I don't think it's weird to hate kids, I just think the hate is misplaced. More often than not, at least in my experience, the parents have caused the kid to turn out that way, at least with the really young kids.
Thank you. I'd seriously like to see a justification for this argument.DementedSheep said:Then there is the classic "it's selfish". WHY? Is society going to collapse if don't do my "womanly duty"?
Exactly. It would be selfish if I refused to look after one of my friends kids for a few hours/days when they are in a bind due to my dislike of kids because then I'm refusing to help someone who really needs it when I am capable of it. Me choosing to not have kids myself however doesn't harm anyone. The only one who even gets any benefit out of me having kids at all is my grandmother because she wants to be a great-grandmother but really...wants great-grandkids to visit and coddle on occasion vs me having to actually find a partner I want to spend the rest or at least a large chunk of my life with (not particularly motivated to do that), put my body and health on the line, sacrifice my lifestyle and put my studies, career and aspirations to travel on hold for a kid I don't want and likely won't have time to look after properly. Wouldn't that be harmful to the kids I had? Isn't it better for kids to be looked after by those who really want them anyway?Eamar said:Thank you. I'd seriously like to see a justification for this argument.DementedSheep said:Then there is the classic "it's selfish". WHY? Is society going to collapse if don't do my "womanly duty"?
Having a child you don't really want because you want to fit in is selfish. Pressuring your children to reproduce because you want grandkids is selfish. Believing you can judge people for not sharing your reproductive choices is selfish.
If not having kids because that's what you want (for whatever reason) is selfish, then having them because that's what you want (for whatever reason) must be selfish too, surely?
Silverbeard said:No, YOU missed the point.lacktheknack said:You're missing the point.Silverbeard said:And... what if it comes out missing an eye? Or a leg? Or part of its brain?
Just the thought of caring for such a creature fills me with dread.
Words can't adequately convey how offended this statement makes me.
Consider it this way: If I'm making a sculpture and I make a mistake, I can throw it out and start again. That attitude doesn't work for a child that I have a hand in creating. What if it turns out disabled in some way? Was it my fault? Or was it the other half? And what happens to the little chap? Is it supposed to live out its years blind because its eyes didn't form properly? Or because it doesn't have a leg? It's life will never be 'normal' in any sense of the word and it'll be my fault.
The very thought of forcing such a horrible life on someone- anyone; my child or someone else's- terrifies me. And I avoid it for that reason.
I hope it makes more sense now, mate.
You called me and my sister "creatures". Because, you know, homo sapiens that don't have their brains fully intact aren't "people".
This offends me immensely.
Even worse, you performed a bloody abortion of logic and somehow came up with my condition as being my PARENTS' fault. That's the highest degree of bullshit imaginable. There's no way to merely explain it away, so don't even fucking try.
lacktheknack said:We're all creatures, old mate. My brain's not fully intact either. And yes, I did blame my parents for it when I was younger. I had to blame someone; and with what I was learning about biology is was impossible not to feel some resentment to the progenitors for giving me the worst of the lot. Could I not have been a more whole person if the 'right' gametes had been chosen? Definitely. Same's true for all of us.Silverbeard said:No, YOU missed the point.lacktheknack said:You're missing the point.Silverbeard said:And... what if it comes out missing an eye? Or a leg? Or part of its brain?
Just the thought of caring for such a creature fills me with dread.
Words can't adequately convey how offended this statement makes me.
Consider it this way: If I'm making a sculpture and I make a mistake, I can throw it out and start again. That attitude doesn't work for a child that I have a hand in creating. What if it turns out disabled in some way? Was it my fault? Or was it the other half? And what happens to the little chap? Is it supposed to live out its years blind because its eyes didn't form properly? Or because it doesn't have a leg? It's life will never be 'normal' in any sense of the word and it'll be my fault.
The very thought of forcing such a horrible life on someone- anyone; my child or someone else's- terrifies me. And I avoid it for that reason.
I hope it makes more sense now, mate.
You called me and my sister "creatures". Because, you know, homo sapiens that don't have their brains fully intact aren't "people".
This offends me immensely.
Even worse, you performed a bloody abortion of logic and somehow came up with my condition as being my PARENTS' fault. That's the highest degree of bullshit imaginable. There's no way to merely explain it away, so don't even fucking try.
Do I feel differently as a nominal adult? Maybe. But the thought of forcing my kind of life on someone else is too frightful for me to imagine so I won't try it. Ever.
I'm not going to explain anything away; this is just how I feel. If that brings out hatred in you then so be it. You feel differently; I know that. Maybe that makes you a better person than I and if it does then victory to you, mate.
Train-wreck syndrome. Like most of us who probably should have retreated into the shadows years ago and never bothered to lurk here again, the morbid lure of idiocy and cynicism is just as attractively horrible as a train-wreck or watching someone having a complete meltdown.lacktheknack said:The Escapist: The home site of the world's most balanced and stable people since 200-whenever.
Jesus Christ, why do I even stay here?
This kind of makes me think you don't understand physiology well. (I don't understand it well but wow) Anyway the simple answer to that question is no they didn't hate themselves, because they where fundamentally a different person then. People change throughout there life. The person who said that didn't exist when they where a child.AgedGrunt said:This raises all sorts of questions about your own childhood and life that only a psychologist could ask. Children a fraction of that age are coherent and intelligent enough to talk to an adult. Do you have schools where you live? And how could you "hate" children too young to have even developed the intelligence to hold a mature conversation? That flies in the face of your rebuke of "you were a child once". Do you hate yourself that you once couldn't talk to people?
Maybe an American child, but not worldwide. There are children in third-world countries who had to grow up faster be more mature than most adults. If the children are THAT bad, I'm afraid to meet the parents. No one's denying that their difficult, but what do you expect them to be anyway? The brain isn't fully developed until the age of 20. Also: If children are "hellspawn" and "any" parent will admit that, how come every time there is a school shooting parents aren't rejoicing and throwing parties? How can that be, if these "ugly hellspawn crap machines" are as bad as you say. I know you hate the argument that you were once a kid, and I don't mean anything, but it's by your logic that your parents would have said you were a "ugly hellspawn crap machine." Anne Frank had to deal with more metaphorical crap in her short life than most people have to deal with in their entirety.Meriatressia said:There's nothing strange about thinking like that.
I don't like children. I hate how infants look. Babies are freaking ugly. I would never have children.
If I had to, I'd get sterilised.
Even the most devoted parent would say their child/ren are hellspawn. Screaming, puking, crap machines, that are incrediblely tiring, annoying, and expensive.
Anyone who thinks otherwise, is going to have a hell of a shock if they have children.
The horribleness of having children is obvious to anyone.
My reaction to children is like that Katie Brand sketch. Were a friend gives her her child to hold, against her warnings, and she eats it, microwaves it, etc. Then says 'I told you I was bad with children', with her skin turned green.
They can most definately hit the angry switch in me.
I am a polite person. I try and avoid arguments. I am polite or neutrel most of the time.
I volunteer at a charity shop, and sometimes do the till.
And I am nice or polite to children there. But that is if they're nice. If they're brats, then I get the urge to smack them. With a stick. Or worse.
There are aspects that are nice, like if there's a good child.
But brats and badly behaved ones piss me off.
I am nice to good children. Sometimes, the properly brought up ones are sweet and likable. But bad ones piss me off, so very, very, much.
I would NEVER babysit a family member or friends children. NEVER EVER!
I don't think not wanting children is a deal breaker for women. You might find a woman who thinks like you.
I would say men who want children are off putting to women.