Bisexuality doesn't exist

[spartandude]

last time i checked bisexuality is still considered a mental illness
i've never met a bi-sexual, always self labeled, who challenged my perception of this theory be it through dialogue or actions.
I'm too old now to have to think about it anyways as all the people i've met who used to think it was hip to be Bi have grown out of it.
Though there can be no doubt that having a Bi girlfriend was the closest i ever got to a 3-way, funny how unappealing that can be when you're the only stable participant.

Are you trolling? I can't tell if you really think bisexuality is a mental illness or not, if you do, where did you check?

no i'm not trolling, i just happen to have an opinion based in reality

you've just made an enemy on these forums

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

I have encountered a whole lot of prejudice from both sides of the fence. Here are a whole bunch of examples:

- Being a girl, expectantly, I've been accused of being a wild nymphomaniac to the point where gender is no longer a concern. Basically, people have equated my bisexuality with "slut". Even though I remained a virgin until I got engaged. Get your head around that one.

Isn't being bisexual the same as gender no longer being a concern? If we look past the slut parts of this statement.

I think her point is that people think she's so horny she doesn't care who gets her off, when in reality she does, but she's interested in both genders.

 

[intheweeds]

I wrote practically a whole essay on this on Facebook only two days ago. This is something that really, really gets to me on a personal level.

I would love to read that! PM it to me if you are interested in sharing.

I wrote this whole post a few posts above your's explaining gay women's views. I KNEW REAL BI's EXISTED! Really, you and your husband are probably the exact bisexual's all the faker's and idiots ruin it for. Unfortunately, there are a lot of not-bi people using the term 'bi' to cover up a whole bunch of things. It ruins it for you and I'm sorry.

Know as well that some people understand the pain that comes from invisibility. I'm sorry your husband has to(or feels that it is easier) to hide. The same part of culture that keeps him from disclosing is the same sexist part of culture that keeps certain women down. Not to get into a big discussion expaining that, but I feel it's a sexism issue.

All people can be catty, bigoted and ignorant. Being gay doesn't suddenly make you an intelligent, open-minded person. I know lots of asshole gays I would rather not associate with. Just because you have been persecuted yourself, unfortunately doesn't make you smart enough to not do it to others. In the same way that abused kids sometimes grow up to continue the cycle.

I generally choose my friends like I choose my music, no specific genre, I just like 'good music'. Or good people, whatever.

 

[Okysho]

My girlfriend is bisexual (22, not in highschool or looking for attention) I can say with certainty that it most definitely exists. She's dated women on multiple occasions, and left them because of relationship reasons (turns out girls will screw over other girls too, just like when they're dating guys), not for sexual ones (though performance may have been a factor).

I think bisexuality denial is a bunch of bullshit. I had a coworker who just didn't believe that it existed. I asked her why and she could not give me a clear answer. OP even your case I don't really find any arguments as to why you think bisexuality is bullshit, might be because I just woke up, but the word "bisexuality" doesn't even come up until your last line...

 

[chinangel]

You see this bicycle? It doesn't exist. It's actually a greedy and indecisive unicycle. Or perhaps it's a tricycle in denial.

But it sure as hell isn't a bicycle.

This is likely the most perfect answer I could imagine to such a debate. Concise, amusing and straightforward, but very witty.
You, sir/madam, win.

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

last time i checked bisexuality is still considered a mental illness
i've never met a bi-sexual, always self labeled, who challenged my perception of this theory be it through dialogue or actions.
I'm too old now to have to think about it anyways as all the people i've met who used to think it was hip to be Bi have grown out of it.
Though there can be no doubt that having a Bi girlfriend was the closest i ever got to a 3-way, funny how unappealing that can be when you're the only stable participant.

Are you trolling? I can't tell if you really think bisexuality is a mental illness or not, if you do, where did you check?

no i'm not trolling, i just happen to have an opinion based in reality

you've just made an enemy on these forums

I'm not even sure where he's coming from. I thought maybe he was right, and it was listed in the DSM-IV for some stupid reason, but it's not. Homosexuality was in, like DSM-II or DSM-III, but it's no longer considered a psychological disorder. It doesn't seem like bisexuality ever merited a mention.

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

I have encountered a whole lot of prejudice from both sides of the fence. Here are a whole bunch of examples:

- Being a girl, expectantly, I've been accused of being a wild nymphomaniac to the point where gender is no longer a concern. Basically, people have equated my bisexuality with "slut". Even though I remained a virgin until I got engaged. Get your head around that one.

Isn't being bisexual the same as gender no longer being a concern? If we look past the slut parts of this statement.

I think her point is that people think she's so horny she doesn't care who gets her off, when in reality she does, but she's interested in both genders.

Bing. Sorry I didn't make that clearer, thanks for helping me clarify!

No problem. Besides, it was quite clear; I think Herr Uhl just didn't quite catch the connotation of "nymphomaniac."

 

[chadachada123]

I'm of the opinion that everyone, if raised in an environment without any culture whatsoever, just stick some humans in a room, is bisexual, with tendencies leaning one way or the other.

I feel ya, OP.

Here, check out this article. I know that you class yourself as bisexual, and I believe you, but just know that many, many men class themselves as not-entirely-straight as well.

[link]http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/mostly-straight[/link]

 

[AnarchistFish]

I'm a male, and I've been sexually attracted to other guys before, but I don't know if I'd identify as bisexual because on an emotional level I can't identify with them, at all. There's a complete wall. Even my closest friends and the ones I confide in the most are female.

What does that make me?

 

[Charli]

As an Asexual I am confused by all of you. So don't worry!

It's probably not bullshit. Real bisexuals are easy to spot next to the "lol look I kissed my own/other gender, I am so hip." crowd.

 

[chadachada123]

I'm a male, and I've been sexually attracted to other guys before, but I don't know if I'd identify as bisexual because on an emotional level I can't identify with them, at all. There's a complete wall. Even my closest friends and the ones I confide in the most are female.

What does that make me?

Might I suggest looking at the link I have posted above?

Additionally, maybe we should look into having two different levels for sexual identity. One for emotional attraction and one for sexual attraction. It's perfectly possible to be equally attracted to men and women sexually, but still identify as (mostly?) straight because you can't emotionally connect with your own gender, and just like to get your *f---* on with people of your own gender.

...This is complicated =(

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

I'm a male, and I've been sexually attracted to other guys before, but I don't know if I'd identify as bisexual because on an emotional level I can't identify with them, at all. There's a complete wall. Even my closest friends and the ones I confide in the most are female.

What does that make me?

I'd say something like a 2 on the kinsey scale, offhand.

 

[Russian_Assassin]

Yes, it does exist. But as you can't explain colour to a person that has been blind for all of their lives, you also can not expect people to know that bisexuality is plausible when they have always been gay/straight for all their life.

Personally I am attracted to very specific kinds of both males and females, though my female spectrum is more expanded (let's say 10 kinds as opposed to the 1 single kind of males I am attracted to).

 

[Something Amyss]

People deny bisexuality for the same reason homosexuality used to be (and to a smaller extent, still is) denied.

"I can't understand how you could have a different sexuality from me, therefore it doesn't exist!"

 

[Conza]

In order not to confuse anyone, I need to tell you that I'm a dude.

I've heard this. A lot of times.
Wherever I go, whomever I talk to, this is the thing that pops up in their mind.
Their gender or sexuality doesn't matter, it's always the same.
If I tell someone I chose a guy in front of a girl, I have always got this as a response; "Maybe you are just completely gay". Every. Single. Time.

The same works the other way around. Except this time, the heterosexuals say that "maybe you were just experimenting with homosexuality" and the homosexuals say that "you are in denial bladibibla".
Even the last guy I was dating was like this. He was convinced I was homosexual because I was in love with him (and him being a guy).

This was okay in the beginning. I didn't really mind this. I know what I am and I don't care what anyone thinks of it.
However. This has been going on for several years. It's not really about the years. It's about the fact that this has been going on for as long as I have been open about my sexuality.
Now, this is pissing me off incredibly. Of course, this makes these people say "oooooh why are you getting so upset huh? :3 You know what it means when you take it personal riiiiight?"
I'm not taking it personally, I am just tired of hearing how I am and what I am is a lie and to be told I am something else.
That's my rant.

So escapist people. What do you think of bisexuality? Is it a bunch of bullshit?

Firstly, where was the point in that OP? It seemed 100% disconnected from the topic and the question at the end. Are you wondering whether or not you are bi-sexual? Please clarify.

Secondly, it's not impossible to prove 'bi-sexuality'.

Perhaps there are some chicks, who like threeways but only with a guy 'and' a girl, and there are various combinations of three people, one guy and two girls, that would make one such girl, in a 'bi-sexual position'. Surely she would be bi-sexual, right? Vice-versa for a guy, its the same thing.

So my rebuttle question is, prove to me that either guy or girl, in my given situation above, is not a bi-sexual. I sure as hell (no offence), wouldn't be caught dead in a three-way with another guy, not enough money in the world, and I can't imagine any other straight guy would either, again, same goes for a girl whos not bi (yes I know three-ways can be entirely straight or not, but I'm talking about straight people in bi-sexual positions only).

 

[holy_secret]

In order not to confuse anyone, I need to tell you that I'm a dude.

I've heard this. A lot of times.
Wherever I go, whomever I talk to, this is the thing that pops up in their mind.
Their gender or sexuality doesn't matter, it's always the same.
If I tell someone I chose a guy in front of a girl, I have always got this as a response; "Maybe you are just completely gay". Every. Single. Time.

Is this actually true? HELL NO! it's just they way people want to see the world (mainly guys). Just curios though, the OP HAS had long-term relationships with women no?

Also, that's kinda an ironic account name for a bisexual when you think about it. I like it.

It is so far my only long term relationship. Three years. Then she passed away.
I fell in love with a guy this year. It's the first guy I've had feelings for in that way. But it didn't last because of circumstances and timing.

I don't like being misunderstood. Especially if I'm being misunderstood and people being rude about it at the same time.

What's so funny about my account name? I know why I find it funny but it may not be for the same reason