I'll admit I've been in the FZ quite a few times, and I've beaten it a couple. But it wasn't through any effort or anything.SL33TBL1ND said:Best of a bad situation, I like it.ThreeWords said:I beat the friend zone. She was one of my closest friends, and I was rather infatuated. It wasn't mutual, so I squished it down and turned it into a more brotherly affection.SL33TBL1ND said:To be honest, I've never seen anyone escape the Friend Zone, I wouldn't mind seeing some stories of people here if they have.
Then, shit went down between some of our other friends, one of whom demanded that everyone had to pick a side ("if you're not for me your against me" style scenario). I chose one side, and she chose the other, which tore me up, since the people she chose demanded she couldn't be friends with those I chose.
Few moths down the line, and her people are getting more and more crazy, suddenly hating on random people, and turning towards some nasty walks of life (smoking, heavy drinking, drugs). She gets away while she can, and comes back to be my friend again.
I can only assume that the period of separation allowed the 'friends-only' effect to die back, but that the inherent attraction remains. But I don't pretend to know everything.
If you're trying to break through the friend zone, it won't work. If you're trying to make something happen where nothing is... it won't work.
Instead... I stopped caring about it. Once I accepted that it was a FZ, and moved on to other, more likely attractions... it stopped being a FZ, and became just friends. Natural-like.
And once it became natural-like... well... things happened. But it wasn't from trying to make it happen. It was just a happy little thing that occured when I wasn't looking. Taoist path of least resistance shit and all that.
In the FZ? Accept it and look elsewhere. Move along, friend, move along. The best way to actually make things happen, is to NOT try to make anything happen. Do not want, for desire leads to suffering. Om.
Now, the friend-zone doesn't bother me. Because... hey. Sometimes shit doesn't work. Whatever. But... girls know other girls. Opportunities continue to knock. That's the way of the world.
PS: SL33t, your avatar makes me want to play FM3 now. DAMNITALL