Terminalchaos said:
Just because the playing field is uneven doesn't mean its right to ask for unbalanced rules or biased referees. The rules should be equal- seek to level the field not justify unfair rules.
Who is asking for unbalanced rules and biased referees?
Again, you need to give me some names before you start talking about 'female supremacists', the 'feminist movement(s)' in one form or another have been around for a good long time now and there have been quite a lot of us. If you're going to make generalizing statements you need to add some kind of qualifier.
Terminalchaos said:
I've suffered directly due to the sexist misconceptions of those I'll loosely label as female supremacists. I even got into legal trouble due to them making sexist assumptions and automatically believing the woman over the man in a domestic incident in which I was the victim.
I'm going to need some context here, because unless you were reporting this crime to a police force and legal system composed entirely of feminist women I'm not seeing the link.
Terminalchaos said:
Due to sexist misconceptions I was not even allowed to utilize the services of the local domestic violence shelter at first. The women that insulted me there are not doing a service for the cause of equality I will tell you that much. I was just as traumatized by my treatment at the hand of these supposed counselors as I was by being physically abused for 2 months.
So some
women weren't very nice to you, and that makes all feminists bad?
Again, not seeing the link.
Terminalchaos said:
A truly equal society would not have enforcers of laws ever make those assumptions.
Most feminists would agree entirely. Pity we don't live in one.
Terminalchaos said:
I'm not blaming feminism in itself. I do think that under the cloak of true feminism there is much misandry, though, and to tolerate misandry because women have suffered and continue to suffer is hypocritical and morally weak. Because one group has suffered does not justify that group getting special privileges at the expense of others or making others suffer.
Look, I'm sorry you suffered, but let's be honest here. You didn't suffer because evil women have somehow stripped you of your human rights, but because you were presumed to be able to 'take care of yourself' or to be 'stronger' or to be 'more independent' and generally to be immune to physical or emotional abuse by women (with the reverse not being true). Those concepts were not initiated by feminists, they are not empowering to women. They are part of the system of unequal sexual difference which most feminists feel some kind of duty to reform.
You and I benefit from being seen as strong, independent, able to take care of ourselves. It makes us trustworthy and means we will be taken seriously more easily than some pretty girl who will be consistently told, both through representation and through people's actions, that she is only capable to achieving social legitimacy as an object of male desire. The fact that there are massive downsides and consequences to this for us as people does not make that any less true or the system which perpetrates it any less unfair.
Terminalchaos said:
I know some of the stats on domestic violence now- trying to tout the mistreatment of women domestically does not in any way justify the behavior of these sexist misandrists. Women being abused does not in any way justify the tolerance of men being abused or the assumption that a male can't be a victim.
Who is honestly saying it does?
Terminalchaos said:
Regardless of the causes of this imbalance the solution is not to treat the genders differently nor to defend the unequal treatment by pointing out past injustices and biases in society.
If they were actually 'past' injustices I would agree. As I think I have just illustrated, they're not. As I said, hegemonic male privilege is not unequivocally good for men, in fact it can be horribly hurtful to a lot of men, that doesn't mean it suddenly doesn't exist.
Terminalchaos said:
True feminists should work for the equality of both genders and not just say "tough" when men suffer from sexism as well. Working towards true equality and accountability for both genders should be the ultimate goal in my opinion.
I'm genuinely a little confused by this statement because I'm really not sure who is meant to be doing any different, or how you get to qualify what 'true' feminists are having not read
massive body of literature involved.
I agree that a lot of feminist writing and thought only focuses on the problems faced by 'women', but that's because the vast majority of 'neutral' scholarship and theory does not focus on the particular issues faced by women. A lot of feminist literature, especially today, does focus on the particular issues faced by men as well. Generally speaking, 'normative' feminism is based around the idea that sex roles, expectations and representations need to be examined and changed, and that applies to and covers both sexes and beyond.
As I said, Connell would be a good example of a 'feminist' who has written extensively on masculinity and could probably give you an interesting theoretical background as to your own experiences. She's generally well accepted in the feminist movement and her ideas (particularly 'hegemonic masculinity') are day to day buzzwords in feminist scholarship and practice.
I can think of one 'big name' still active in feminism who might be accused of being an outspoken misandrist, and she's pretty widely disliked for it.