Friends Zone (AKA why aren't we doing this?)

[DracoSuave]

Also, FM3 is on the PSN store, I believe. Go buy it, you can't resist Dennis', Ryogo's and Linny's smiles.

Already got it a while back. Just starting it up now. On an Emma playthrough. Cause need moar moneymaker.

 

[Amyler]

Look, stop blaming women just because you never had the courage to ask the girl out in the first place.

This, this, one thousand bloody times, this. Two years ago I was a passive little sissy, dropping luckwarm hints and actually saying nothing. I bitched about the friend zone all the time to other people but never bothered to actually ask her out. Know what happened when I did? She said no! Why? Because she had gotten to know me as a friend and wanted me to stay as a friend? How does the story end? We're still friends and hang out a fair bit. It's fun.

The point is, if you fancy someone, don't pin after them for months, being a slight creep and never actually asking them out, because it will backfire! If you want to go out with someone, it's okay to ask them to go out with you!

 

[SL33TBL1ND]

Also, FM3 is on the PSN store, I believe. Go buy it, you can't resist Dennis', Ryogo's and Linny's smiles.

Already got it a while back. Just starting it up now. On an Emma playthrough. Cause need moar moneymaker.

That, and putting Dennis in the Hoshun at the end of the game; turning him from the weakest party member you have, to the strongest person in the game.

 

[Burs]

NOT A FZ SOB STORY!

A couple of years ago I broke up with a girl and got relegated in the FZ (we were friends before hand and promised that going out wont stop that), after that I said something stupid and I didnt talk to her for about 6 months initially out of frustration and then fear of rebuke. I came to the realisation then that my life was empty without this little punky girl no matter how we were together. so I made a bit of chat with her and now we are the best of friends with no "other feelings" from either of us.

In truth fellow men and boys, If you find a girl awesome and she puts you in the FZ and means it, be proud that she wants you as a friend and remember that BF's are temporary usually but friendship can last forever.

The best FZ out down a (differant) girl said to me was: "WARNING YOU ARE ENTERNG THE FRIENDZONE, LOWER YOUR WEAPON AND PREPARE FOR HUGGING" through a paper cone we both giggled and cuddled and again we remained friends although it is turning into a FB relationship now though :/

 

[Redout9122]

I do not fucking get women.

Women don't even understand themselves, what makes you think you're going to do better than her?

 

[Thundero13]

Hah, gay guys don't toy around with stuff like that, when I told him how I felt he just said No, we stopped talking for a while due to awkwardness and now we're friends again and my crush on him is (mostly) over

 

[Kenko]

My favorite? (Keep in mind I usually say this after I have tried repeatedly with the girl I'm talking to)

"I'm never going to find a girlfriend."
"That's not true. You're nice, kind, you have a good head on your shoulders, you listen. You have lots of redeeming features."
"And yet..."
The girl usually stops talking after that because she'll catch herself on what she's about to say: "You're not my type." And no, that hasn't been from one girl. I get that from nearly every girl I ever ask out just for lunch.

Yeah that fuckin line is evil as it translates into "I like you, but im just gonna make up some nice things about you to sweeten the part where I reject you." Next time I hear that, that ***** has whatever beverage im holding coming her way. Since I don't drink coffee, enjoy the tea *****!

 

[oktalist]

"You have lots of redeeming features."

redeem
1. Compensate for the faults or bad aspects of (something): "a disappointing debate redeemed by an outstanding speech".
2. Do something that compensates for poor past performance or behavior.

"Redeeming features" suggests there is one or more major fault in need of redemption. Good one!

 

[Yuno Gasai]

Eh, I've always felt that complaints about the "friend zone" were just people trying to avoid thinking too hard about why women chose someone else. If she doesn't see you that way, then she doesn't see you that way, no reason to make a fuss about it.

This. Sometimes, taking things at face value is the best way to deal with it. If you overthink things, chances are that you'll only end up upsetting yourself.

 

[Michael Hirst]

I've been friendzoned before and the best thing is to just forget about it and look elsewhere. Also girls do not want a white knight, they SAY they do but it's very rare that that actually want a wholesome nice guy especially when they're teenagers. That said they don't want someone who is a total bad boy who goes racing around in a car and does drugs etc There is a fine balance whereby the girl needs a sense of wonder about the guy as well as a feeling of security, if you're always there for the girl and being friendly with her of course she's going to think you're just a friend.

With some confidence and the ability to make the girl feel wanted/special you'll find yourself able to get the girl more often, whether or not things work out is another matter entirelly.

 

[Palademon]

One of the last things a female friend of mine said to me after an IM chat we had after my long attempts to go out with her was:

Her: I think I love you
Her: Like a brother, you know.

SAFDGAREHAEDTRTJSTRYSEHYWSYHEYT!!!!

 

[Baldry]

Fucking friend zone. It's one of the few things I hate in this universe. I think one of the girls said I was to much like a brother and my last relationship was an open one and she stopped it because it was getting to serious and there are others that I can't be bothered talking about and one I'd rather not.

 

[CaptainTrilby]

One of the last things a female friend of mine said to me after an IM chat we had after my long attempts to go out with her was:

Her: I think I love you
Her: Like a brother, you know.

SAFDGAREHAEDTRTJSTRYSEHYWSYHEYT!!!!

That is without a doubt, the sentence that basically anchors you in the Friend Zone for all eternity. That happened to me, I was REALLY good friends with this girl that I liked, I had no idea what was going on with her flirting and other such shenanigans so I finally got up the courage and asked what our relationship was about. I was told I was the brother she never had...

Spoiler: Rage in 3..2..1

 

[EeveeElectro]

I'm sorry, but we can't force ourselves to like you in that way. We can't help out feelings and I'm sure there's been/will be times when a girl fancies you and you won't felt the same.
I know a few guys who are so in love with their friends they don't focus on finding a girl for themselves, or girls that like them are put off because they keep banging on about the friends they fancy.
Just put yourself first for a change and find a girl you like, she'll want you to be happy.

Also, I'd say your quite lucky to be friend zoned, at least she wants you in her life. Unless of course you want what happened to me at school, when I fancied someone in the year above I tried befriending him but he didn't want to be seen with someone as vile and ugly as me so he went the other way and got all his friends to bully me for a while.

 

[artanis_neravar]

People seem to think their are only two types of guys: Cocksuckers and "nice guys". The Cocksuckers should be obvious as to what it is, the asshole that thinks he is the shit. The second is more complicate. Being a "nice guy" and actually being a nice guy are completely different. The "nice guy" is the one that waits on his interest hand and foot, never standing up to her or contradicting her. Then they get in a huff cause their putting her on a pedestal isn't working, and that she would be lucky to have a guy like you. Most of the stories of these guys tends to leave out rather glaring character flaws on the part of the guy, but I won't go into that. I know this cause I used to think like that, then I actually got a girlfriend. Being nice does not mean being submissive and subservient. Treat your love interest as a human being, not as a goddess. (Entering conjecture territory, feel free to correct me, as I only have the male perspective) Most women don't want a servant, they want an equal with whom they can share their life with and all that jazz. Woman don't really think THAT much differently than men. Learned that going to a school that was 75% female. People actually thought I was gay because I went through high school single despite the 75% female thing.

Thank you. I hate it when I am told by men "BUT I'M A 'NICE GUY'! WHY WON'T YOU DAAAAATE MEEEEEEE?"

It's not nice, it's being submissive in the hope that you'll get the carrot you want rather than actually caring about the person and respecting them as a human being.

Exactly! I'm not a "nice guy" but I do consider myself to be nice, and polite and the like. I can make asshole comments but unless my timing is really off the it never offends. But I am in no way submissive, don't get me wrong I know how to choose my battles, but if you can challenge me I will debate with youforever

 

[Brandon237]

Queue teenage girls reading this thread for some unknown reason and saying, "But dating friends is weird."

To be honest, I've never seen anyone escape the Friend Zone, I wouldn't mind seeing some stories of people here if they have.

Not sure if this is exactly what you mean by escape the friend zone, but my girlfriend (we are now both in grade 10) had a thing for me in grade eight when we first met, I caught a few signs, but didn't think much of it at the time, then she got asked out by another guy, that went horribly. I helped her through it and we became very good friends.
A few months down the line and we started flirting a little, one thing led to another and now we have been going out for almost a year. (our anniversary of our first date is on Sunday).

So friends, to good friends, and then very good friends, which led to more than friends. And it has been wonderful.

And to the OP: Don't worry, if you try too hard you just scare people off.

 

[Catchy Slogan]

*snip*

Well you just said everything I ever wanted to and more. You are now my hero

OT: I've been in a situation where I had this guy, who was a really nice chap, but he just kept being so persistant. It's just that I'm not interested in dating. Anyone. At all. It was nothing personal against him, that's just how it was.

 

[Rabish Bini]

Wow. You guys, with your scheming and bitching, will never get a girl. Act like a man. Be confident. Stand up for yourselves.

Otherwise, pass your women on to me. I'll take care of them.

So here I was thinking nobody posted something similar to this and that I would be able to, then WHAM! the last comment says it.

If you like a girl, but the feeling isn't mutual, why not try going for another girl? Hell, you might end up the same way as a friend of mine. There was a girl he liked, feeling wasn't mutual. He started going out with another girl, and the prior girl, who was good friends with him, realised how great a guy he is, and started going out with him when he broke up with the other girl.

They're now engaged and getting married in October.

 

[Vault101]

My favorite? (Keep in mind I usually say this after I have tried repeatedly with the girl I'm talking to)

"I'm never going to find a girlfriend."
"That's not true. You're nice, kind, you have a good head on your shoulders, you listen. You have lots of redeeming features."
"And yet..."
The girl usually stops talking after that because she'll catch herself on what she's about to say: "You're not my type." And no, that hasn't been from one girl. I get that from nearly every girl I ever ask out just for lunch.

Yeah that fuckin line is evil as it translates into "I like you, but im just gonna make up some nice things about you to sweeten the part where I reject you." Next time I hear that, that ***** has whatever beverage im holding coming her way. Since I don't drink coffee, enjoy the tea *****!

what? its not HER fault she just doesnt feel that way

I mean if somone askes you out and you dont feel that way how the hell are you SUPOSED to react? "No way! get fucked..fuck off!" is that what you would rather hear?

I mean hell you make it sound like women are just all vindictive bitches...I mean if a guy I wasnt into asked me out I wouldnt know how to react..so yeah Id probably say somthing similar along those lines and I apologies if that makes me an evil *****

 

[SL33TBL1ND]

Queue teenage girls reading this thread for some unknown reason and saying, "But dating friends is weird."

To be honest, I've never seen anyone escape the Friend Zone, I wouldn't mind seeing some stories of people here if they have.

Not sure if this is exactly what you mean by escape the friend zone, but my girlfriend (we are now both in grade 10) had a thing for me in grade eight when we first met, I caught a few signs, but didn't think much of it at the time, then she got asked out by another guy, that went horribly. I helped her through it and we became very good friends.
A few months down the line and we started flirting a little, one thing led to another and now we have been going out for almost a year. (our anniversary of our first date is on Sunday).

So friends, to good friends, and then very good friends, which led to more than friends. And it has been wonderful.

And to the OP: Don't worry, if you try too hard you just scare people off.

Yep, that's escaping the "Friend Zone". In other words, when you are able to get out of the "very good friend" relationship, and start going out with them. This is notoriously hard to do, by many accounts.