How do you react to being hit on/checked out?

[Stasisesque]

It depends on whether or not I find the person hitting on me attractive. The more attractive they are to me, the more nervous I become. I try desperately to play it cool, and sometimes I'll even manage to flirt back, but the majority of the time I will giggle like an idiot. This naturally turns the person hitting on me off, because I have demonstrated I have the characteristics of a schoolgirl, and then I get a little depressed.

If, however, I do not find the person attractive, one of two things will happen. I will either feel flattered and comfortable enough to flirt back for fun, or I'll panic and desperately try to dig my way out of the situation. I've been hit on in bars and had to leave because I simply couldn't face the guy.

 

[James Crook]

Really, I wouldn't know... I'm so dense light bends around me.
Also, I don't have a pulse. But I have a pulse rifle! *PEW PEW*

 

[rosac]

RED ALERT!

SHIELDS UP!


I can honestly say i would not expect it, so i would probably activate defensive mode and run away like a startled deer.



Captcha: "Which does a vegetarian eat?" No joke, a Kitten is an option

Yeppp, my rival (Its a uni sports team thing) started flirting with me, we got together when drunk and then she kept flirting with me. Only I'm REALLY awkward about this stuff when sober. It's horrible. Now that I've gotten over that and what to return the interest, I've taken too long and she's moved on. Go me.

 

[Berithil]

Quite honestly, it feels a little weird. Probably due to the fact that growing up, I never even considered myself to be an "good-looking guy", so when I hit a certain age and girls started flirting with me and finding me attractive, I felt a little uncomfortable because it was something completely foreign to me. Well, that is, when I finally understood that girls were hitting on me. I'm so socially obtuse that it took a couple years of girls chatting me up, me just being friendly, then someone comes over to me to tell me that said person was flirting for me to understand that many girls who randomly approach me to talk aren't just being friendly...[footnote]I apologize for the run-on sentence...[/footnote]

Also, considering many girls who crush on me are significantly younger than I am, it does get a little awkward. Don't get me wrong, I'm flattered, but working at a camp and having a bunch of middle school girls swooning over me because I "look like David Tennant" is a bit... uncomfortable (that actually happened two weeks ago).

However, all in all, I've learned just to take it as a compliment, regardless of who it's from.

Yes, I've been hit on and told that I'm a good looking guy so many times that I've almost started believing it

 

[Simple Bluff]

I'm a decent looking fellow (when I try), and well built. A bit thin perhaps, but I'm fit as fuck. However, I'm very short (and no, not in that way) and that's pretty much the worst thing you can be when trying to impress the ladies. They hate shorties.

Anyhow, I'm only saying this to point out that girls don't hit on me all that often (in a serious way, at least - I seem to draw a lot of friendly flirting, for whatever reason) but they'll still consider me attractive, so I'm alright so long as I'm the one taking the initiative. Something that took me until my late teens to figure out, but hey.

The only time it has happened in recent memory, and I was delighted. Chatting up girls (read: pretending you're funny and interesting) is tough. I saw it as having my job done for me. I pretty much just invited her to my room and that was that.

 

[Miss G.]

If it sounds genuine I'm too introverted IRL to say more than 'Thank you' if even that, if its not, I go about my business.

 

[Tsun Tzu]

My normal response is to blush, avoid eye contact, and laugh like a giddy nervous school girl.

...Said response may be a good indicator as to my track record with the opposite sex.

 

[funkyjiveturkey]

Being the gangly awkward kid no woman would talk to in high school, i'm both flattered and put off at the same time. I'm flattered because i never really considered myself attractive to the opposite sex, and frankly i love the attention. But at the same time i'm in a committed relationship with a woman i would never dream of leaving or cheating on, we've been together a long time so whenever i mentioned that to a girl who's hitting on me and they continue, that lowers my overall opinion of them and just makes me want to not talk to them at all.

like i say, i like the attention, but that's all.

 

[Flight]

I don't particularly like being hit on or stared at by perfect strangers, so frankly when someone I don't know hits on me I tend to roll my eyes, react with amused scorn, or glare. When someone I do know hits on me, I give them an odd look and ignore it, being uninterested in sex or relationships.

 

[BakaSmurf]

My normal reaction is to not react, allegedly I've been hit on multiple times in the past yet am so dense I completely failed to notice. A shame really, some one expressing interest in me would be really quite good for my self-esteem.

 

[Flight]

I wasn't staring at him with my mouth hanging open or anything either, just the cocked head and silly smile I get when I let my imagination wander for a second. I suppose someone could possibly find it offensive, but I seriously doubt I'm creepy. I'm too cute for that.

One is never "too cute" to be creepy. It doesn't matter how attractive one is or isn't, different people have different comfort zones.

 

[Ungenericteen]

I demand proof, and/or walk away and turtle up. This comes from a paranoid idea that anyone hitting on me is actually a setup for some awful prank, because the last time I believed it I was pranked.
When guys hit on me I tend to either laugh it off, or ignore it.
The social skills of a mollusk

 

[VondeVon]

From a stranger it would creep me out.

It was rude of him to act like 'in your dreams' but then it was also rude of you to visibly perv on him. Even stevens.

 

[BleedingPride]

I feel flattered most of the time, my self confidence is rather low due to three years of being put down by a girl that I had this amorous obsession with.

 

[Godhead]

I'm always grateful for whatever attention I can get.

I love you.

OT: Run away like a frightened platypus. Those feminist demons are obviously trying to steal my sexual appeal and then convert it into some kind of feminist energy to rule over the world.

 

[Chromatic Aberration]

Apparently I can be charming enough to make up for my average looks which led to me being "checked out" by four women in the last three years....despite me never actively looking for anything, me giving two shits about sex or me never going to the usual places people use for that kind of stuff. It just turns out my genuine interest in what they have to say seems to be mistaken as "interest" in some regards or they were too desperate.

Either way, every time the situation did not lend itself easily to a conclusion due to situational factors nor could I bring myself to be interested in pursuing something more. Because, well, I was never really attracted to someone in particular and I'm really fucked up when it comes to sexual interests or emotional bonds. So at the very end of the day, I react with confusion because I simply do not know what to make of it and supposedly send something that people would call "mixed signals" or somesuch which makes things remarkably awkward in the long run. Also factor in that I'am pretty bad at spotting those instances, too so the aforementioned four were....errr....pretty obvious examples and I'm also a generally very awkward person in many instances too....

Or in other words: hilarity for everyone else ensues.

Now something else I felt the need to comment on,

The few times women hit on me I felt overwhelmed with pity for them. And as Jim Jeffries said, "There's nothing worse you can give anyone in this world than pity."

That's the worse inhuman lines I've ever heard in my life. Do you even know the definition of pity?

From what I know, Fizzy isn't really the type of person you make him out to be and, well, what he meant with that sentence can be read in a wholly different way. Might want to cut him some slack is what I'm saying.

 

[FurinKazanNZ]

I wish I knew ;_;

I'd probably get confused and frightened and just ignore it. That or convince myself that I'm mistaken, or maybe that they just think I look funny, or that they aren't being serious and are just goofing around in front of friends.

 

[LetalisK]

I'd start hip thrusting and doing the monkey. *swings arms* Hey baby!

 

[Smeatza]

That's the worse inhuman lines I've ever heard in my life. Do you even know the definition of pity?

You ever seen Jim Jeffries do stand up?
I'd recommend checking him out, particularly the bit in question, before judging.
I think you've misinterpreted.

OT:
With suspicion.
"What are they trying to steal from me" I might think.

 

[joshuaayt]

Freeze up, and hope to GOD they don't approach me. Why? I already know how it'll go.
They'll be all

"Hey, man, I'm from the Kuiper Belt, would you be adverse to some exploratory probing? For science, of course."

And I'd just, I'd have no idea what to say to that. No, I like to play it safe.