is this romantic or creepy?

[Ambi]

Flirt with her a bit, get to know her well, make sure she likes you first, then show her.

 

[Angerwing]

As a general rule of thumb:

"If you're in doubt, it's most likely creepy"

Yeah, that's pretty much what I was going to say. If you have to ask, the answer is "creepy".

 

[MelasZepheos_v1legacy]

Give her the song, but don't suggest you play it. Let her here it and see it, and be honest with her if she asks you if it's about her.

Whatever happens you don't want to have her realise as it's being played.

It's not creepy, it's not exactly romantic either, but it's definitely not creepy. Creppy would be performing it for her or with her without her knowledge of it beforehand.

 

[Scars Unseen]

Well as long as the lyrics don't play out like NiN's "Closer..."

 

[antipunt]

Movies =/= real life.

Actually, it might even be movies = -(real life)

Or Movies + real life = 0

you get the idea

 

[s0p0g]

how long do you know her?
because if she talked to you for only a week or so, a) you don't really know her, so your current feelings are based on... what exactly? and b) ... well, b) depends on what kind or person she is. but in general i think musicians are more open to "different" stuff than others (as far as i can tell from the people who i know)

if you know each other for (a little) longer, hell, why not do it? what's the point in writing a song for someone and then not play it? also, some people here said, try the "normal" non-awkward way... you are musicians, right? so nothing awkward about expressing stuff via music, right? i mean, you guys write your own stuff, so you are not "only" a coverband, but want to do something original, tell the people about what you think about... well, whatever your music is about. or am i mistaken there?

or as Pablo Francisco put it: "Yo man! Is that yo girl? Go for it, man, go for it!"
best of luck for whatever you should choose to do!

also, post no. 84

 

[godfist88]

why don't you start by saying you like her first then see where it goes from there? because love is a pretty strong word, and if said too soon might give off the wrong impression.

 

[Trolldor]

So theres this girl I like. She wanted to start a band and I'm the only drummer she knows, because of that I'm in the band and I also was asked to write a song because I also happen to be good at that.
I then wrote a song describing my feelings for her, I would like to ask the people of the escapist if it would be wierd if I suggest we play that song during the next band meeting.

I didn't go so far as to use her name in the song, but everyone who sees the lyrics will figure it out.

so should I give her the song or not?

edit: nobody has yet to see the song so I don't have to bring it up if it's a bad idea

and the band is only starting to form really. right now it's just her on guitar, me on drums and possibly one of my friends on bass. if this doesn't work than it won't really disrupt the band.

Unless you're like... 12, this isn't going to go down well at all.
At best she'll think it's cute.

Let me tell you something about the wimminz - most like an honest and simple approach. Just ask her out to dinner. If she asks whether you mean on a date, respond with a simple 'yeah'.
Don't use one-liners, don't write songs or poetry, don't proclaim your love to the heavens.

And for fuck's sake, don't wait.
Don't wait for the right time, there's never a right time. Don't wait till she's alone, don't be afraid to ask her out in front of other people.

 

[similar.squirrel]

You're not in an indie film. Ask the girl using words and save everybody the embarrassment. Trust me, a friend of mine had a phase where he fancied himself as a singer-songwriter and wrote songs for a girl he was playing guitar with. It made me cringe, and he did not succeed.

 

[MikeBrownYo]

I should elaborate. I know at first it's hard to go up to a girl and be like "Yo, I dig you. Wanna hang out sometime?" or whatever. But it's not going to get easier as you get older, so you may as well confront it now and move past it rather than be a lonely 40-something who didn't have the balls to approach any girls growing up.

The exact situation I'll be in in about 16 years time then...

I'm gonna side with all those saying just broach the subject normally, but then I'm really not someone who should be giving advice on this sort of thing.

I don't want to get too off topic here, but what is it about girls that makes them difficult to approach for you?

I was TERRIFIED of girls until I was like 14, and now I just go for it. Sometimes things worked out, sometimes they blew up in my face. All in all, I don't regret chasing any of them.

Total lack of self confidence coupled with a very negative view of myself (so basically, self esteem issues). Basically it's the same reasons I suck at socialising in general, even on the internet.

My current record is two false starts, both of which turned into disasters in less than a month each (the biggest problem there being not the fact I was rejected, but what I did to myself mentally afterwards), and another girl I really liked that I used to work with for a few years who I never had the courage to ask out, though given one of the lads she went out with, twice, I'm not convinced it would have worked out anyway.

Dog, you shouldn't do that to yourself. I've never met you, but I am sure you are a rad dude and if you had some confidence, you would SLAY ladies. And even if a few blow up in your face, then they suck and aren't worth your time. I'm so bummed to hear you are doing that to yourself.

If you ever want someone to talk to about girls/yourself, shoot me a PM. For real.

 

[Black Phoenix]

I should elaborate. I know at first it's hard to go up to a girl and be like "Yo, I dig you. Wanna hang out sometime?" or whatever. But it's not going to get easier as you get older, so you may as well confront it now and move past it rather than be a lonely 40-something who didn't have the balls to approach any girls growing up.

The exact situation I'll be in in about 16 years time then...

I'm gonna side with all those saying just broach the subject normally, but then I'm really not someone who should be giving advice on this sort of thing.

I don't want to get too off topic here, but what is it about girls that makes them difficult to approach for you?

I was TERRIFIED of girls until I was like 14, and now I just go for it. Sometimes things worked out, sometimes they blew up in my face. All in all, I don't regret chasing any of them.

Thanks for the offer, I'll keep it in mind

Total lack of self confidence coupled with a very negative view of myself (so basically, self esteem issues). Basically it's the same reasons I suck at socialising in general, even on the internet.

My current record is two false starts, both of which turned into disasters in less than a month each (the biggest problem there being not the fact I was rejected, but what I did to myself mentally afterwards), and another girl I really liked that I used to work with for a few years who I never had the courage to ask out, though given one of the lads she went out with, twice, I'm not convinced it would have worked out anyway.

Dog, you shouldn't do that to yourself. I've never met you, but I am sure you are a rad dude and if you had some confidence, you would SLAY ladies. And even if a few blow up in your face, then they suck and aren't worth your time. I'm so bummed to hear you are doing that to yourself.

If you ever want someone to talk to about girls/yourself, shoot me a PM. For real.

Thanks, I'll keep that in mind

 

[Maibus]

I've got an idea, write an opera.

 

[Latinidiot]

It's only romantic if it's a serenade sung to her balcony.

 

[ShyBunny]

Bah! band culture, all about lyrics to you lot isnt it? I guess it would work if youre both into that sort of thing, go get her tiger!

 

[geier]

She's not interested in you. She only needs you as a drummer, you are only a tool for her.

Don't get to exited about the band and that, you only get your heart broken and will be dissapointes.

 

[HardkorSB]

I would start in the normal way and if all goes well, after a few dates, bring out the song.