Like I said I get your point of view. But the word is offensive and perhaps you should have some respect for the generations of gay men before you who've lived with that word as a vile and heinous label.Adrimor said:Yeah--as The_root_of_all_evil mentioned, you're missing the irony of a straight guy telling his gay son not to use a gay slur.
Here I have to outright disagree with you; fag is most definitely an obscenity and there is no limit to good parenting. You don't give up responsibility for your children when it becomes apparent you've failed to raise them properly even if they are 16-18.Adrimor said:First off, "fag" isn't an obscenity, and the age limit for good parenting is approximately 16-18 at the highest--in other words, the age at which you're not bloody likely to change the kid's ways anymore. I'd hardly consider my father a good parent, for that matter, but that's another story. Why are you still living at home? :VActual said:I'm 24 and my mum still slaps my wrist if I let my tongue run away with me. I don't think there is an age limit for good parenting.
I don't live with my mum but I see her whenever I can get into town, I'm a bit of a mama's boy. But then I get the feeling you were trying to insult me here, information is rarely a defense against insult so not sure why I'm talking anymore...
Aye, but claiming that they still mean those things when clearly used out of context is a little naive. I mean, was he calling someone a cigarette? I just don't see how using words you know are going to upset people is acceptable.The_root_of_all_evil said:Perhaps the idea that the word isn't actually offensive might be the best way to look at it? Gay used to mean "happy and carefree" a few decades back.Actual said:I also disagree with the whole idea that's it's ok to use a slur if you're part of the group it's aimed at. If you take away the offensiveness of a word, I'm going to have to come up with other slurs to offend people with.