Do You Hate People Who Disagrees With You?

[Malbourne]

On a side note, if what somebody does is different from who they are, then that seems like even less of a reason to hate them.

Hating people seems lazy. It's like I've already thrown in the towel for an argument I haven't had. If I feel the dredges of contempt welling up in my throat, I'll stop to ask myself why their opinion upsets me. Maybe I'm the wrong one (not often when it comes to risking outright contempt). Some people are hard to talk to, so I tend to give up on any hope of an intelligent debate, but I try not to hate them for a position they're really fond of.

I mean, I bet I'm plenty more obnoxious than they are when it comes to disagreements because I'm so very contrarian by nature.

 

[snowpuppy]

I know someone who does. Dear Christ is it annoying.
Her way of disagreeing is trying to make you feel like an utter idiot.
"Ugh! Would you brush your teeth if there was a one in two hundred chance in caused major environmental damage?" The condescending tone she used cannot be conveyed through text.
I don't hate people I disagree with, I enjoy debate on occasion. Arguments... not so much.

 

[Headsprouter]

Well, I suppose it really depends on what they disagree with me about. If they think all other races to their own are inferior and that paedophilia should be legal or any belief which is similarly far from being considered morally defensible, I'd say I could easily hate them for that.

But when it comes to something like preferring regular Pepsi over Pepsi Max, there's no reason to hate someone for it.

 

[Robert Marrs]

I don't hate people that don't agree with me. I do hate people that act like they are the only one who can possibly be right. The kind of people who are so absorbed in their own thinking or ideologies that no matter how wrong they get they will either deny it or turn it around in their favor. I cannot stand people like that.

 

[Dwarfman]

I had someone tell me this on The Escapist forum the other day: "Hating someone for disagreeing with you is hating them for what they do rather than what they are, so it seems like a perfectly valid reason to hate someone."

I think this is problem with trying to discuss any issues online. People are more interested in attacking people who disagrees with them. Rather than, discussing the issues in a rationally way.

Do you think it's acceptable to hate people, because they disagree with you?

Your colleague has an interesting way of looking at the world considering that what a person does is an aspect of who that person is.

From my own part I do not hate or resent anyone for believing in something different to my own. From my perspective if everyone was the same in thought, the world would be very peaceful, quiet and ultimately boring and dull place. Obviously there are exceptions to the rule but these exceptions usually also involve things that are illegal or against the Geneva convention.

If anything I tend to dislike people who at the moment a debate opens imediatley back down and accept what I say as gospel. "Come on! What happened to your deep seated beliefs? Can't have been that pivotal to you? And what about my thoughts? Ya just gonna hold on to them until some other chump comes around and verbally ***** slaps you into towing their line?"

 

[Kristian Fischer]

"Hate" is an incredibly overused word. Same as "love".

 

[KOMega]

I don't dislike someone for disagreeing with me.

But I do dislike it when someone disagrees with me "just because" with no real explanation.

 

[Edl01]

Depends. There is things that I will hate you for if you disagree with me. I won't give any example, but there is such thing as an opinion that is just offensive and ignorant.

 

[Jamieson 90]

Depends on what you're disagreeing over; if it's a small, trivial issue then it'd be really out of order to hate someone for that, but if it was a major issue that might effect yourself, your partner or even your kids, and is a decision you know to be wrong etc etc then yes I could see it as justifiable to hate said person.

 

[Blunderboy]

Of course I don't.
I'm not a massive twat.

 

[Rariow]

Depends. I don't hate people who disagree with me about games and movies. I don't hate people who disagree with me in politics and religion. I do hate people who disagree with me on very basic, non grey-area morals, like "Killing a person who's not done or going to do you or someone else any major harm and doesn't wish to die is evil, you shouldn't do it, and should be punished if you do", or "Rape is evil, you shouldn't do it, and should be punished if you do". I've yet to meet anyone like that, though.

 

[thebobmaster_v1legacy]

I don't hate people, period (other than my former stepdad, long story that should have ended with him imprisoned).

That said, I have no issue with people disagreeing with me in a respectful manner and having a civilized discussion about it. What I do have an issue with is people implicitly or explicitly insulting me for disagreeing with them. As an example, there have been a few times where I have been informed that by enjoying Mass Effect 3, I am supporting mediocrity in video games, and therefore when I can't find a unique game, I have to blame myself for enjoying homogeneous crap like Mass Effect 3.

Statements like that bother me, as well as opinions that are made through willful ignorance.

 

[Mrkillhappy]

I won't hate them in most common day circumstances (i.e thinking a movie like Transformers is entertaining or that they like Call of Duty) in those cases I will just shrug it off but if they have views that are along the lines of racist then I might.

 

[Diddy_Mao]

Depends on the argument really.

If you are of the opinion that Count Chocula is a better cereal than Boo Berry. We'll disagree, and I might sell you out to the NSA because you're clearly a North Korean spy, but I won't hate you.

If, on the other hand you're of the opinion that one race of people is inferior to another and should be rightly treated as less than human...yeah I think I'm morally in the right to hate you.

 

[Mid Boss]

I do not hate people who disagree with me. I will do my best to overcome any emotional reaction and weigh their argument fairly if they present it with facts and sources.

Sadly, when I argue with people online, almost no one EVER does this. Most of my argument are political in nature. So, there's a 50/50 chance of it being civil at first. But after two, maybe three replies, my opponent ALWAYS either tries to use fear tactics "Well, you know who supported four lane highways? HITLER! Why do you hate America and love Hilter!?". Because, you know, Hitler wasn't evil because he committed ethnic genocide and tried to take over the world, it's because of his stance on education, guns, business, or whatever else we're gonna use him to demonize today. Or they begin to launch personal attacks "You support four lane highways because you're a stupid ******! Try THINKING for once, ******!" They try to drag the conversation down into a school yard screaming match because that's where they're more comfortable, where the victory goes to whoever is the loudest and most obnoxious.

 

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[4RM3D]

I don't care if people disagree with me. If they have interesting arguments, I could have an interesting discussion with them. Otherwise I'll just ignore them.

That also applies to people who agree with me. I rather have someone disagreeing with me, who presents a valid argument, then someone agreeing with me, who isn't collaborating at all.

 

[Yuno Gasai]

I don't hate people who disagree with me. I also don't understand people who hate me because I disagree with them.

They're more than entitled to have an opinion on the things that I like and dislike, but I'd rather they didn't judge me as a person solely because I like something they don't (or vice versa).

If I like something and you don't, that's fine, let's just agree to disagree.

On a similar vein, I'm not fond of people who disagree with me just for the sake of instigating something, either.

 

[Mr_Spanky]

I had someone tell me this on The Escapist forum the other day: "Hating someone for disagreeing with you is hating them for what they do rather than what they are, so it seems like a perfectly valid reason to hate someone."

I think this is problem with trying to discuss any issues online. People are more interested in attacking people who disagrees with them. Rather than, discussing the issues in a rationally way.

Do you think it's acceptable to hate people, because they disagree with you?

Depends entirely on what we disagree on. I believe some ideologies are inherently toxic, and while "hate" is a strong word, I think you can judge people on the basis of their beliefs.

A whole bunchload of this. If someone disagrees with me on what colour Ferrari they want to buy I can take it philisophically. If someone wants to disagree with me on the morality of raping nine year old boys then theyre going to find my argument a little stronger than mere disagreement.

Most things I'm not too hard to talk to about (if the person talking actually WANTS a discussion ofc) but there are some things I take a hard hard line "zero tolerance" policy on. The "two sides to everything" works for a lot of things but there are some things that I find so abhorent and outside my comfort zone that to accept them is to both betray myself and become an evil I would wish to not exist.

In short: within reason no. Without reason: fuck yeah.

 

[Artina89]

I don't hate someone for merely disagreeing with me, otherwise I would hate a hell of a lot of people, and they would hate me. Different people have different viewpoints, and that is what gives life such variety. If everyone agreed with me, then that would make life VERY boring.