Do I deserve to be spat on for saying this to a gay person?

[Timeslament]

James Joseph Emerald:
Well, see, part of it is that my friend probably wouldn't have cared as much and/or ignored them if it was a heterosexual couple (in fact, the friend has probably done far worse things in public with his girlfriend. Not to mention in my other friend's bed. Ick.)
[Snipped statement about how is friend is a "good guy"]

Is that still bigoted?

Yes Yes it is bigoted. If he would have cared less then with a heterosexual couple then he was discriminating against them for being gay. Also You should put this in to the OP so people get this part of the story as well. But I do believe both parties were in the wrong.

Further more I am tired of seeing the posts that are like "If it was two girls kissing then I would totally watch" What the hell! What a fucking double stander. Oh if its two chicks then by all means but if two men kiss its the most disgusting thing ever! Lynch them. I hate this over masculine bullshit our society has created about what is manly and what makes your "gay" You know what, fuck you, and your insecurity with your masculinity. Rant end!

 

[Jake the Snake]

I don't really care what sexuality someone is, anyone who makes out in a public place becomes a distraction to other people. I've been asked to stop making out with my past girl friend's before, It's really not that big of a deal. Plus, who spits? Seriously, who does that?

 

[Sparcrypt]

Yeah if I go to a movie it costs me like 18 bucks or something stupid these days. If you are loud, annoying, kissing, WHATEVER and it's pissing me off, expect me to tell you to shut up.

When I went and saw Ironman 2 some little kid a couple rows behind me would NOT shut up. So I turned around and called out 'Excuse me mate, mind keeping it down?'. I'm fairly reaonable and as this was the first I'd said anything there was no agression or whatever in my tone. Trust me, because that comes LATER - I'm more then happy to be polite the first time. His dad, however, in a shining example of parenting, went balistic at me which nearly turned into a fight. In fact I'm sure the only reason it didn't was due to the fact I was a foot taller and about 20kg heavier then him.

Sorry, I don't CARE about you or you child. I paid to watch a movie in peace and if you read the conditions of entry on any cinema it states that if you annoy other partons you will be asked to leave. Most cinemas have special 'baby' sessions where parents can go see the movie with their screaming kids and noone will mind.

So no, your friend did not overreact, the idiot gay guy did. And trust me I know how you feel.. I got into a bit of a brawl with some guy a few years back in a bar (he was drunk and picked a fight). Despite the fact that I'd never said two words to him nor had even a clue that he was gay, all of a sudden I was a 'gay basher'.

 

[the_bearpelt]

Well, as one jumping into the discussion on paaaaage, what, nine?, I will say that, of course, we assume your friends was polite about it.
In that case, I think the way the couple reacted was entirely uncalled for. He didn't say something like, "Hey, creepy homos, take it outside" or something. In fact, it would'be honestly bothered me if it were a straight couple making out as well, simply because it's distracting and it IS kind of awkward to watch anyone make out. So I think the couple overreacted and the only reason it even made the news was because the couple was gay, which probably had less to do with the incident than anything else.

 

[Dags90]

Yes Yes it is bigoted. If he would have cared less then with a heterosexual couple then he was discriminating against them for being gay. Also You should put this in to the OP so people get this part of the story as well. But I do believe both parties were in the wrong.

I really feel compelled to put that bit on the first post on every page, because it seems to change a lot of people's reactions. The OP is, as they say, "made of straw".

"Do I deserve to be slapped for breaking up with my ex?"


I may have hit her a little bit, if that matters. I don't really remember; I was really drunk, lolz.

<People who didn't see what should've been an OP edit>
Nah, she's over reacting!
That's not feminism, that's ANTI MALE PREJUDICE!

 

[JanatUrlich]

You can say that, but would your friend honestly have asked a hetero couple to stop making out?

Let's face it, he probably wouldn't. That's why it was homophobic.

Plus dude what the fuck?? Why does dudes kissing gross you out? What are you, 12???

Yes Yes it is bigoted. If he would have cared less then with a heterosexual couple then he was discriminating against them for being gay. Also You should put this in to the OP so people get this part of the story as well. But I do believe both parties were in the wrong.

Further more I am tired of seeing the posts that are like "If it was two girls kissing then I would totally watch" What the hell! What a fucking double stander. Oh if its two chicks then by all means but if two men kiss its the most disgusting thing ever! Lynch them. I hate this over masculine bullshit our society has created about what is manly and what makes your "gay" You know what, fuck you, and your insecurity with your masculinity. Rant end!

YES. A thousand times, yes! I can't believe that people still think like that! You just restored a little bit of my faith in humanity.

 

[Zaverexus]

Spitting was definitely the wrong reaction. I think if I were in a similar situation I would have ignored the couple or moved if I was truly bothered, because I could see asking them to stop as being at best awkward and at most rude. If asked though, the couple should have just stopped, or themselves moved

 

[Zaverexus]

I think at this point the separation needs to be made between an act of bigotry and someone actually being a bigot.
Someone can do something bigoted without themselves being a bigot; whether it was unintentional or or a "one-time-thing" effected by a situation that might have been bigoted.
If you were to look deep into it, I think there is definitely a difference in how most everyone treats at least one group; be it homosexuals, heterosexuals, men, women, various races, people who look or speak different, or even one particular person. Everyone is prone to the occasional prejudice or variation in treatment, but I don't think that many people would go out and say that EVERYONE IN THE WORLD is a bigot.

 

[superbatranger]

I don't know the full details(some things might have been left out), so this is what I've got. I feel both parties were in the wrong here. The gay couple could have easily stopped kissing and watch the movie like everyone else. Your friends could have easily ignored them, or just moved somewhere else. But, the spitting was a major overreaction.

 

[TheLaofKazi]

Generally it's common courtesy to stop if someone asks you nicely, or at least do something so both parties can be happy. Move to another spot in theater where they can't see you, something like that. I mean, there's nothing inherently rude about any two people making out in a theater, I personally have no problem with it. But if someone really is annoyed about it, and they kindly ask you to stop, then stop. Don't just keep doing it, or especially spit in their face.

However, I don't know whether you would also have asked a heterosexual couple to stop. If you would then fine, you are justified in your opinion, but if you wouldn't ask a heterosexual couple to stop kissing then you are discriminating, and that's wrong.

So you have to be equally annoyed by gays and straights kissing in public? That doesn't make much sense.

Still, on a side note, I'm sort of surprised at the number of people here that don't like seeing both homosexual or heterosexual couples kiss in public either. I just don't see what's to be annoyed about it. Oh no! People are kissing, ew! Get a room! You, stop breastfeeding your baby! Stop it! If it were up to me people could walk around nude in the streets, it isn't hurting anyone. But I guess I'm a "radical" or something.

 

[Treefingers]

Tricky, sensitive and complicated issue. I'd have to side with you on this one though, i think asking them to stop was justified, and i don't think that being spat on was deserved.

 

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[FaceFaceFace]

Psh. I'd be annoyed by straight people making out in the middle of a movie. I can't wait for common acceptance of all minorities so everything bad that happens to them will stop being considering a hate crime.

 

[open trap]

He wasnt wrong the guy was being a dick.

 

[Redratson]

Man I don't see anything wrong, you guys are in the clear especially when the man spat in your friends face. He had every right to beat the crap out of the dude.

 

[mjc0961]

It was a movie. If those two guys weren't enjoying it they should have left, not started making out. It doesn't matter if it's two guys, a guy and a girl, or two girls... Go make out somewhere else.

The spitting thing? That was uncalled for, but after they started spitting that definitely calls for some asses getting kicked.

 

[TheTurtleMan]

Your friend definately shouldn't have been on the recieving end of that loogie. I also really hate being in a theatre with people that won't get out of each other's faces the whole time. Especially if they're in the group I went to the movies with. I guess seeing two dudes making out would probably be a bit more distracting because I might be a little wierded out at first too. Of course if two girls made out they would distract me even more because I'd have to stop watching the movie to awkwardly stare at them from across the room.

 

[gristledemon]

No..... They should've been at the back of the cinema, and it was ap erfectly reasonable question...quote]

well put. yeah everyone has their fun at the movies when they are young but thats what those seats at the waaaaay back are for! heck we had this one lil place where all the far back seats were doubles and very comfy.
this kinda situation is why i hate going to see movies....i hate the general public.
makes me miss drive-ins
i mean those rocked... private.... good snacks... you can drink and smoke. basicly awesome. and if you wnana make out or whatever no one has to watch.