Are you single or not ?

[giles]

I'm athletic, smart, funny and handsome. And single. In hindsight I always notice the cute girls were totally flirting with me, but I'm too reserved about such things to notice. They probably see it as disinterest.
I tell myself this is because I'm in a weird place in my life and I don't want to drag anyone into this, like I want to be able to offer my partner something. Probably just don't care enough, though.

Society thinks this is weird. I'm starting to wonder if I'm just dysfunctional, like I can't feel romantic love or something. I don't think I've ever felt love for someone other than my family and friends.
*sigh* now I got all serious and depressed

 

[DisasterSoiree]

So let me ask all of you unhappily single fellows:

Why not prostitution?

As the holy book [http://www.rotten.com/library/sex/prostitution/] relates, you'd be in great company.

People who lost their virginity to a prostitute:

serial killer David Berkowitz (19) in Korea
emperor Napoleon Bonaparte (18)
biographer James Boswell (20) with London prostitute Sally Forrester
comedian David Cross (18) near Times Square
Gabriele D'Annunzio (16) in Florence
pornographer Al Goldstein (16)
author James Joyce (14) in Dublin
President John F. Kennedy (17) in Harlem
comedian Jerry Lewis (11)
fascist dictator Benito Mussolini (16)
author Leo Tolstoi (16)
author H.G. Wells (25)
author Thomas Wolfe (16)

 

[Eliam_Dar]

Recently married, almost 4 months now. Though we were already living together for two years before that.

 

[Verlander]

The sentiment is appreciated nonetheless. London is both close and far away. Closer than most places in America, but then, pretty far away when you're in Sheffield and you just want to hit the pub for a drink. ;-)

Aye, and the British internal rail system is obscenely expensive. I used to live up north, I enjoy visiting, but it's a holiday in itself

 

[Verlander]

So let me ask all of you unhappily single fellows:

Why not prostitution?

As the holy book [http://www.rotten.com/library/sex/prostitution/] relates, you'd be in great company.

People who lost their virginity to a prostitute:

serial killer David Berkowitz (19) in Korea
emperor Napoleon Bonaparte (18)
biographer James Boswell (20) with London prostitute Sally Forrester
comedian David Cross (18) near Times Square
Gabriele D'Annunzio (16) in Florence
pornographer Al Goldstein (16)
author James Joyce (14) in Dublin
President John F. Kennedy (17) in Harlem
comedian Jerry Lewis (11)
fascist dictator Benito Mussolini (16)
author Leo Tolstoi (16)
author H.G. Wells (25)
author Thomas Wolfe (16)

I'd imagine the price of the service (when for most sex is available free of charge), alongside the risks of engaging in an activity that is largely unregulated and linked to serious crime. That, and the criminalisation of prostitution in many places can make it difficult to find a provider.

I'm of the camp that it should be legalised and taxed, if for nothing more than ethical reasons, but as someone who is more "liberal" with their own sex life, I find the company of women who are sexually attracted to you to be a better experience.

 

[EeveeElectro]

What a strange way to phrase this question...

Anyway, recently taken! He makes me very happy (so far, he might be a secret pain in the arse after a while!) *throws sparkles* I had been dicking around for a good six months and decided it was about time to settle down. That was the longest I've been single though in the past few years.

I met him on here funnily enough. I've known him since I was about 17(?), I know he's always had feelings for me [sub]and about 20 other girls lel[/sub] and I never returned them so I just always thought we will just be friends and nothing more. I was having man troubles a while ago and I remember texting him in a right state, he stayed up late despite being up early for work to make me feel better. After that, I started developing feelings for him realising that he was my ideal boyfriend. Things happened (while drunk, then sober, sorry to those who I made things awkward with...!) and I saw him again a couple of weeks after.

Was weird as fuck for a while, kissing and being intimate with someone I had considered a platonic friend for so long. We're super happy now though, and I'm glad I've found someone like him. *u*

 

[Mezahmay]

Single. Never in a relationship. Probably never will be. I came to terms with that a while ago.

 

[DisasterSoiree]

I'd imagine the price of the service (when for most sex is available free of charge), alongside the risks of engaging in an activity that is largely unregulated and linked to serious crime. That, and the criminalisation of prostitution in many places can make it difficult to find a provider.

I'm of the camp that it should be legalised and taxed, if for nothing more than ethical reasons, but as someone who is more "liberal" with their own sex life, I find the company of women who are sexually attracted to you to be a better experience.

Here's a hypothetical story that may or may not have happened.

A certain main had a crush on a high school classmate of his. She was the most gorgeous thing he'd ever seen - petit to the point of being palm-sized; long brown hair; big doe eyes. She was a raver girl, a free-spirited young lady in tye-dye leg warmers and wristbands.

She had a crush on him, also - among many, many other boys - but for whatever reason it was never consummated. They fell out of contact for a few years, until he worked up the nerve to message her one day on a social media site.

The girl had fallen on hard times. Her boyfriend was a junkie, and she may have been too, for all he knew. She needed money, and badly. He felt bad for her and gave her fifty dollars and some food.

She wanted to thank him for it, and she had sex with him, fulfilling a long-held dream of his: that this girl, untouchable, unapproachable, would one day share his bed. It hadn't been agreed on in advance; she suggested it.

And for the better part of the year their relationship continued in this matter, she seeing him through the dark times when the one who should have been there refused. The relationship was affective without being encumbered by mutual obligation.

The moral of this fairy tale: you don't always have to look on street corners, and the price isn't always great.

 

[DisasterSoiree]

*double post*

 

[Guy_of_wonder]

I've been single forever, except for an almost girlfriend that moved to a different state weeks later when i was a freshman in high school. i'm not the most outgoing person in the world and i like to keep to myself most of the time. it did not help that i went to a university that had parties every week (i hate parties, it shows the worst humans attributes).

i don't even know which gender i like. i've been debating that question for years and i still don't have an answer.

to be honest, it is starting to get to me. You can only deal with loneliness for so long, before you just breakdown. i might try online dating eventually.

 

[Verlander]

I'd imagine the price of the service (when for most sex is available free of charge), alongside the risks of engaging in an activity that is largely unregulated and linked to serious crime. That, and the criminalisation of prostitution in many places can make it difficult to find a provider.

I'm of the camp that it should be legalised and taxed, if for nothing more than ethical reasons, but as someone who is more "liberal" with their own sex life, I find the company of women who are sexually attracted to you to be a better experience.

Here's a hypothetical story that may or may not have happened.

A certain main had a crush on a high school classmate of his. She was the most gorgeous thing he'd ever seen - petit to the point of being palm-sized; long brown hair; big doe eyes. She was a raver girl, a free-spirited young lady in tye-dye leg warmers and wristbands.

She had a crush on him, also - among many, many other boys - but for whatever reason it was never consummated. They fell out of contact for a few years, until he worked up the nerve to message her one day on a social media site.

The girl had fallen on hard times. Her boyfriend was a junkie, and she may have been too, for all he knew. She needed money, and badly. He felt bad for her and gave her fifty dollars and some food.

She wanted to thank him for it, and she had sex with him, fulfilling a long-held dream of his: that this girl, untouchable, unapproachable, would one day share his bed. It hadn't been agreed on in advance; she suggested it.

And for the better part of the year their relationship continued in this matter, she seeing him through the dark times when the one who should have been there refused. The relationship was affective without being encumbered by mutual obligation.

The moral of this fairy tale: you don't always have to look on street corners, and the price isn't always great.

But situations like this are rare, and I'm sure that's not the same situation that Mussolini or Napoleon experienced.

I'm not criticising the use of prostitutes either, that's a different discussion, but for many it's not a realistic, reasonable or desirable transaction to make.

 

[Pops16]

Divorced. Then hopping from one girl to another (I know it sounds bad, but as long as you are up front and honest about it, then it works out pretty well) and I thought I met the girl I'd always wanted. Funny, attractive, mutual interests and we got along perfectly. I was so enamored by her that I was totally blind to her glaring faults. I finally realized she was a complete #@$&. I realized I dodged a huge bullet there.

So a short time later I met another girl who has all those qualities but is actually a decent person. Still seeing her and I am pretty happy about it.

Funny thing about perception vs. reality. What you may think you want something so bad, only to find out that you were better off without it.

 

[PainInTheAssInternet]

Just about to turn 21 and in a relationship nearing the 4 year mark. Long distance the whole time but we manage.

 

[Dr. Crawver]

Currently single, though going through a rather...interesting patch.

Might end up me getting back with an ex. My head is telling me that's a bad idea, but my heart is demanding it happen. So no idea how it'll go.

 

[cleric of the order]

Sure, why not?
Twenty years old, never been in a relationship. Had a crush when I was eighteen, asked her out, she said no. There's my romantic history, look on my works ye mighty and despair.
I still have this Hollywood romance notion in my head that I'll one day find the one, I know there's no reason why it *has* to happen but hey, a guy can dream.

I am sort of scared that you managed to summarize my status in your post.
That would have been more or less what I would have said.

 

[Nimcha]

No, I am most certainly not single.
Wife, two girlfriends and a boyfriend. Lovely poly-cule we've got

That's pretty awesome!

My relationship is long distance temporarily, and in the meantime I've made two friends-with-benefits deals. We'll see how that works out when she gets back.

 

[Euryalus]

Been in a relationship for 8 months now. We met through a mutual friend... then some interesting shit went down and the mutual friend is no longer a mutual friend, but it's worked fine between us.

 

[Mahorfeus]

21 right now, and still dating the girl I met in my sophomore year at high school. That was about, five or six years ago? We are both pretty introverted, and the only reason we ever got together at all is because a mutual friend hooked us up out of the blue. I had seen her before, and was even in the same class as her, but we had never even so much as spoken to each other before. We were basically strangers. To this day I am baffled by how such a silly, random idea changed my life to the extent it has. She is my first and hopefully only girlfriend, as well as my best friend in general. I think she's "The One."

 

[BloatedGuppy]

Been with the same girl for...nine years now? Somewhere in there. 9-10 years.

I wish I could do an "it gets better" for all the 20-something singles in the thread. 20's were tough. A lot of dating around, a lot of BAD dates and missed connections and poor fits and rejection. It was pretty demoralizing. Things sorted out a bit as I got older. I got less desperate, more confident. People stopped swinging for the fences with every relationship and learned to value different things than they did in their twenties. It'll be your time to shine, introverts!

 

[Astoria]

Been happily single since my last relationship and have no plans to change that anytime soon. I've seen too many of my friends completely changed into hermits when they got into a relationship and realised by a douche I was when I had my last boyfriend so I'd rather not turn back into that. That's not to say if the right guy comes along I won't give it shot I'm just not interested in casual dating.