We're prepping for our annual river trip next weekend, and yet again, against my warnings and examples from recent history (we just came back from Ohio a couple of weeks ago,) my girlfriend has offered our empty house/pool to her mother and any other family she wants to bring with her.
A little background, she does not get along with her mother. After that, her mom insists on moving shit around, and the family she brings tends to be her grandkids who, along with my gf's son, make a mess of the house and destroy everything. They can't figure out the dishwasher or washing machine, so we always come back to full devices on both ends. And since we have three beds, we have three loads of laundry to do atop whatever we bring back from the river.
She does this every time we leave, and upon setting foot in the house when we get back immediately gets pissed at all she has to do to clean up behind her family, but refuses to listen when I warn her against offering the house while we're gone in the first place. Imagine someone with a bee allergy who insists on owning an apiary, then complains at you every time they have to run for an EpiPen after being stung by a bee; THAT'S my girlfriend. I hate being the one to tell her "don't invite your family to use the house" because as someone who comes from a very close-knit family, that sounds like a dick sentiment, but I know how this is going to go. And since her family is long gone by the time we get back, I'm left as the sole recipient of her ire who's "not doing enough" to help her clean up after her mom and 4 teenagers.
I keep trying to tell her the house can simply be empty for 3 days; it doesn't need a sitter. We don't have the cat anymore, locks have been a thing since forever, and we've got some very nice neighbors who can check our mail and watch the house from across the street, yet she still finds a reason to extend the invite to her mom, and try to organize where we'll leave a key, where they can park, she'll stock up on essential groceries, etc., a bunch of shit someone going out of town shouldn't have to concern themselves with.
We don't even leave for a week, and I'm already mad about coming back. Thankfully, she's decided (as of a few hours ago) she's done with the river trip after this year. It's a massive pain to prepare for, and the fun of floating for a few hours is hugely outweighed by the pain of everything we have to do/buy to get to that point and come back.