As a solution-oriented person, I have noticed that girls more often are annoyed when I skip the sympathy and try to find a solution. But then again none of my male friends have personal problems they'd like to confide. There's another difference.
I personally think that's a load of bullocks whoever stated that.shootthebandit said:"When a man tells someone about a problem or an issue they do so in order to get a solution. When a women talks to someone about a problem or issue its to get sympathy. Communication between men and women can often break down when a women tells a man her problems he will automatically try to think of a solution rather than being sympathetic"
How, exactly. That is far from true in every situation. If I bemoan to my friend about how my cat likes to swat my lotion off the table to wake me up every morning, that is an issue that would probably make the recipient of that information laugh in the best case scenario- at worse, talk about their annoying pet experiences, which often doesn't lead to "bringing someone else down"DementedSheep said:If you not actually after a solution all you're doing is bringing someone else down.Vegosiux said:Nah, there's nothing wrong with needing some sympathy. Hell, even I sometimes pull such a stunt, while usually priding myself on how "I figure everything out in the end". To the point of thinking through the "solutions that will likely be proposed and why they're unlikely to work" prior to the conversation.DementedSheep said:Because wanting someone to moan at is lesser to actually wanting practical steps to fix the issue.
I try not to do it too often tho.
You could get replication that way, but it wouldn't be very good replication considering the Escapist is majority male, and the question is one that portrays men in a (mostly) positive light.Jasper van Heycop said:Oh and Replication can be obtained in exactly the manner OP uses, by asking others if they notice the same phenomena