Posts like this are, in their own way, incredibly sexist. Women aren't an equation. Their girl parts don't preclude them from membership in the "people" club, and women vary emotionally/intellectually in all the same ways as men do.
While the particulars of your manliness and sensitivity might be unique, the ratio between the two is not - and there exist at least a handful of women who will be drawn to whatever that ratio might be.
Maybe they will mirror your disposition, or maybe they will just be attracted to it. Either way, there's little sense in trying to be anything other than exactly yourself. So long as you continually put yourself out there and keep an open mind, the world will provide a girl who fits you - just as you fit her.
TLDR version: try not to think in the outdated model of "what do women want?". Basic hygiene and employment are the only things you absolutely must bring to the table. Everything else is taste.
Edit: the only addendum I might, um, add is that excessive negativity doesn't really work, but that's more of an overriding truth of life than a specific grain of romantic advice.
Edit-edit: on a personal note, the emo hornball approach works for me. The girls who are, for whatever inexplicable reason, interested in me appreciate my artistic leanings and emotional range... while thoroughly enjoying the fact that I'm constantly trying to get into their pants. It's a contrast, which gives me dimension, and it's variety, which keeps things interesting. Does it narrow my options to girls who can handle my open personality and don't mind getting humped most nights? Absolutely. Do I care? Heh.