I've been reading around recently about my orientation in order to see if there are any support networks, legal protections in the workplace, etc, for bisexual peoples like myself. It turns out that there are indeed such things.
However I also came across an unsettling and frustrating amount of articles claiming that bisexuality is not a thing and that it's "a phase" or "a lie", especially with regards to male bisexuals. Perhaps in some situations this is true, but surely in the majority of cases it isn't?
I don't know about others since I've only ever met two other bisexual men and I never bothered to enquire, but there must be men out there other than me that are indifferent to gender when it comes to sexual desires? Are there any here on the escapist?
It may not necessarily be equal attraction to both, which is a fallacy, I'm 100% attracted to any gender if they're visually appealing and have a personality that doesn't make me want to summon darklings to rend their head from their shoulders.
Such articles can be found via google, I won't bother to link them here.
What do you guys think? Am I alone? Am I really the only actual bisexual man?
Why would anybody lie about such a thing? I personally came out as bisexual because I am, in addition to the typical homophobia I also received extra bullshit at school for being bisexual specifically, often accusations of greed. That extra stuff has made me unable to really sustain relationships from fear of familial and social rejection, I've also had a situation with my current long termgirlfriend partner where she accused me of wanting her to be a man because I said I didn't care if she waxed her underarms when she asked. Thoughts/opinions on this? Similar experiences?
[small]I'm really sorry for creating a gender thread when we'd started to really get past feminism, sexism, etc, but this struck me as particularly appalling and made me feel rather isolated[/small]
Edit: I am aware that sexuality varies over time and changes as we age and learn, I am also twenty something but I've had enough relationships to know that I don't give a fuck about the gender of y partner. A personality is more important and I enjoy the sex either way.
Also, bisexuals find partners the same as everyone else, we just have a wider pool to choose from... Thanks to the guy who already explained that somewhere on page 4, sorry I forgot your name, kinda replying to a bazillion things at once.
[small]People are talking to me again! [/small]
However I also came across an unsettling and frustrating amount of articles claiming that bisexuality is not a thing and that it's "a phase" or "a lie", especially with regards to male bisexuals. Perhaps in some situations this is true, but surely in the majority of cases it isn't?
I don't know about others since I've only ever met two other bisexual men and I never bothered to enquire, but there must be men out there other than me that are indifferent to gender when it comes to sexual desires? Are there any here on the escapist?
It may not necessarily be equal attraction to both, which is a fallacy, I'm 100% attracted to any gender if they're visually appealing and have a personality that doesn't make me want to summon darklings to rend their head from their shoulders.
Such articles can be found via google, I won't bother to link them here.
What do you guys think? Am I alone? Am I really the only actual bisexual man?
Why would anybody lie about such a thing? I personally came out as bisexual because I am, in addition to the typical homophobia I also received extra bullshit at school for being bisexual specifically, often accusations of greed. That extra stuff has made me unable to really sustain relationships from fear of familial and social rejection, I've also had a situation with my current long term
[small]I'm really sorry for creating a gender thread when we'd started to really get past feminism, sexism, etc, but this struck me as particularly appalling and made me feel rather isolated[/small]
Edit: I am aware that sexuality varies over time and changes as we age and learn, I am also twenty something but I've had enough relationships to know that I don't give a fuck about the gender of y partner. A personality is more important and I enjoy the sex either way.
Also, bisexuals find partners the same as everyone else, we just have a wider pool to choose from... Thanks to the guy who already explained that somewhere on page 4, sorry I forgot your name, kinda replying to a bazillion things at once.
[small]People are talking to me again! [/small]