Bisexuality doesn't exist
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There'll always be plenty of people who deny the existence of what they don't understand, it would seem.
Most people are only attracted to people of what they conceive as one sex, and as such it can be a bigger "leap" to recognize bisexuality than a sexuality that is simply the opposite of one's own.
That said, it doesn't excuse the rudeness of people hounding you about your sexuality.
Most people are only attracted to people of what they conceive as one sex, and as such it can be a bigger "leap" to recognize bisexuality than a sexuality that is simply the opposite of one's own.
That said, it doesn't excuse the rudeness of people hounding you about your sexuality.
Quick clarification, did you mean he has made an enemy out of you or made an enemy out of me? Your post leaves that unclear.spartandude said:
I think Sex is Sex and I really don´t care who I have sex with.
My thesis is that everyone is Bisexual.
But yeah I mostly go for girls mostly becouse I feel a bit closer to them. I have some guys im interested in too but often it will not work because they are more interested in others ...
My thesis is that everyone is Bisexual.
But yeah I mostly go for girls mostly becouse I feel a bit closer to them. I have some guys im interested in too but often it will not work because they are more interested in others ...
The point was that I've been subjected to ignorance regarding bisexuality and I want to know what people on this forum feel about bisexuality.Conza said:
I also stated very clearly in the text that I am bisexual. I would've written I was insecure if I was.
Does that answer your questions?
Virtually anyone who has studied it will tell you that sexual preference is a spectrum, with a few asexual people off it entirely.
They will also tell you that the human mind loves binaries.
You think identifying as bi pisses people off? Try telling them you really like some aspects of the Democratic Party's platform and some aspect of the Republican Party's platform. Or that you think both Pro-life and Pro-choice people make some compelling arguments.
They will also tell you that the human mind loves binaries.
You think identifying as bi pisses people off? Try telling them you really like some aspects of the Democratic Party's platform and some aspect of the Republican Party's platform. Or that you think both Pro-life and Pro-choice people make some compelling arguments.
To quote from a post of mine from a previous thread:
"...Now, there's also another theory (I say theory, because I've yet to see proof, but it does hold water) And that's that we're all actually pansexual to start with, yep, that's right, you're attracted to everyone, regardless of gender, or sex, BUT the attraction may be SO small, it never comes up. Let's take our hypothetical forum-goer from earlier, he identifies as being straight, alright, with this theory, he actually does like men, women, intersexed people, transsexual people, the whole nine-yards of humanity. BUT the attraction to every one but females is SO little, that it may never, ever come up (Ie, he may never become attracted to anyone other than women) But, maybe he's got a man-crush on Jason Statham (Yeah, I watched Death Race last night, so shoot me) He may find something particularly attractive about Mr Statham there that it actually overpowers the lack of interest in men, and appear as like I said, a "man-crush" You actually can see this all the time on Youtube, but I'm willing to bet most of those "I'd go gay/lesbian for him/her" Are just for attention, some are probably real.
Also, another thing to note, is that sexual orientation is NOT trinary, it's not just hetero/bi/homosexual, it's a continuum, a sliding scale if you wish"
So yeah, by that logic, bisexual does, and doesn't exist in a sense, it all depends on your terminology. Heck, if we're all pansexual, that kinda makes hetereo and homosexual non-existant, but we use those terms as labels to communicate where we are on that Sexuality Continuum (TM)
Also... bisexuality is SO 1990... pansexuality is totally in (And, to be honest, most bisexual people I've met are actually pansexual, they've just never heard of the term)
And for those umpteen bajjilion people who will undoubtably ask "What the heck is/are pansexuality/pansexuals" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansexuality
"...Now, there's also another theory (I say theory, because I've yet to see proof, but it does hold water) And that's that we're all actually pansexual to start with, yep, that's right, you're attracted to everyone, regardless of gender, or sex, BUT the attraction may be SO small, it never comes up. Let's take our hypothetical forum-goer from earlier, he identifies as being straight, alright, with this theory, he actually does like men, women, intersexed people, transsexual people, the whole nine-yards of humanity. BUT the attraction to every one but females is SO little, that it may never, ever come up (Ie, he may never become attracted to anyone other than women) But, maybe he's got a man-crush on Jason Statham (Yeah, I watched Death Race last night, so shoot me) He may find something particularly attractive about Mr Statham there that it actually overpowers the lack of interest in men, and appear as like I said, a "man-crush" You actually can see this all the time on Youtube, but I'm willing to bet most of those "I'd go gay/lesbian for him/her" Are just for attention, some are probably real.
Also, another thing to note, is that sexual orientation is NOT trinary, it's not just hetero/bi/homosexual, it's a continuum, a sliding scale if you wish"
So yeah, by that logic, bisexual does, and doesn't exist in a sense, it all depends on your terminology. Heck, if we're all pansexual, that kinda makes hetereo and homosexual non-existant, but we use those terms as labels to communicate where we are on that Sexuality Continuum (TM)
Also... bisexuality is SO 1990... pansexuality is totally in (And, to be honest, most bisexual people I've met are actually pansexual, they've just never heard of the term)
And for those umpteen bajjilion people who will undoubtably ask "What the heck is/are pansexuality/pansexuals" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansexuality
The thing about that is the social issues espoused by each party all grow out of one starting premise, and you can't really mix and match without having some inconsistencies with whatever your premise is to begin with -- or rather, you can, but it's going to be almost all of one, with at most a smattering of policies from the other. Economic policy is where it gets hairy; there's no reason that being socially liberal has to go hand in hand with being economically so, or vice versa -- the Libertarian party is living proof of the premise. Socially, they make the Democrats look right wing, while economically, they make the Republicans look like Marxists.Belaam said:
Of course it exists. It's idiotic to think that a person couldn't be attracted to both/either.
Just because a person isn't attracted to both genders at the same time doesn't mean they aren't really bi. Today you're into a guy, and in a few months you might be into a girl. Who knows.
Just because a person isn't attracted to both genders at the same time doesn't mean they aren't really bi. Today you're into a guy, and in a few months you might be into a girl. Who knows.
I don't think today's society really has any lasting concerns about sexuality, conservative groups excluded. I'm perfectly fine with the idea of being 28 and not being entirely certain about which way of the fence I swing. I might be bi, I might be straight, just as I might be gay. I honestly don't know.
You can't expect people to have a clear-cut stance anymore. Opportunities for love and companionship come in so many forms, nowadays, that staying cooped up with the idea that you're either A or B but absolutely not C is a bit ridiculous. I think your sexuality only gels or becomes fixed if you're honestly, seriously committed to someone. Owing to the exclusive quality of that relationship, then you'll TECHNICALLY become gay or straight. It doesn't mean you stop being bi, however.
See how confusing this is? Which is why I just don't think about it and go on with my life.
You can't expect people to have a clear-cut stance anymore. Opportunities for love and companionship come in so many forms, nowadays, that staying cooped up with the idea that you're either A or B but absolutely not C is a bit ridiculous. I think your sexuality only gels or becomes fixed if you're honestly, seriously committed to someone. Owing to the exclusive quality of that relationship, then you'll TECHNICALLY become gay or straight. It doesn't mean you stop being bi, however.
See how confusing this is? Which is why I just don't think about it and go on with my life.
I think this is the best response out of everyone*.Batou667 said:
You see this bicycle? It doesn't exist. It's actually a greedy and indecisive unicycle. Or perhaps it's a tricycle in denial.
But it sure as hell isn't a bicycle.
OT: People like boxes. If you don't fit in a box then you must be wrong, not the person trying to fit into a box.
IMO, get friends that understand you, rather than try to change you.
[sub][sub]*may or may not have read each and everyone's response[/sub][/sub]
I am an arguably straight male, myself, and even though I think this focus on sexual labels is ultimately rather fruitless, I definitely consider bisexuality a very real thing. At some level I would argue that everyone has the innate capability of a kind of polymorphous bisexuality, but social conditioning has taught us to behave otherwise.
Personally, I count bisexuals as the luckiest people on the planet. I mean, just think of the selection they have at their disposal!
Curse you and your blatant cyclesexism!
Personally, I count bisexuals as the luckiest people on the planet. I mean, just think of the selection they have at their disposal!
*gasp*Batou667 said:
You see this bicycle? It doesn't exist. It's actually a greedy and indecisive unicycle. Or perhaps it's a tricycle in denial.
But it sure as hell isn't a bicycle.
Curse you and your blatant cyclesexism!
I hate it too. In my heart of hearts I consider myself to be bisexual, but for a woman to say that out loud is to either be told you're just gay-for-attention or that you're a whore who will sleep with anything. The majority of my attractions are to men, so I tend to just bite my tongue and say that I'm straight.
All hail the Kinsey scale [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale] is all I'm saying.
All hail the Kinsey scale [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale] is all I'm saying.