Interesting. As a middle-aged guy I appreciate any checking-out or flirtation that comes my way, partially because I'm hyper aware that I'm not as young and sexy as I was when I was in my mid-to-late twenties, which seems to be the age range when everyone wants to fuck everybody. Granted, when I was in my late teens, every guy on Castro wanted my succulent flesh, and it was kinda creepy. So it goes. It's been a long time since someone's actually
hit on me per se; I get invited to the occasional outing or cafe hang or whatever, which is a half-way point.
According to one of my best friends, far more women than I am aware are checking me out. Possibly because they're fairly discreet, possibly because I'm just not that observant. Similarly, when I'm checking out someone significantly younger than I am, I tend to be restrained about it, as to not creep anyone out.
Miyenne (OP) said:
Just because I'm fat doesn't mean I can't find men attractive and make it known...
EeveeElectro said:
I still can't believe anyone would seriously find a fat troll like me attractive...
Considering that I have close friends with body dysmorphia I feel compelled to make disclaimers when I see comments such as these. Human beings are attracted to health. Unless you are so heavy as to be (or appear) in morbid danger of diabetes or a coronary, you're attractive enough to get checked out (and not just by fat fetishists). Unless you have some very evident physical problems (missing an eye, an untreated soft palette, severe eczema, burn scars, rotting flesh) you're not hideous enough to be out of the dating pool. Granted, your odds are going to improve if you're well groomed. Granted also, our society and media has taught us that women are supposed to look like playboy playmates (and men are supposed to be metrosexual and wealthy enough, by assets or employment, to be a family provider) but anyone who can't get past stereotypes isn't worth the effort anyway. Human beings are not as attractive as Hollywood actors.
Of course, if you're a total jackass and treat everyone around you with contempt (or angry all the time, or constantly grieving, or have no empathy for others, or trying to sell people on your pyramid scheme) then yeah, no matter how pretty you are, no one is going to want to date you. That's a matter of being antisocial. I've encountered model-material knockouts who had no love life because no-one around them could tolerate them for ten minutes.
shootthebandit said:
As a straight man if you hit on me and you had a 1968 corvette stingray id drop my pants
Careful what you promise. I'm sure there are a few gentlemen in these parts (San Francisco) that do have a 60s era Stingray and would
love to show a straight man the joys of not-so-straight love.
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