Is the question, "Are you gay?" offensive?
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Toar said:
.....GOD DAMN DUDE!! Could you get any more abysmal with that post?
Seriously after reading that I just wanna go and have a drink now.
Btw that way of thinking isn't all that accurate. If she asks you if you're gay or not just tell her the honest truth. Damn man it shouldn't be offensive, whether you are or not.
I'm fruity as all Hell, but I don't take offense when people ask me if I'm gay. I simply tell them I'm metrosexual.
I mean big whoop if I have more hair-care products than most straight and gay guys?
So what if I know alot about make-up and fashion?
I still like women and if anything it works towards my advantage. They become a bit more open towards me
.Seriously dude, you might want to think over what you said. Because in all honesty what you just posted sounds quite offensive to some. Here's a rule in life.
Don't wear your emotions on your sleeves all the time. Whether you be gay straight or even metro or bi, take some pride in yourself and be willing to correct others nicely if they are under the assumption that you're something you're not.
[HEADING=2]Now cheer up and have a Smile[/HEADING]
Pansexual basically meaning Gender-Blind in attraction.Zeren said:
Isn't that just another term for Bi-Sexual!?!? Like as in Politically Correct Terms?
Or is there something I'm missing, like having a Sex with a Toaster or what not?
My response would simple be this and this alone hehehehe
[HEADING=1]"Mmmmm Care to find out?"[/HEADING]
[HEADING=2]*Bites Lip and unbuttons shirt*
Watch the Homophobes jump back in fear of my Metrosexuality! MWAHAHAAHAHA[/HEADING]
[HEADING=1]"Mmmmm Care to find out?"[/HEADING]
[HEADING=2]*Bites Lip and unbuttons shirt*
Watch the Homophobes jump back in fear of my Metrosexuality! MWAHAHAAHAHA[/HEADING]
If someone is offended by that question, it is highly likely that they are either homophobic or a closeted homosexual themselves.
It may help to phrase the question "What is your sexual preference?" rather than "are you gay?"
It may help to phrase the question "What is your sexual preference?" rather than "are you gay?"
Provided your not taking the piss, its a legit question, could stop all kinds of problems further down the road.
You just want to know something about someone, if thats offensive then asking anything about anyone could be seen as offensive.
You just want to know something about someone, if thats offensive then asking anything about anyone could be seen as offensive.
The question itself is not offensive. How, why, and when you ask it determines that. However, it is a personal question, and despite what a lot people seem to think, some people don't like answering personal questions in every situation, and you should use some judgement on whether or not it is okay to ask.
It can be an insult like this...GamerKT said:
"I like that color, it's pretty."
"What are you, GAY?!"
The honest question version goes like this...
"I was wondering, are you gay?"
"Why no. No I am not. I happen to be straight"
Very big difference in intentionality here.
No. Not an insult unless you're a homophobe, or think being gay would be worthy of insulting.Harry Mason said:
It'd be like some similar situation and someone saying "What are you, black??"
"...No."
I'm not a racist, so I don't give a shit if someone (intentionally or otherwise) gets my race wrong. I'm not a homophobe, either, so I really don't care if someone gets my sexual orientation wrong. Unless you have some other problems, it is not an insult. If so, for some magical reason, explain how. For real.
It's not that offensive. However if the person being asked was straight, they would be pissed probably. Kind of like how if a fat woman is asked if she is pregnant when she is in fact not.
Really it all depends on who is being asked and whether they consider it offensive... Usually if they say no the it usually is considered though.
Really it all depends on who is being asked and whether they consider it offensive... Usually if they say no the it usually is considered though.
Call me Mr. Original here, but i think it really all hinges on "how" you ask and not "what" you ask.
Firstly, it's kind of a personal question.
Secondly, assumptions do more harm than good.
I've been in similar situations (both wondering if somebody is gay and being asked if I'm gay...but this is high-school we're talking about) and it will always be a slippery slope. Oh sure it's a perfectly reasonable thing to ask, but it's almost never pulled off in a mature manner, more in a "WHAT THE FUCK, ARE YOU GAY OR SOMETHING?" way.
Secondly, assumptions do more harm than good.
I've been in similar situations (both wondering if somebody is gay and being asked if I'm gay...but this is high-school we're talking about) and it will always be a slippery slope. Oh sure it's a perfectly reasonable thing to ask, but it's almost never pulled off in a mature manner, more in a "WHAT THE FUCK, ARE YOU GAY OR SOMETHING?" way.
