Are Man-crushes normal?

[funguy2121]

I would have gone into detail with her, if only to unsettle your parents AND make her look like a fool for trying to force shame on you.

My man-crush is Cillian Murphy, for obvious reasons.

Everyone thinks that the person they're attracted to is attractive to everyone else.

"I think Karen O is a sex goddess, for obvious reasons."

No, not really, though I do worship at the alter of Karen O.

I mean, I guess I get it. Cillian Murphy is a Helluvah character actor, and he did play Scarecrow, so that's kind of cool. At the height of his career and popularity women really dug Nicolas Cage, and he's certifiably ugly.

Then again, I shouldn't claim to have taste in male beauty. I still think all of the guys from Twilight look like douchebags, so what do I know?

I realize beauty is a subjective principle, you don't need to assume everyone is stupid.

Corrected, and reported for misquoting, which is a violation of policy. Try not to be rude. The point that I thought I made very clear was: why Cillian Murphy, for obvious reasons? Apparently not so obvious, 'cos I don't see it. I even very clearly stated that I don't know what I'm talking about when it comes to this sort of thing, and for that, you claim that I'm condescending. I'd like to see where you connect those dots.

snip

I only mentioned I found Cillian Murphy attractive, in a thread that asks straight guys which men they find attractive... and you went apeshit on me. I guess you don't find him attractive. Have I acknowledged this? Yes. Do I give a damn? No. Not at all.

Corrected again. No one's going apeshit on you, so calm down. I italicized some passages that you snipped and that you seem to have ignored while calling me condescending and apeshit. And that line about Karen O in quotes? I do feel that way, but I also don't say "obviously," because I don't think it's obvious. I don't even consider it obvious that I find Scarlett Johansen beautiful, or that you may find George Clooney attractive, and they have magazines dedicated to propping them up as the "most beautiful people."

So, in summary: perhaps try calming down? No one's on your case here.

 

[Azure-Supernova]

Spoiler: Entirely!

I'm completely straight, I can safely admit that if I were attracted to men, that would be my type in the looks department.

 

[zehydra]

A full-fledged crush, no, not for a straight person, at least as far as I can tell, since I am straight. I don't know what other self-professed "straight" people say.

Who knows, maybe you're bi, or maybe you're neither, like an inbetween. An almost-bi.

 

[zehydra]

Spoiler: Entirely!

I'm completely straight, I can safely admit that if I were attracted to men, that would be my type in the looks department.

Except you have no possible way of knowing what you'd find attractive in a man, if you were attracted to men (other than by looking at what other gays find attractive, or something).

 

[btenkink]

I got a Man-Crush on Harrison Ford, my wife is cool with it.

 

[zehydra]

No, of course there's nothing strange about those feelings. This is the 21st-century, and hell same sex attraction has existed since probably the dawn of the civilised world (if not before even then.)

To be honest I find it odd that people willingly restrict themselves to relationships with a single gender. As far as I'm concerned if the feelings are there then run with them, there's nothing wrong with it.

I don't willingly restrict myself to relationships with women, I'm just not attracted to men. the same goes for a lot of straight men. It's not like we're saying "no" to men because we're afraid of what people will think of us.

 

[Azure-Supernova]

Spoiler: Entirely!

I'm completely straight, I can safely admit that if I were attracted to men, that would be my type in the looks department.

Except you have no possible way of knowing what you'd find attractive in a man, if you were attracted to men (other than by looking at what other gays find attractive, or something).

As a man who is entirely comfortable with my sexuality, I can safely say that I can point out an attractive male. Just as women are quite capable of seeing when another woman is attractive. But of course, because I'm not that way inclined sexually I don't act on it.

Just because I'm not Christian doesn't mean I can't see the appeal of having faith in God. Don't know what kind of backwards logic you were trying to apply there. Whilst it's entirely possible that if I were gay my sexual attractions might change, the fact is that being gay wouldn't change my personal opinions on what is and isn't attractive.

 

[zehydra]

Spoiler: Entirely!

I'm completely straight, I can safely admit that if I were attracted to men, that would be my type in the looks department.

Except you have no possible way of knowing what you'd find attractive in a man, if you were attracted to men (other than by looking at what other gays find attractive, or something).

As a man who is entirely comfortable with my sexuality, I can safely say that I can point out an attractive male. Just as women are quite capable of seeing when another woman is attractive. But of course, because I'm not that way inclined sexually I don't act on it.

Just because I'm not Christian doesn't mean I can't see the appeal of having faith in God. Don't know what kind of backwards logic you were trying to apply there. Whilst it's entirely possible that if I were gay my sexual attractions might change, the fact is that being gay wouldn't change my personal opinions on what is and isn't attractive.

"Whilst it's entirely possible that if I were gay my sexual attractions might change, the fact is that being gay wouldn't change my personal opinions on what is and isn't attractive."

I'm having a hard time understanding why this isn't a contradiction

 

[Azure-Supernova]

"Whilst it's entirely possible that if I were gay my sexual attractions might change, the fact is that being gay wouldn't change my personal opinions on what is and isn't attractive."

I'm having a hard time understanding why this isn't a contradiction

See, you're reading 'attraction' and 'sexual attraction' as one and the same. I'll repeat: Whilst I'm capable of pointing out that a man is handome and has attractive features, that doesn't stirr any sexual feelings inside of me. On the other hand my fiancée is both beautiful and sexually attractive to me.

Just because I can appreciate how good looking someone is on a personal level doesn't mean I want to shag them. To be gay would require me to be sexually attracted to men. What I'm stating is that my perceptions of 'handsome' is pre-defined, as I already understand and believe that some men are attractive.

Infact, pretty much the same applies to being straight. People have their own personal opinions of what beauty is and it varies, person to person. My personal tastes are that exactly: personal.

How is that hard to understand?

 

[TheLaofKazi]

*Snip*

That was just a perfect read, everything you said hit spot on.

I think I have a man-crush on you for that post.

 

[Jawfree]

I dunno, I think you're fine, even I had a few man-crushes, but tbf, I only was attracted to them because they were feminine as shit.

 

[funguy2121]

*Snip*

That was just a perfect read, everything you said hit spot on.

I think I have a man-crush on you for that post.

(Irony free, and I'm not being ironic when I say that) :

There you go! You made me laugh.

Also, I believe you snatched that up after I put it up into the collective consciousness. I'm like Colbert, I copywrite everything, so I'm afraid Imma have to charge you for that one.

Shit, I like you now. How did you do that?

 

[JamesStone]

No problem at all. It really doesn´t matter if you experiment, or if you´re gay, bi or straight, what matters is what you feel. Now, your girlfriend is either trolling you or behaving a bit like a *****. My bet is on the second one.

Myself, I´ve never had a "passion" or even a experiment. Can I recognize if a man is or not sexy? Yes. Did I even had a crush on said sexy man? No. Did I had a obssesion/extreme worship for an actor? Yes, and don´t make me talk about those dark, dark times.

 

[Damien Granz]

Now, to clarify, this is not synonymous with 'Are gays/homophobes all evil?' This is about a straight man (or even woman) having one or more romantic crush/es on members of the same sex.

I mentioned once to my girlfriend that I had little crushes on a friend I have, (the young) John Lennon, and John Barrowman's coat. I also once... Experimented with a bloke I know. I am neither ashamed nor proud of that moment, and we are still friends, so as far as I can say, it was just 'an experience.' One that changed my 'interested in' on Facebook for precisely three months.
Anyway, my girlfriend brought this up (with a small amount of disgust, and sparing no details) in a conversation with my parents. Not to ramble about my own life, but I wish she'd take a hint sometimes.

Anyway, I publicly announced all that just to ask a very broad question; was I really all that weird? Or was my girlfriend blowing it all out of proportion?

Experimenting and stuff isn't that big of a deal. It doesn't make you bi or gay or anything like that, and even if you liked it, it's not like that there should be problem with it if you were. Just like what you like. If that makes you straight or bi or whatever, so be it. If you like it, like it. If not, don't. If you crush on a man, whatever. If not, that's fine too.

It's more important you be you, than you be sure what box to check in for a survey.

 

[TheLaofKazi]

(Irony free, and I'm not being ironic when I say that) :

There you go! You made me laugh.

Also, I believe you snatched that up after I put it up into the collective consciousness. I'm like Colbert, I copywrite everything, so I'm afraid Imma have to charge you for that one.

Shit, I like you now. How did you do that?

Oh shit, you got me! I've been stealing ideas from the collective consciousness for years now. But I'm afraid you don't own the ideas of the collective consciousness. Media corporations do, and we must all pay for using their ideas.

 

[zehydra]

Normal and most times man crushes aren't related to sexuality at all most men like other men because of the way they are

then it isn't a crush.

 

[daftalchemist]

I love my best friend from 8th grade. We're both chicks, and she's not even physically attractive, but she's the greatest girl I've ever known. I only consider myself straight because of the intensity with which I love penises, but there's no doubt in my mind that I wouldn't be opposed to at least making out with her. So I'd say it's normal to have same-sex crushes on specific individuals. But even if it wasn't "normal", I still wouldn't care because it's normal for me.

Shame she's getting married next year. Though I suppose her husband wouldn't mind anyway.

 

[Shirastro]

I have man crushes all the time.
I fantasize about them, i check them out, and i frequently have sex with them.

It might have something to do with the fact that i am gay

 

[zehydra]

"Whilst it's entirely possible that if I were gay my sexual attractions might change, the fact is that being gay wouldn't change my personal opinions on what is and isn't attractive."

I'm having a hard time understanding why this isn't a contradiction

See, you're reading 'attraction' and 'sexual attraction' as one and the same. I'll repeat: Whilst I'm capable of pointing out that a man is handome and has attractive features, that doesn't stirr any sexual feelings inside of me. On the other hand my fiancée is both beautiful and sexually attractive to me.

Just because I can appreciate how good looking someone is on a personal level doesn't mean I want to shag them. To be gay would require me to be sexually attracted to men. What I'm stating is that my perceptions of 'handsome' is pre-defined, as I already understand and believe that some men are attractive.

Infact, pretty much the same applies to being straight. People have their own personal opinions of what beauty is and it varies, person to person. My personal tastes are that exactly: personal.

How is that hard to understand?

Not that difficult, to answer your question.

Let me look back at your first post a sec.

"I'm completely straight, I can safely admit that if I were attracted to men, that would be my type in the looks department."

since you've already stated that your attraction for him is on a non-sexual level, then why would he be "your type" if you were gay?

 

[Aircross]

I'm straight, but I can appreciate the human form for both genders.