How do you react to being hit on/checked out?

[hooblabla6262]

I enjoy being checked out, but I prefer action over observation.

It does somewhat bother me when someone gets offended that I'm checking them out. It doesn't happen very often, though I find it most common with the younger girls (how are you not supposed to check them out with what they wear).

And honestly, half the time I'm just looking at them for the pre-inspection "check out". Just cause I'm looking at you doesn't mean I want you.

 

[Boris Goodenough]

I love it, doesn't matter if it's women or men.

I love attention because I have been starved it for soooo many years

 

[FunnyBunny]

Well, I've never been overtly hit on by a girl ..... I might casually mention my fiancee so she doesn't get the wrong idea.

How did you manage to be fianceed then? Lol?

 

[conmag9]

How do I react? With confusion and a sense of pity for their utter lack of taste. Attractiveness is not one of my strong suits. Unless it's about the beard, I suppose.

 

[Anti Nudist Cupcake]

I'd be flattered. Not much else to say really.

 

[AbstractJuggler]

Guys or gals, I take it as a compliment. Unless it's a creepy old dude taking pictures of me in a Belgian war museum when I'm 15. That was... disconcerting.

 

[TheDoctor455]

Assuming I even notice?

It just makes me nervous and sometimes paranoid.

I find it unnerving for some reason.

 

[CrystalShadow]

Um... Freak out, panic, and try to get away from the person?

Yeah... That sounds about right.

Although... With my track record it's equally likely I wouldn't even notice in the first place.

Do people in this thread just have no self-confidence, or?

Um... Nope. None whatsoever.
Well... OK, let me qualify that. I'm vaguely confident around people I know, or when dealing with certain specific topics...

But in general, no.

Then again I may be a bad example given that I have social phobia and... At the moment, a tendency to get severe panic attacks at the slightest provocation when people are around...

So... Yeah. >_>

I could say more on the matter, but I'm not sure I really want to get into a subject that's quite that awkward... XD

 

[CrystalShadow]

Guys or gals, I take it as a compliment. Unless it's a creepy old dude taking pictures of me in a Belgian war museum when I'm 15. That was... disconcerting.

That's creepy. Although... I'd say I can top that given that when I was about 11 or 12 I had a man who looked to be in his mid-30's at the very least come up to me and say these exact lines:
"If you want romance, honey, you don't have to read about it..."

I should point out, to give a bit of context, that I was looking through books at a market stall. (Science fiction books incedentally, but the romance novels were adjacent to them.).

Ugh. Well... The fact that I still remember his exact words so many years later speaks for itself I think. XD

 

[Setrus]

Had two girls whistle and make catcalls at me once whenever I passed them at work. With a tight white t-shirt and sweaty from work, I guess in hindsight I understand...
I was flabbergasted at the time though, wondering who they were whistling at first. Then I had not the slightest idea how to act...but I did leave work with a smile.

 

[Jadak]

The guy in your example wasn't annoyed because you found him attractive, he was annoyed because you were overstepping your boundaries (fat people are not allowed to feel sexual attraction).

I really hope you're being facetious there. Otherwise you're missing out on a lot of great sex.

He more than likely is joking, but you are rather wrong. The 'sex with fat people is great' thing is only said or believed by either a) fat people or b) people who happen to have a fetish for or are otherwise attracted to fat people more so than others.

I am neither, but have had sex with both fat and non fat, and while a slightly heavy girl who's not at an unhealthy level of fatness can perform on par with anyone else, it gets worse the fatter they are and there is nothing about fat sex that puts it above that of a fit person. The increased endurance and mobility of someone in good shape makes all the difference. Plus, all the fat can, quite simply, get in the way or the holes in many positions and it's a pain.

 

[chinangel]

terror. I'm a transgirl, and despite passing i've never been hit on. ever. i'm 28 and never even been flirted with. :/

 

[Schadrach]

I'll let you know when, or if, it ever happens.

 

[Silvanus]

It's happened twice to me, that I was aware of.

The first time, I passed a fella, and turned to check him out-- to see that he'd done the same thing at the same time. We passed a quick smile and continued on our ways. I met him again briefly later, but fucked it up and didn't make a move.

I'd consider it a great compliment, regardless of who the attention was coming from.

 

[Glongpre]

I have been, I think, but didn't realize it at the time. Anyway, I could care less, and that is probably why I didn't realize it at the time.

 

[bandman232]

My response would be general confusion and disbelief.

 

[rbstewart7263]

So I was just out grocery shopping when at the deli counter I ended up waiting my turn behind two rather attractive men. Being a woman with a pulse, I checked them out.

A few isles later I ran into one. I gave him a once over again which he obviously noted, and he laughed. Not an awkward "Oh, she's checking me out, what do I do?" laugh or a "I'm flattered" laugh, but a derisive snort that said "Who does she think she is?". Just because I'm fat doesn't mean I can't find men attractive and make it known.

I was rather annoyed. Why be annoyed that someone finds you attractive? It's not like I grabbed his shirt and begged him to date me or sleep with me, I was just enjoying looking at him with no expectations whatsoever.

The other guy had given me a nice, warm smile and went on his way. He got it.

If I get hit on or checked out I usually just say thank you and that's that. If I even realise that's what's happening, as it's rather rare for me to be hit on.

So how do you guys handle situations like that?

I usually stay away from the strong opinion crowd but those guys are retards. I would have been flattered myself.

 

[Zoe Castillo]

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[Seydaman]

I have never had this happen. Or at least I've never noticed it.

I'd probably be really awkward and distressed.

 

[Cloake]

Well, I've never been overtly hit on by a girl ..... I might casually mention my fiancee so she doesn't get the wrong idea.

How did you manage to be fianceed then? Lol?

Online dating FTW