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I get this once in a while too. If this disinterest happens after about a month from the start then I might have advice-Duck Sandwich said:
It has to do with muscle memory. Your muscles have gotten good at doing certain things and your brain has started to go on auto pilot. You can try doing the same training in a different way (harder, faster, stronger, etc) or you can take on a second type of training to mix it up.
That's good! Multiplayer games are the best for this. Try to lean towards cooperative games when you can (WOW, Maple Story, etc).xitel said:
If she's not much of a gamer then go for a 2D MMO. The social aspects will likely be more accessible and offscreen stuff will be easier to remember.
Burn the building down and dance around it naked. Perhaps even chanting.fix-the-spade said:
on a serious note; it depends how much you needed that job. If you got a wife, kids, mortgage maybe you need to cry yourself to sleep then get up and go look for another Job. If you ain't got many responsiblitys then blow your redundancy package on a gap year. Then go look for a job when (hopefully) there are more going.
Not when your life goal is to have fun. I had a bit of a traumatic experience a while back, and ever since then I've been living my life to have as much fun as possible. If something bores me, I stop doing it. My problem is convincing myself that going to class now ensures fun later in life. I've actually come to blows over it before.Greever said:
You'll just have to reduce your state of mind from thinking to acting. People can surprise themselves at what they can do when "they have to". What you want to do is aim & fire. You're not even going to think "This is only to protect the good people". You're not going to think at all. You will simply know that you have to do this. & go out there & do it.Haliwali said:
P.S., if you're killing people in Iraq, please watch out for my relatives. They're great people, I promise you. I have no more friends that live there, so you can go all out on everyone else.
For the waking up problem, I can also recommend you get someone who wouldn't mind to call you every morning. If it's a friend it's easy to ignore, so look for someone you wouldn't wanna get caught oversleeping by. You can go all the way up to asking your professor to do this. Talk to your (advice-giving dude, forgot the name... counsel?) & perhaps they can help you set it up. Be shy, that's the point. You wanna get embarrassed every time they call you in your sleep.notyouraveragejoe said:
It's only natural. If you have a friend who moved away & you tried to stay in contact, it'd be no different. You'd probably not even want to contact them for THE LACK OF STUFF TO SPEAK ABOUT. I'm sure she feels the same way. It's mostly because doing stuff together is more fun than talking together.xitel said:
I honestly don't have a proper way on how to fix this. Yes, finding a suitable multiplayer game to play together would be great, coop OR against each other (especially if she's competetive). But otherwise, it boils down to both of you understanding that there's hardly anything to talk about, but it's still nice to see each other, even if only online. If you like each other, that's all you should need. Try not to be awkward about the fact that you've got nothing to say, joke about it even, & talk about it. Don't go all psychologist/psychiatrist, just talk to each other about how hard it is to find something worthwhile to speak about. But remember that it's always nice to catch each other online.
Well, the biggest problem is not that she moved away, but that she was never here to begin with. We're trying to work out when we could actually meet in person, but until then all of our correspondence has to be done online.PsykoDragon said:
I figured that out when you said you met her on L4D. But in the end it's not very different from having been separated after meeting. Only thing is the bond might be less strong due to the fact that you haven't met, but then since you're making plans to meet, things should be ok. You just have to both realize that all LDR's are like that. Unless you're one of those exceptional couples that exist only in movies, where you keep finding stuff to talk about ALL THE TIME. LDR's are hard, not really because of the distance. They're hard because you miss being together (which you haven't done yet, but that should be fixed soon), & because it's hard to find something to get excited about together.xitel said:
Get made redundant means lose job/be fired. If this is the case I recommend trying to find a job very similar to what you had. If things start to get difficult finding a job ask your spouse (if you have one) to get a job, if only temporary, to help support the family. If it's not possible try branching out into different sectors, even if the pay is slightly lower. This way you increase your job diversity and you can easier move around.corporate_gamer said:
My Own Problems:
Hey thanks for all the help. For the nightmare stuff I eat about two hours before sleep and stress hovers around me. I can't get rid of the stress (last two weeks before holidays mean we get exam marks back and must do a ton of work for report card). But the thing is that my nightmares are of the most random things. Occasionally it goes on to stuff I can understand but the rest is like a swirling shadows, masses of light...etc. For some reason this freaks me out.
Continuing the divorce thing. I see my Dad for new years and I don't know how I feel about this. Should I be angry at him for making things so difficult for my Mum? Should I accept him? But most importantly...should I still love him? Is it wrong if I do?
Although it's perfectly natural to feel angry with him, you also have to remember that he is your father and wants to see you, and you should try to remain impartial to both parties. After all there may be more to it than you realise. Of course it isn't wrong to love him and you still should.notyouraveragejoe said:
notyouraveragejoe said:
I think the best thing you can do is to get his side of the story. And yes, he is your father, and he does want to see you, so you shouldn't go into this angry and hating him. Just keep in mind that every story has two sides.galletea said:
To deal with bitterness you can do a few things. I recommend joining a team or starting a sport (especially boxing). Or if you're less sporty do what I did and start playing an instrument. If a fit of rage/venom hits you, let it out once in a while just to let people know how little you fucking care whether or not their life rocks.
I heard my Dads side of the story. The reason they split up is because he changed (and its not my Mum saying that its that I saw that). My Dad doesn't know why he doesn't have money to give my Mum. I think that's bullshit and that is what pisses me off the most. Also it seems like he doesn't care. I know for sure that he threw a party last saturday. I find that disgusting. I'm also scared with how I'll act when I see him since I don't want to make him feel bad since I think he's beating himself up.
Overall Dilemma: It feels like my parents are trying to get me to pick between them but I can't. It is possible to love both without hurting either?
I heard my Dads side of the story. The reason they split up is because he changed (and its not my Mum saying that its that I saw that). My Dad doesn't know why he doesn't have money to give my Mum. I think that's bullshit and that is what pisses me off the most. Also it seems like he doesn't care. I know for sure that he threw a party last saturday. I find that disgusting. I'm also scared with how I'll act when I see him since I don't want to make him feel bad since I think he's beating himself up.
Overall Dilemma: It feels like my parents are trying to get me to pick between them but I can't. It is possible to love both without hurting either?
Though never on good terms from my three dad's, I think best advice is to support both as much as you want. But if you feel your dad is making it harder on your mom I would suggest to speak to him about it. Trust me no matter how it goes you want to go say how you feel in these situations rather then biting your tongue.notyouraveragejoe said:
Overall: Just do not regret not saying or taking a stand if you want,Or you may not get that chance to sit down again with them. Support and love them both in the way you want to and that's all both of them should ask for is that support and love.
The thing is I have trouble confronting either of my parents since I'm really over-protective of them. This means I am afraid that confronting either will cause them pain. Also if I confront my Dad he may feel that I resent him for becoming who he is. Changing to make himself "better." Argh...I hate divorce.