Aerevolt said:
Why stay in a relationship when you know someone is cheating?
I don't. But it's hard to just unfeel emotions for someone, even if you are hurt by their actions.
Why do you have to suspend all reason in order to stay in the relationship?
Because of the above conflict, really.
Colour Scientist said:
I wouldn't stay in a relationship if my significant other cheated.
Not ever, not for anyone, I wouldn't be able to trust that person again and I have more pride than that.
Weirdly enough, my ex doesn't get why I don't trust her. To this day. And she cheated on me with like four different people (in fairness to me, I didn't find out until after the fact, so it's not like I was being all forgiving and shit). I feel bad for the guy she's with now, because she's made it clear she'd still have sex with me if I lost all mental faculties, and she keeps texting one of my friends for what I'm pretty sure are similar reasons. I don't know him, though, so it's not like I could do anything anyway.
shootthebandit said:
I dont understand cheating. If you want to be with someone else just say so and move on. Dont keep leading someone alone
Eh. Depends on the circumstances. I could see doing something stupid in a heated moment. I could see stress or depression or something similar leading to a moment of weakness. I'm not sure how I'd react if my partner said "I screwed up, here's what happened." Of course, that version's never happened to me.
The more systemic cheating? I don't get in most circumstances, but I can think of a few. Despite upwards fo 40% of marriages ending in divorce in the US, there's still a stigma attached to it, especially in religious circles. My mother got some flak for her divorce, being from a quasi-Catholic family in a red state. The pressure can culturally be significant enough that there ends up being a sort of values dissonance where cheating may be wrong, but a divorce is worse. Hell, I know a Muslim woman who has been separated from her husband for well over a decade now, and sleeps with other men, but a divorce is unthinkable. At this point, I'm not even sure it's cheating as I'm pretty sure both partners are aware and pursuing their own lives, but they're still married both legally and religiously.
Generally, though, it just comes off as a dick move.