ravensheart18 said:
First off I'm the type that has learned you NEVER give second chances to cheaters, so I'm not some "softy/forgive everything" type. With that in mind...
I notice you are in Toronto. Canadian law is EXTREMELY clear here, that man is guilty of sexual assault. Even if she actually said YES he is guilty of sexual assualt. Even if she came on to him first he is guilty of sexual assault. Even if he was also drunk, he is guilty of sexual assault.
Your gf was raped.
If she was as drunk as you say, she absolutely did nothing wrong and so on both a legal and moral basis he is a criminal ass and she is a victim.
You can't blame her for being raped, support her instead.
This is however a great lesson why no one should ever get so drunk/stoned that they are not in control. There are always assholes out there who will take advantage.
That is one of the most disturbing thing I have ever heard to be perfectly honest.
Conscentual sex between two intoxicated adults, and the man ends up a rapist by Canadian law?
That is truly sickening to hear.
It's not rape just because the law says so, and certainly not between to people that are consenting.
One the moral question I'd say, yes, he's a massive asshole and I'd stop him if I were there.
But that does not make it rape.
He asked, she agreed and seemed into it.
She asked for condom, he said no but they had sex anyway.
Does not equal rape in my opinion.