Oh this is gonna be a dozy of a post, and I apologize in advance if this ends up being a double post.
Kwak said:
You may have answered these already, and some of these are sort of the same question, so sorry if I'm making you repeat yourself.
That's all right, I'm used to repeating myself, and I like to help others understand.
Kwak said:
What are the actual numbers on trans percentage? The internet makes it seem like there's actually a fairly large portion of the population (large in terms of of what you'd think would only affect a fairly small percentage otherwise) that are trans, but is that just because it's easier to make voices heard disproportionately over it?
I've heard like less than 1% to 4-5%, but no one really knows, and there are no really good statistics on transgender subjects to be truthful. Along with that, a lot of people are more open about the subject on the internet than in person, because we are still victims of rampant abuse in the real world. Plus I'll admit that trans people are super vocal on the internet, it really is a safe outlet, and because of that it can make it look like there are more of us than there actually are.
Kwak said:
Also it seems like it's only really become a 'thing' in the last couple of years - so what was it like ten, twenty years ago? Were the numbers different and has recent visibility of the the issue resulted in more people deciding they are trans, or has it always been thus and it's just now that their voices are being heard?
Well we've gained more acceptance over time and with the internet and such we've gained a much bigger voice than we had before. This means that yes we're more visible, and it also means that there is more support in the trans community, so more trans people are actually coming out, rather than living in misery. But we've always been here, it's just that understanding and acceptance has improved, and we have a safe place(the internet) to come out.
Kwak said:
Somewhat related, did 'otherkin' only become a thing in the last few years or has that always been part of the queer world (if it is part of the queer world that is)?
I'm not the best person to answer this. I know a few otherkin but I don't know if they count, or count them selves as part of the larger grouping that homosexual and transgender people fall into.
Kwak said:
Is it a mainly western phenomenon?
No it's world wide actually, lots of places in Asia for example are open to the concept of people living in non-gender conforming roles.
Kwak said:
If it's polite to refer to a person face-to-face as their preferred gender (I agree), does this also extend to when they're not around? If I were talking about them to someone who didn't know them wouldn't it be fine to refer to them by the sex they were born with/genitals they possess?
When a trans person isn't around you refer to them the same as you would face to face, it's best to try to see us actually as the gender we are inside, not in body.
Kwak said:
Can I 'explain' to that person that while the other may appear to be male/female, 'really' they're female/male? Is this considered some grave offence against their chosen identity?
It's a really bad thing to do actually, outing a trans person against their will is a massive violation of their trust. Most people don't get this and a lot of my "cishet" friends accidentally out me all the time. Then they see the look that puts on my face(almost about to cry) and realize what they did, and how much it hurt both to my self esteem and to my trust, then fall all over them selves to fix it. But if it's agreed before hand to let a friend know that another friend is trans with the trans person in question's permission, then do it. But make sure you ram home that the trans person
is the gender that they feel they are. Transmen are men, transwomen are women, genderfluid are what ever they project at the time, just for example.
Kwak said:
Was the outrage over Whedon referring to good female character's just being strong/interesting people who also happen to have a vagina, as ridiculous as it appears to me? If it was 'transphobic', please explain how.
At this point I'm not going to say it was transphobic, it was bad wording that really struck a sensitive nerve in the trans community, and being a sensitive community we got really mad about it. What it really was exclusionary of transwomen as women, and we absolutely hate that.
Kwak said:
Does that mean men who consider themselves women don't care about being a 'full' woman in that sense or even desire it?
No we do care, quite a lot. All trans people are the gender we are in our minds, nature and fate just dropped the ball and gave us the wrong bodies. Well that's to put it in layman's terms. But it depends on the trans person. Like if tomorrow science and medicine could make people biologically the opposite sex, I don't know if I'd do it, but tons of transwomen and transmen would jump at the chance, others wouldn't. Some people are too used to their, or not too picky about the parts they have, or lack.
Kwak said:
Why is 'transphobic' used when a person has made a statement that is actually just insensitive or ignorant entirely to trans people's issues, rather than them being actually 'afraid' of trans people?
Transphobic and transphobia apply to more than just irrational fear, it's also irrational hate, and irrational unwillingness to to drop ignorant, or bigoted views. Same with homophobia. But this is used way too often as an attack term, rather than a stern disapproval of someone's stance.
Kwak said:
There are people who just wish to offend, and will find your weak spot and then keep pushing until you crack. Are these people transphobes or just equal-opportunity arseholes?
Both actually, and the two aren't mutually exclusive. But someone who is an areshole in general will be an arsehole to everyone, transphobes will just target arseholeishness at trans people.
Kwak said:
Is a man who knows they are a man and is comfortable with that, who then decides to become a woman, different to a man who feels they are in the wrong body? (would they still be considered 'trans' if they didn't have the 'gender dysphoria' part)
If somebody goes to those lengths to change their body, you can bet they're uncomfortable with their body somehow. But yes they'd still be trans even if not gender dysphoric.
Kwak said:
Is a person who is content to be in the sex of their body, but who presents as the opposite sex, trans? (I think this is all the same question)
Yes they are, there are many different kinds of trans people. Genderqueer, bigender, agender, genderfluid are all examples of transgender, look at the identities listed here for more [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transgender]
Kwak said:
Is making the full genital/hormonal transition to the sex they wish to be the goal of all trans people, if there were no restrictions money-wise or there weren't any other considerations to stop them?
I have transitioned to the point I want but I still have my primary genital(penis), so no it's not the goal of all transgender people. There are many different kinds of trans and different goals for each trans person. Some never get hormones, some do, some get surgeries some eschew them all together. It depends on what is necessary in out transition to make us feel like the person we are.
Kwak said:
Are trans people offended that they may not be understood, or do they understand that it is weird (not in a bad way, just weird) to a lot of people? Are trans people patient with innocent ignorance or are they offended by it and assume the worst? (it seems that way a little sometimes, that there is an over-sensitivity that is not at all empathic to the fact that most people just don't know and aren't familiar with this stuff)
We understand that we're different and not understanding can be offensive to us, but mostly it's just really upsetting. Most trans people will generally forgive innocent ignorant mistakes, and do tend to be patient in my experience with people who are willing to listen. Sometimes though we do assume the worst, but that's because of how many people in general mistreat us intentionally, sensitive group and all.
Kwak said:
Was it you who said they ride a motorbike? If so, what type is it?
Would you consider yourself an effeminate male, or a tomboy-ish female?
That was PaulH, so look to the post PaulH made in response. As for me I'm a girly girl type.
Kwak said:
You're very welcome.
Jake Torrance said:
Why not ignore the trans thing altogether and just refer to yourself as a female? Personal irritation here, but I don't really understand the need to group yourself into "trans". I kinda just wish everyone would see people such as yourself as "girl" rather than "trans-girl" (btw, i'm not sure whether trans-girl is the correct terminology i.e not sure whether trans-girl is M->F, so sorry if i'm wrong on that part). I guess it's a meaning of preference, although i really think it would be great if we stopped grouping ourselves like that. I once had a chat with a trans friend of mine on whether she likes to be understood as trans or just a female - her answer was female. She did say that she previously felt like she should group herself into a trans-bracket, but I always saw that as saying that you aren't really who you are - just say you're female, there's no reason to say you're trans.
If you've already answered a question like this, i am sorry - not the kinda guy to go through this whole thread, just wondering what you thought on it.
EDIT: just looked in an other thread - this is my kinda problem with this, attacking someone cause they dislike the term "cisgender". Generally, I somewhat agree with the guy, as whenever the term is used it is used in a "you have a much better life than me you bastard" sense, which in some cases just really isn't true. Other than that, I personally hate the grouping, but to me it looks like you're grouping yourself as "abnormal" on your own volition - why. I don't see the need to come out on a thread and say you're trans, if you get what i mean. You're female, right, so why take the point that you're trans? why not just say you're just female rather than grouping yourself?
It actually varries trans person to trans person. I'm a transwoman, but that also means I'm a woman, but being trans is part of my identity because of how major transitioning has affected my life in quality and experiences. I'm a trans pride type too, so there's that. Some people are more stealth, and would just rather be the gender they transitioned to. We;re all different like that. Also transgirl or transwoman are perfectly fine ways to refer to a MtF person, MtF and it's variants are starting to become seen as negative.
Also it's no problem, the more answers I give, even if I have to repeat my self, the more likely they are to be seen.
To your edit: Cisgender and cis are supposed to be ways to classify people who's gender identity match their birth sex, not attacks, or resentful terms. There is a bit of internal "other"ing in the trans community because we know we're not the same as most people. Also normal can be a loaded term for everyone, for example; saying I'm a normal man/woman rather than a cis/cisgender man/woman, is excluding to trans people. Remember that a lot of trans people have transgender as part of their identity, while a lot don't, and a lot just don't care that much. Usung trans and cis are not ment to make either group abnormal, it's supposed to be a way to clarify weather or not someone is suffering, or has suffered from gender dysphoria. But yeah it is often used out of bitterness and spite. Also like I said trans pride plays a large part in identifying one's self as trans.
I hope that helps.