I just did some quick searches, and I'm not seeing any source that says that it's illegal to throw used diapers in the trash. At least, that's how it is in the US of A.
Okay, well it's illegal in the UK.
Because I find it preferable than going into the women's restroom.
Why?
You, however, seem to place the few over the many. You're willing to allow many women to feel uncomfortable so that a few trans people can feel comfortable. Is that accurate?
I think we need to ask the question of when discomfort is reasonable.
Because the same argument could apply to a lot of things you probably wouldn't agree with, like segregation. Segregation might have facilitated the emotional comfort of the white majority, but those emotions are not a reasonable basis for public policy because they are based on prejudice, and prejudice in and of itself is socially harmful and not something we need to accept.
In 1998, Mary Daly, a feminist theologian was forced out of her tenured position after refusing to allow male students into some of her classes, which triggered a lawsuit against the college at which she taught. Rather than accept the college's ruling that she had to teach male students, Daly protested by not attending her own classes, resulting in her being forced to resign. Daly consistent argued that allowing men into her classes would mean that women would not feel safe to participate or develop as people, and thus destroy the purpose of the class itself. The college, and the law, disagreed.
You are not necessarily allowed to discriminate against people on the basis of facilitating emotional comfort. Ironically, I find people like Daly fascinating even though she was incredibly transphobic, because her transphobia comes out of a feeling of anger and resentment towards men that not only strikes me as insightful, but also ironically resonate with me as someone who has spent their life trying to escape maleness. Men really are awful, and I cannot blame women for not trusting men or wanting them around, but that emotional feeling is not a justification for discrimination.
Currently, your question is loaded with the assumption that I want to "punish" trans people, or that restricting them from certain bathrooms are "punishments". You have not demonstrated any of this to be true. This is merely emotionally charged language.
You are arguing in favour of putting trans people (and GNC people for that matter) in danger, and restricting them from services and facilities that they need.
There are a lot of things that it is not really safe to do in a men's bathroom, because again, the problem is men. The problem is that men cannot be trusted whatever bathroom they are in.
The answer is that it would require a miracle to make all men harmless.
Not really.
It just requires that men take responsibility for their own actions, and that we enforce men's responsibility for their own actions. Wringing hands about men pretending to be trans to assault women seems meaningless when men can literally assault women in public and suffer few or no consequences. It means nothing when a woman cannot report sexual assault without facing disbelief or pejorative assumptions.
One of the biggest obstacles to this, and to dealing with sexual violence as it actually exists, is the willingness of people to retreat into myths about sexual violence rather than facing the reality. The reality is that almost all rapists are not creepy men who hide in bathrooms, they are husbands and boyfriends who can present themselves as entirely normal, they are celebrities and powerful people who have the clout to get away with what they do, they are college students who seem like good normal kids and maybe just like to have fun a bit too much. Many of them are children, or basically children. Sexual objectification of women and the ability to ignore consent are not weird or deviant traits in men, they are part of the normal social psychology of men.
Also, if you are a pedophile, you don’t need to become trans at all. Because.... and I can’t stress this enough, no one is guarding the door. You can just go in. Like, the Yaniv situation.... I don’t care if you are a man, woman or trans. Her actions is dodgy regardless of gender. Pretending her as trans is the problem doesn’t give the whole picture because it wouldn’t be acceptable behaviour by anyone
Exactly.
Even before I came out as non-binary, I would sometimes go into women's bathrooms to do my makeup because it's just safer. The worst that will happen is that someone will tell you to leave, whereas the worst that will happen in the men's bathrooms is that someone will kick the shit out of you. Really, it's kind of an easy decision.
Most women are pretty reasonable and understanding, they deserve more credit for that.
