Bisexuality doesn't exist

[chadachada123]

I'm of the opinion that everyone, if raised in an environment without any culture whatsoever, just stick some humans in a room, is bisexual, with tendencies leaning one way or the other.

I feel ya, OP.

Here, check out this article. I know that you class yourself as bisexual, and I believe you, but just know that many, many men class themselves as not-entirely-straight as well.

[link]http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/mostly-straight[/link]

 

[AnarchistFish]

I'm a male, and I've been sexually attracted to other guys before, but I don't know if I'd identify as bisexual because on an emotional level I can't identify with them, at all. There's a complete wall. Even my closest friends and the ones I confide in the most are female.

What does that make me?

 

[Charli]

As an Asexual I am confused by all of you. So don't worry!

It's probably not bullshit. Real bisexuals are easy to spot next to the "lol look I kissed my own/other gender, I am so hip." crowd.

 

[chadachada123]

I'm a male, and I've been sexually attracted to other guys before, but I don't know if I'd identify as bisexual because on an emotional level I can't identify with them, at all. There's a complete wall. Even my closest friends and the ones I confide in the most are female.

What does that make me?

Might I suggest looking at the link I have posted above?

Additionally, maybe we should look into having two different levels for sexual identity. One for emotional attraction and one for sexual attraction. It's perfectly possible to be equally attracted to men and women sexually, but still identify as (mostly?) straight because you can't emotionally connect with your own gender, and just like to get your *f---* on with people of your own gender.

...This is complicated =(

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

I'm a male, and I've been sexually attracted to other guys before, but I don't know if I'd identify as bisexual because on an emotional level I can't identify with them, at all. There's a complete wall. Even my closest friends and the ones I confide in the most are female.

What does that make me?

I'd say something like a 2 on the kinsey scale, offhand.

 

[Russian_Assassin]

Yes, it does exist. But as you can't explain colour to a person that has been blind for all of their lives, you also can not expect people to know that bisexuality is plausible when they have always been gay/straight for all their life.

Personally I am attracted to very specific kinds of both males and females, though my female spectrum is more expanded (let's say 10 kinds as opposed to the 1 single kind of males I am attracted to).

 

[Something Amyss]

People deny bisexuality for the same reason homosexuality used to be (and to a smaller extent, still is) denied.

"I can't understand how you could have a different sexuality from me, therefore it doesn't exist!"

 

[Conza]

In order not to confuse anyone, I need to tell you that I'm a dude.

I've heard this. A lot of times.
Wherever I go, whomever I talk to, this is the thing that pops up in their mind.
Their gender or sexuality doesn't matter, it's always the same.
If I tell someone I chose a guy in front of a girl, I have always got this as a response; "Maybe you are just completely gay". Every. Single. Time.

The same works the other way around. Except this time, the heterosexuals say that "maybe you were just experimenting with homosexuality" and the homosexuals say that "you are in denial bladibibla".
Even the last guy I was dating was like this. He was convinced I was homosexual because I was in love with him (and him being a guy).

This was okay in the beginning. I didn't really mind this. I know what I am and I don't care what anyone thinks of it.
However. This has been going on for several years. It's not really about the years. It's about the fact that this has been going on for as long as I have been open about my sexuality.
Now, this is pissing me off incredibly. Of course, this makes these people say "oooooh why are you getting so upset huh? :3 You know what it means when you take it personal riiiiight?"
I'm not taking it personally, I am just tired of hearing how I am and what I am is a lie and to be told I am something else.
That's my rant.

So escapist people. What do you think of bisexuality? Is it a bunch of bullshit?

Firstly, where was the point in that OP? It seemed 100% disconnected from the topic and the question at the end. Are you wondering whether or not you are bi-sexual? Please clarify.

Secondly, it's not impossible to prove 'bi-sexuality'.

Perhaps there are some chicks, who like threeways but only with a guy 'and' a girl, and there are various combinations of three people, one guy and two girls, that would make one such girl, in a 'bi-sexual position'. Surely she would be bi-sexual, right? Vice-versa for a guy, its the same thing.

So my rebuttle question is, prove to me that either guy or girl, in my given situation above, is not a bi-sexual. I sure as hell (no offence), wouldn't be caught dead in a three-way with another guy, not enough money in the world, and I can't imagine any other straight guy would either, again, same goes for a girl whos not bi (yes I know three-ways can be entirely straight or not, but I'm talking about straight people in bi-sexual positions only).

 

[holy_secret]

In order not to confuse anyone, I need to tell you that I'm a dude.

I've heard this. A lot of times.
Wherever I go, whomever I talk to, this is the thing that pops up in their mind.
Their gender or sexuality doesn't matter, it's always the same.
If I tell someone I chose a guy in front of a girl, I have always got this as a response; "Maybe you are just completely gay". Every. Single. Time.

Is this actually true? HELL NO! it's just they way people want to see the world (mainly guys). Just curios though, the OP HAS had long-term relationships with women no?

Also, that's kinda an ironic account name for a bisexual when you think about it. I like it.

It is so far my only long term relationship. Three years. Then she passed away.
I fell in love with a guy this year. It's the first guy I've had feelings for in that way. But it didn't last because of circumstances and timing.

I don't like being misunderstood. Especially if I'm being misunderstood and people being rude about it at the same time.

What's so funny about my account name? I know why I find it funny but it may not be for the same reason

 

[AnarchistFish]

I'm a male, and I've been sexually attracted to other guys before, but I don't know if I'd identify as bisexual because on an emotional level I can't identify with them, at all. There's a complete wall. Even my closest friends and the ones I confide in the most are female.

What does that make me?

Might I suggest looking at the link I have posted above?

Additionally, maybe we should look into having two different levels for sexual identity. One for emotional attraction and one for sexual attraction. It's perfectly possible to be equally attracted to men and women sexually, but still identify as (mostly?) straight because you can't emotionally connect with your own gender, and just like to get your *f---* on with people of your own gender.

...This is complicated =(

haha that post was fitting.

 

[JediMB]

There'll always be plenty of people who deny the existence of what they don't understand, it would seem.

Most people are only attracted to people of what they conceive as one sex, and as such it can be a bigger "leap" to recognize bisexuality than a sexuality that is simply the opposite of one's own.

That said, it doesn't excuse the rudeness of people hounding you about your sexuality.

 

[Vault Citizen]

last time i checked bisexuality is still considered a mental illness
i've never met a bi-sexual, always self labeled, who challenged my perception of this theory be it through dialogue or actions.
I'm too old now to have to think about it anyways as all the people i've met who used to think it was hip to be Bi have grown out of it.
Though there can be no doubt that having a Bi girlfriend was the closest i ever got to a 3-way, funny how unappealing that can be when you're the only stable participant.

Are you trolling? I can't tell if you really think bisexuality is a mental illness or not, if you do, where did you check?

no i'm not trolling, i just happen to have an opinion based in reality

you've just made an enemy on these forums

Quick clarification, did you mean he has made an enemy out of you or made an enemy out of me? Your post leaves that unclear.

 

[Simon Pettersson]

I think Sex is Sex and I really don´t care who I have sex with.
My thesis is that everyone is Bisexual.

But yeah I mostly go for girls mostly becouse I feel a bit closer to them. I have some guys im interested in too but often it will not work because they are more interested in others ...

 

[holy_secret]

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Firstly, where was the point in that OP? It seemed 100% disconnected from the topic and the question at the end. Are you wondering whether or not you are bi-sexual? Please clarify.

The point was that I've been subjected to ignorance regarding bisexuality and I want to know what people on this forum feel about bisexuality.

I also stated very clearly in the text that I am bisexual. I would've written I was insecure if I was.

Does that answer your questions?

 

[Belaam]

Virtually anyone who has studied it will tell you that sexual preference is a spectrum, with a few asexual people off it entirely.

They will also tell you that the human mind loves binaries.

You think identifying as bi pisses people off? Try telling them you really like some aspects of the Democratic Party's platform and some aspect of the Republican Party's platform. Or that you think both Pro-life and Pro-choice people make some compelling arguments.

 

[Mischa87]

To quote from a post of mine from a previous thread:

"...Now, there's also another theory (I say theory, because I've yet to see proof, but it does hold water) And that's that we're all actually pansexual to start with, yep, that's right, you're attracted to everyone, regardless of gender, or sex, BUT the attraction may be SO small, it never comes up. Let's take our hypothetical forum-goer from earlier, he identifies as being straight, alright, with this theory, he actually does like men, women, intersexed people, transsexual people, the whole nine-yards of humanity. BUT the attraction to every one but females is SO little, that it may never, ever come up (Ie, he may never become attracted to anyone other than women) But, maybe he's got a man-crush on Jason Statham (Yeah, I watched Death Race last night, so shoot me) He may find something particularly attractive about Mr Statham there that it actually overpowers the lack of interest in men, and appear as like I said, a "man-crush" You actually can see this all the time on Youtube, but I'm willing to bet most of those "I'd go gay/lesbian for him/her" Are just for attention, some are probably real.

Also, another thing to note, is that sexual orientation is NOT trinary, it's not just hetero/bi/homosexual, it's a continuum, a sliding scale if you wish"


So yeah, by that logic, bisexual does, and doesn't exist in a sense, it all depends on your terminology. Heck, if we're all pansexual, that kinda makes hetereo and homosexual non-existant, but we use those terms as labels to communicate where we are on that Sexuality Continuum (TM)

Also... bisexuality is SO 1990... pansexuality is totally in (And, to be honest, most bisexual people I've met are actually pansexual, they've just never heard of the term)

And for those umpteen bajjilion people who will undoubtably ask "What the heck is/are pansexuality/pansexuals" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansexuality

 

[Jovip]

Fun is fun, do what makes you happy. your sexuality is your own, so long as it doesn't hurt anyone. I only take issue with sexuality...or opinions when it becomes a definition for someone instead of a aspect of them.

 

[fulano]

Your issue gets fixed with you consistently asking said people a single question: "Oh, so you can see into my mind? Tell me what I'm thinking then...Oh, you can't? Well, do fuck off, then."

 

[Owyn_Merrilin]

You think identifying as bi pisses people off? Try telling them you really like some aspects of the Democratic Party's platform and some aspect of the Republican Party's platform. Or that you think both Pro-life and Pro-choice people make some compelling arguments.

The thing about that is the social issues espoused by each party all grow out of one starting premise, and you can't really mix and match without having some inconsistencies with whatever your premise is to begin with -- or rather, you can, but it's going to be almost all of one, with at most a smattering of policies from the other. Economic policy is where it gets hairy; there's no reason that being socially liberal has to go hand in hand with being economically so, or vice versa -- the Libertarian party is living proof of the premise. Socially, they make the Democrats look right wing, while economically, they make the Republicans look like Marxists.

 

[Polarity27]

I don't exist? Sweet! That means I don't have to pay taxes or finish this work deadline, right?