I don't know any girls that I could honestly call a close friend. Not for a lack of socialization - I go out plenty of times, and I make new guy friends all the time. But when going to more nerd-centered meetups, it swings hard on the male side of things, and generally any females there already have boyfriends.
And...that's the problem. I'm a single guy. If I meet a girl who is cute, interesting, and likes the same dorky things I do, why wouldn't I be attracted to her? But if she has a boyfriend, then I don't want to be that "nice guy" that hangs around her all the time hoping she'll come over to me. As a result, I spend more time talking to guys, just because I know it'll be less awkward for me.
It's not like I shun girls. If a friend has a girlfriend, I'll treat her just like one of the guys. But I never seem to have meaningful interactions with members of the opposite sex. Is this mentality halting chances of meeting girls, or is it helping me avoid harsher problems?
And...that's the problem. I'm a single guy. If I meet a girl who is cute, interesting, and likes the same dorky things I do, why wouldn't I be attracted to her? But if she has a boyfriend, then I don't want to be that "nice guy" that hangs around her all the time hoping she'll come over to me. As a result, I spend more time talking to guys, just because I know it'll be less awkward for me.
It's not like I shun girls. If a friend has a girlfriend, I'll treat her just like one of the guys. But I never seem to have meaningful interactions with members of the opposite sex. Is this mentality halting chances of meeting girls, or is it helping me avoid harsher problems?