Yeah. It means that you are openly trying to insult the other person. Sexuality doesn't actually matter, it is simply an insult. Well, where I come from anyway. Wonderful way of starting a slugging match in the middle of the street.
It depends on context. Asking someone you know well is fine, so long is its done tactfully. Asking someone you've just met in a social situation... well that can easily cause offence even if only because its a very personal question to be asking a stranger, but also because the person asking is often homophobic - I'm not saying asking makes you homophobic, its just often homophobic people who pop that question socially.CrimsonBlaze said:So I've been working on this piece about homosexual relationships and have come across a question many times with no definitive answer:
Is asking someone, "Are you gay?" offensive?
Now, I am referring to their sexual orientation and not at all meant to be an insult. It is merely a personal question about someone that I genuinely want to know without sounding like a jerk.
I believe that it is not offensive because it is question about an individual and not at all an insult. It would be no different if I asked someone if they liked knitting, liked some obscure sport that is not popularized in media, wrote poetry, or had a particular profession. I'm not saying that I'm going to go out and ask everyone I see about their sexual orientation. However, there are many openly gay people in the world and many of us are 'familiar' with certain mannerism and behaviors that it often time places that thought into our heads.
Personally, I would want to know if a girl I'm dating is gay so that I would know where this relationship was going (believe me, it would have saved me some time in past incidents).
So, fellow escapists, share your thoughts and please, let's be civil.
Context, context ALWAYS matters.CrimsonBlaze said:So I've been working on this piece about homosexual relationships and have come across a question many times with no definitive answer:
Is asking someone, "Are you gay?" offensive?
Now, I am referring to their sexual orientation and not at all meant to be an insult. It is merely a personal question about someone that I genuinely want to know without sounding like a jerk.
I believe that it is not offensive because it is question about an individual and not at all an insult. It would be no different if I asked someone if they liked knitting, liked some obscure sport that is not popularized in media, wrote poetry, or had a particular profession. I'm not saying that I'm going to go out and ask everyone I see about their sexual orientation. However, there are many openly gay people in the world and many of us are 'familiar' with certain mannerism and behaviors that it often time places that thought into our heads.
Personally, I would want to know if a girl I'm dating is gay so that I would know where this relationship was going (believe me, it would have saved me some time in past incidents).
So, fellow escapists, share your thoughts and please, let's be civil.
This (wo?)man has it down straight.marcogodinho said:It would not offend me. But as with most things, context (and tone) is everything.