically pretty boys in every sense of the word but still strong, tough, cocky and all those alpha male traits.

Only then. But I figure if a tomgirl is physically attractive to me, then all that will be a given. At least I hope so.

 

[bojackx]

I'm not really sure.

I find feminine traits and behaviours attractive but I'd also like to share things in common with them, which of course is more likely if they were a tomboy. However, I wouldn't want them being too manly, because man behaviour is just something I don't look for in partners, being a straight guy and all that shizz.

 

[dimensional]

I dont see a problem I think in way I am attracted to tomgirls as I am attracted to er girly girls it all depends on how well we gel and looks of course in not living that high of an existence, there has to be some kind of sexual attraction.

I suppose my preferred girl does exhibit masculine tendencies just not predominantly so i.e not more than me.

 

[Mr. GameBrain]

Well... sometimes I can be a bit feminine and emotional.

...

Okay! Okay! So I'm like that a lot.

Point is, I wouldn't mind so much. I think I'm well balanced enough to get on with most women.
(Maybe too much, since all the ones I ever get friendly with just see me as one of the gals! XD)

Nothing wrong with displaying unusual traits. If anything it makes you more interesting.
(I rank personality over looks, (to a reasonable degree), any day! XD)

EDIT:

Is it weird for a grown man to pick up and cradle a cat like a baby?
(And carry him around the house... Yeah.. he doesn't like it very much, but I still do it anyway! (I love how squiggly he gets! <3))

Or make silly faces at children while he works?
(Yeah, I love to make children smile. Makes me all gooey! Makes my day!)

Or cry when things really are going badly in life?

If yes, then this is a world I do not want to live in! XD

 

[Ranylyn]

I'm in a stable, long term relationship myself, and while I'd hardly call my fiancee a tomboy, I'd hardly call her feminine, either. She's... how can I put this? I dunno. She doesn't wear jewelry or obsess over clothes or makeup or any of that, but she also doesn't really play sports or obsess over things like cars or firearms, either.

But me? I'm less than manly. My voice alone is nasal and sounds perfect for a stereotypical ubernerd freckled preteen with the biggest classes that can possibly fit on his face. I'm also more emotional than is considered "manly." But she loves my sensitivity to mood and whatnot. I can almost always tell when is a good time to speak up or keep quiet, and I can even pick up on when she's feeling romantic or not.

Point being... I guess it's not all that bad to be one or the other, but a combination of both could have judgmental outsiders being dicks.

 

[Booze Zombie]

Yes, I would be perfectly fine with this.

 

[Snowbell]

I would probably be ok with this

Oh wait, I'm a straight female so I wouldn't date a tomboy anyway :|

Captcha; Make my day
Yes, please do

 

[mental_looney]

Shrug I like similar qualities so depends on the person I guess

 

[Queen Michael]

The last three people I fell in love with were

1. A ftm transsexual, that is, somebody who wants to get surgery to become a man biologically.

2. A lesbian who's basically a younger Alison Bechdel.

3. A girl who is a teenager but doesn't behave like one, and who practiced kickboxing for a long time.

QED.

 

[SeeIn2D]

Well my girlfriend enjoys video games, soccer, and stuff like that so I guess she kind of counts although she doesn't dress like a guy unless she borrows my clothes for whatever reason but it's always shirts so they don't count. So I guess no? Maybe? Not sure, someone tell me if they would define my girlfriend as such based on that description.

 

[robot slipper]

I'm a girl who enjoys watching and playing sport, and of course gaming. I'm not butch or anything, in fact when people find out I like those things they are usually surprised. Most of my male friends think thats cool. But there's the thing - having loads in common with the guys I know hasn't got me anywhere, I am a terminal friend. They all tend to go out with girls who they who are much more pretty than me (not difficult), but with whom they have much less in common. I'm not being bitter, those are just the facts. Or maybe they are put off by someone who likes the things that they like? Maybe there is some weight to this "opposites attract" thing.

It is especially annoying though when one of them sits there and moans about their girlfriend's inane chatter or how she spends loads of time and money going around buying shoes or whatever and I'm thinking "Well I don't do any of that shit! Go out with me!!!"

I would like any guy who I got on well with and had stuff in common with. So if a guy was into clothes and shopping and shiny objects and stuff I would probably get bored pretty quickly.

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

My GF is a tomboy. And I would not have her any other way.

She's into gaming, she's HARDCORE into anime and yugioh, and she takes Karate on and off. Her favorite games are beat 'em ups and RPGs. She also likes programming with C++, and doesn't obsess over her appearance. Although she can pull off a FANTASTIC Shin Megami tensai "angel" for conventions.

Spoiler: This angel basically

Yeah, I kinda hit the jackpot when we fell for each other. XD

 

[Relish in Chaos]

I'm a girl who enjoys watching and playing sport, and of course gaming. I'm not butch or anything, in fact when people find out I like those things they are usually surprised. Most of my male friends think thats cool. But there's the thing - having loads in common with the guys I know hasn't got me anywhere, I am a terminal friend. They all tend to go out with girls who they who are much more pretty than me (not difficult), but with whom they have much less in common. I'm not being bitter, those are just the facts. Or maybe they are put off by someone who likes the things that they like? Maybe there is some weight to this "opposites attract" thing.

It is especially annoying though when one of them sits there and moans about their girlfriend's inane chatter or how she spends loads of time and money going around buying shoes or whatever and I'm thinking "Well I don't do any of that shit! Go out with me!!!"

I don't mean to be blunt, but it's probably just the fact that they're prettier than you. No matter what people say, sexual attraction plays a big part in a relationship. Maybe it's just that they never thought of you in that way.