well... that was kindof a trainwreck... very first time was with my first girlfriend, who was pretty much a complete airhead. We met at a dance. my brother and parents are into ballroom dancing, I'd tagged along because I'd already bought the suit and the christmas party at school for which I'd bought it sucked, might as well get some use out of it... she was all over me, and me being as popular as I was wasn't used to that kind of attention at all. I guess I only dated her because 1) yay, pretty girl pays attention to me and 2) boobies! only slept with her once, nothing much happened, just a bit of finger action that probably sucked for both of us. after about 2 months she dumped me and in hindsight I'm glad she did. rather regret the whole thing now.
The occasion I usually refer to as my first time with my second girlfriend.
how did you have sex the first couple of times?
well, she was my girlfriend, we were in love. took things slowly though (mostly her idea, I'll admit).
were you a couple
Yes. that happened rather gradually too, we just fell in love and started seeing more of each other, but we never had a big 'i do' moment. at one point someone asked us how long we'd been together and we couldn't tell her. so then she decided on the spot that that day would be our anniversary and the two of us were fine with it XD
how did you meet
she was in my introduction group at uni. after that we took classes together and things just kinda evolved from there.
how did you get close enough
well she was my girlfriend, it all went rather naturally (good thing too, or I would've cocked it up for sure)
how long were you together before it happened
you know, I honestly couldn't tell you. mainly because it was so gradual... I'm guessing about a month or 2
First time was a mess. she was a virgin and rather petite, I'm... well... shall we say decently equipped? (I never had a side by side comparison though, so it's mostly guesswork). anyway, gist of it was: we couldn't get it in the first 3 times we tried.
I've been having a string of bad luck for the past half year (not exactly due to lack of trying) but I'm going to a party tonight where a friend is bringing one of her friends who is apparently looking for a relationship. who knows, might work out. although maybe I should consider the whole 'dress up like a girl' thing. bloody theme parties...
Best advice I can give you is so ancient it probably predates the dead sea scrolls, but here goes: be yourself and have fun.
told you it was old...
but it's true all the same. if you go do something you like with people you like, you'll be much more comfortable than if you're doing something you don't like.
If you're doing stuff you like, you'll be much happier (happy people are attractive as a candyshop), it's likely that if you meet someone there, they'll like it too, so you'll have something in common. you'll have something you like to talk about, and they're probably interested in it too. it just makes things so much easier.
hope it helps ^^